shadow15 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Its been over a month now since my break up, and im just wondering what do others do with all the pictures you have with a person after so many years on facebook and all that stuff. I even looked at my exs facebook and she still has all the photos of us as well, is it just to keep them on there to show who you were back in that relationship during that time in your life? Im new to this whole breaking up thing, first real break up for both of us actually, so i dont know how to go about this and im just wondering what should you do in those situations.
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 It's a personal decision. I'm the type who needs to wipe it all away in order to heal. I got rid of every reminder (photos, emails, letters etc), and it's helping me to move on.
Nik1 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I've kept all mine just in case the opportunity for emotional blackmail should come about (also got some naughty pictures for your average run-of-the-mill blackmail).
shayla Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Trashed most of it,sold the rest. I had planned on keeping a heart necklace he gave me until I saw a picture of the other woman wearing the same necklace on their wedding day. I don't need any reminders of how badly he treated me.
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Trashed most of it,sold the rest. I had planned on keeping a heart necklace he gave me until I saw a picture of the other woman wearing the same necklace on their wedding day. I don't need any reminders of how badly he treated me. I got rid of jewellery too, all the reminders had to go.
Llakdknek Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I would use the Stalin method of photo manipulation.
puzzled1 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I would save the photos in a folder, put it on flash drive it put it away. You are only allowed to see them once you are healed.
indiff Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Its been over a month now since my break up, and im just wondering what do others do with all the pictures you have with a person after so many years on facebook and all that stuff. I even looked at my exs facebook and she still has all the photos of us as well, is it just to keep them on there to show who you were back in that relationship during that time in your life? Im new to this whole breaking up thing, first real break up for both of us actually, so i dont know how to go about this and im just wondering what should you do in those situations. Chuck that **** man. keep nothing. do not give her any value. it should mean nothing to you, so why keep it?
sissy106 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 If u are too attached to ur memories and still want to get over ur breakup...do what I did. I cut or cropped all pics, coz those were 7 years old memories, and I was looking cute young gal in all those pics, so I kept me in those pics and cut him out of it. So now whenever I look at those pics I do remember the wonderfull time I spent but atleast I dont get sad lookin at his face coz its not there anymore )
Jamesblame Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I save them because I like to look at them once I'm over them down the line. Now at the time of the painful split, I totally ignore them. Honestly, after a couple months...the photos you have won't look like your ex. Most of us who are separated drastically change either our appearance, style, flaws, etc. I know when my ex was around she was a beautiful sweet looking girl. And now she's a more fit/harder looking woman. Still pretty (never going to forget how awesome it was to date an hourglass girl), but not the same. In our pictures I was always the frumpy looking lean dude. Now I look like a hipster and go climbing all the time, lol. So your photos are of a good time that is now gone. I keep them because eventually it doesn't hurt/cause conflict to see them.
21flames Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I agree, Keep them but put them out of sight and mind, how ever bad the relationship was, there where good times and it will be nice in time when you are over them to look back at them or if they mean nothing at that point then get rid. I think it's a bit rash to do it straight away, you may regret in the future. But everyone is different.
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Delete/Trash/Burn Depending on the relationship or how it ended, but if you have feelings get rid of it. That relationship is dead! If you reconcile, you start new, new relationship new memories.
sissy106 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Haha, just today while cleaning up my stuff I found some stuff where my ex have written some notes for me to study during our college times, we were together for 6 years and split last year. Those notes were 5 years old, and I have kept them as memories some time back and have forgotten since then. Today after replying on this post I found all those things. I was surely gone back in time when we were together and now I am feeling miserable since then, so thought of sharing it with u. My explanation for cutting him out of our pics is clear, I am too much weak emotionally, and I could not have moved on if I had all those things with me. So, if any person is like me (not stromg enough) should not possess these things, but if u are strong u can keep them.
KatZee Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 For me personally-- everything on Facebook was deleted from my account. If he had a photo of me up, I detagged myself. In my apartment I cut up and threw out any physical photo I had. I threw out trinkets, gifts, s.hit that reminded me of him, of things we did together. I believe the only photos I DIDN'T throw out were the professional ones taken of us on a cruise we went on. I paid f.ucking $50 for those things, hell if I'd cut those up. Those are just in a folder somewhere. We were actually in Cosmopolitan magazine as well, and I can't bring myself to throw my extra copies of that one out either. I think that was pretty awesome.
Minadee Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I have kept all of mine, all the letters, all the necklaces, gifts, scrapbooks, I still sleep with the little soft toy he got me. He has still got all the photos of me on facebook. I hope within time he'll come back to me but if he doesnt then the items I mentioned above are memories of happier times, and they make me smile to see them. I will always treasure them even if I do have to move on. But thats just me!
Ascendingspark Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I've always thrown most away and kept a few reminders well hidden. When you're long over it you will come across them one day and be ok with it. You may smile, or wonder wtf was I thinking, or even throw them away then.
Sokar23 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I personally got rid of all the pictures, love notes. clothes she had brought me, my brain is giving me enough reminders of the pain without having anything else do it. I even found a picture of my family with her in it from Christmas that my mum has kept and as soon as she goes to work my ex is getting cut out of the picture
dreamstate83 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I keep them around so that even if I don't want to I'm forced to face the breakup head on. I have issues with sidestepping the coping process, and this is my way of forcing it. Now I can look at the pictures of my ex and just shrug and say *Well, that's too bad. Too bad that someone else is going to replace her one day!*
Ascendingspark Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I personally got rid of all the pictures, love notes. clothes she had brought me, my brain is giving me enough reminders of the pain without having anything else do it. I even found a picture of my family with her in it from Christmas that my mum has kept and as soon as she goes to work my ex is getting cut out of the picture Funny I just noticed on my fridge a family picture at a wedding from a few months ago. noticed her next to me and folded her out and stuck it back on the fridge.
Sokar23 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Funny I just noticed on my fridge a family picture at a wedding from a few months ago. noticed her next to me and folded her out and stuck it back on the fridge. Hmm folding it possibly a good idea I will take it into consideration
todreaminblue Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Its been over a month now since my break up, and im just wondering what do others do with all the pictures you have with a person after so many years on facebook and all that stuff. I even looked at my exs facebook and she still has all the photos of us as well, is it just to keep them on there to show who you were back in that relationship during that time in your life? Im new to this whole breaking up thing, first real break up for both of us actually, so i dont know how to go about this and im just wondering what should you do in those situations. I think its a personal thing, I keep photos to remind me and my children of times we had fun together, adn they need photos o fmy exes, i dont look at them really and when my kids get photos with my ex i dont want to see my ex or his new partner really but i keep them.......ok i admit to drawing moustaches and beards on them sometimes.......ill be honest..but i keep the good ones for my kids.......havent got a photo albumn put together, they are all over the place one day ill get organised and will give them to my oldest daughter to manage...i am not huge photo get my picture taken person so i dont have photos of my ex and me together...i was normally the one behind the camera..which i am actually happy about..deb
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