Mrlonelyone Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 My standards do not take gender or sex or race into account. You could call me pansexual. But I do need a few things. Not overweight or obese (which rules out about 60% of Americans)Educated, well read, artistically/scientifically creative, or in some other way demonstrably intelligent. Of a reasonable age, say, my age +/- 10 years. Open to a relationship that might appear to be LGBT depending on ones definitions. There are about 800,000 people who meet all those standards in the USA. The question is meeting one who's single and having everything else work out.
Jane2011 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 My standards are very high, but certainly not the ridiculously exaggerated way that people talk about on here (i.e. "must be 6'2", must have an MBA, must be alpha male confident, must have perfect white teeth, must make over $70,000 a year, must play five different musical instruments, must speak four languages fluently). I just mean, I have certain things I want, and a lot of men don't fit it. They may be great to other women, but there's a certain type that I want. In the past twelve months, two guys have fit pretty perfectly the kind of guy I want to be with. That would be the guy I dated last year in November and December, and the one I'm with now. They both meet my standards. Smart, good-looking, good personality, etc. I'm sure several other guys in the past twelve months would have met my standards as well, but those were the only two I had an opportunity with. I don't think my standards are too high at all. He need not be buff, he need not make a lot of money. My "high standards" are more about intellect and personality, and looks too, I'll grant, than they are about money-making, job, or being this alpha male person.
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I think I have pretty reasonable standards, and I'm not talking just physical. Physical is important, he needs to be healthy and active, because I am and I want a compatible relationship. My highest standard is non-tangible though, it's healthy and mature communication. I've only recently started dating again, this year, and I've found there are lots of guys that I'm attracted to, but so far, nothing has worked because the communication was lacking...so this makes finding someone difficult for me...but it's a standard I refuse to lower.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I would add one more thing to my list. Open to a relationship that might appear to be interracial depending on ones definitions. There are about 700,000 people who meet all those standards in the USA. Considering I am only ever going to have less than 1% of that many relationships my standards aren't too high at all.
iris219 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 No there is a lot of hate. People seem to think that men who have trouble should go after anyone that walks on two legs and has a vagina. These guys might want to consider dating someone they don't initially consider attractive. You may find you really like that overweight woman once you get to know her, and once you like her, you'll start to find her attractive.
somedude81 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 These guys might want to consider dating someone they don't initially consider attractive. You may find you really like that overweight woman once you get to know her, and once you like her, you'll start to find her attractive. Hey iris, you haven't dated anybody in a while right and you are worried that you are never going to have kids? Why not go out with a guy that's not attractive to you and doesn't meet any of your requirements and maybe you'll start to like him? 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 These guys might want to consider dating someone they don't initially consider attractive. You may find you really like that overweight woman once you get to know her, and once you like her, you'll start to find her attractive. I will agree with you. One can't be so rigid about a checklist like mine. It's not like I weigh people up and say oh your BMI is 25.1 your out. I have known and loved some heavier people. The reason to not want an obese or overweight partner is if you consider the long run(s). At my age +/-10 people are only going to get older and generally fatter. Which is ok. If one is already overweight and prediabetic now what problems will they have in ten or twenty more years (or sooner). Then there is the fact that I enjoy outdoor activities, gardnening, cycling, running, swimming etc. Someone who's totally sedentary just isn't going to keep up. 1
Under The Radar Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Funny enough, I remember the old "In Living Color" episode where Jamie Foxx, dressed up as a woman, went on a blind date with Tommy Davidson's character. A female friend made a comment about beauty being on the inside. Davidson's response: Well, somebody better flip her ugly ass inside out! 5
threebyfate Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 As someone who had a laundry list of standards, where whenever standards were ignored paid the price for doing so (my stupidity), I strongly encourage people not to settle. The impact of having a laundry list, is that your dating pool shrinks. As long as you're patient about it and don't whine, it's all good. But when people whine endlessly, where they've filtered out the majority of dating pool options, it's incredibly annoying. Instead of looking at your standards as high/low, win/lose or succeed/fail, if you're a relationship style person, consider if you can happily live with this person for the rest of your life. If not, you've settled and will pay the price sooner or later. 2
iris219 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Hey iris, you haven't dated anybody in a while right and you are worried that you are never going to have kids? Why not go out with a guy that's not attractive to you and doesn't meet any of your requirements and maybe you'll start to like him? Uh, my friends voted me most likely to date a homeless guy. My standards are so low it's funny (almost). I would definitely go out with a guy I wasn't attracted to. I assume that I will end up with a man like this. The last guy I dated, many months ago, was an average looking drug addict. I will go out with any man who's age appropriate and not likely to be a serial killer. Now let's see you lower your standards that much!
Under The Radar Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Uh, my friends voted me most likely to date a homeless guy. My standards are so low it's funny (almost). I would definitely go out with a guy I wasn't attracted to. I assume that I will end up with a man like this. The last guy I dated, many months ago, was an average looking drug addict. I will go out with any man who's age appropriate and not likely to be a serial killer. Now let's see you lower your standards that much! Uh, those ARE some pretty low standards. It can't possibly be that bad wherever you live. Might I suggest raising the bar just a tad
iris219 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Uh, those ARE some pretty low standards. It can't possibly be that bad wherever you live. Might I suggest raising the bar just a tad Oh, it's bad. I've haven't met a single man in months. That's why I will go out with any age appropriate, single man I meet. I only meet a couple a year. I wish I could raise my standards a bit, but then I'd never date. I have female friends here who have been single for years, one for over 10 years. There are men here whose holey t-shirts barely cover their beer bellies, and they have cute GFs. It's great for guys here.
MrCastle Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Oh, it's bad. I've haven't met a single man in months. That's why I will go out with any age appropriate, single man I meet. I only meet a couple a year. I wish I could raise my standards a bit, but then I'd never date. I have female friends here who have been single for years, one for over 10 years. There are men here whose holey t-shirts barely cover their beer bellies, and they have cute GFs. It's great for guys here. Where do you live? May have to make a visit 1
Leigh 87 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 For what it is worth, most men I know mostly just want a girl who is genuinely a nice women, and who does not gossip or talk negatively behind people's backs. You know - a really positive person with no time for negativity. Being active and interested in looking sexy for their partners is a HUE bonus of course. And the only other variable is if they require a women with a degree or higher education. On the whole though, most men I encounter who have degrees do not even care that I have not finished mine yet (I started it and did not finish it, and am soon to be going back to finish it!) As long as you have a set career plan, and your very positive and friendly, and like to laugh, as well as being fit and active - MOST men tend to o for women like this, so long as they are attracted to them. Bein positive and kind to others goes a long way.
Under The Radar Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Where do you live? May have to make a visit Exactly. If she disclosed her whereabouts I suspect 50% of the men on this board would relocate I've never even seen towns like this on TV.
Weezy1973 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 There's a big difference between someone I'd go on a date with and someone I'd like to be married to/have a long term relationship with. I, basically have no standards. Mutual physical attraction and compatible personalities. That's not even a standard is it?
somedude81 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Uh, my friends voted me most likely to date a homeless guy. My standards are so low it's funny (almost). I would definitely go out with a guy I wasn't attracted to. I assume that I will end up with a man like this. The last guy I dated, many months ago, was an average looking drug addict. I will go out with any man who's age appropriate and not likely to be a serial killer. Now let's see you lower your standards that much! Oh, it's bad. I've haven't met a single man in months. That's why I will go out with any age appropriate, single man I meet. I only meet a couple a year. I wish I could raise my standards a bit, but then I'd never date. I have female friends here who have been single for years, one for over 10 years. There are men here whose holey t-shirts barely cover their beer bellies, and they have cute GFs. It's great for guys here. Uh, if you had low standards, you wouldn't care if the guy was "age appropriate" or not. I seriously start to wonder if you're even on Earth. Every man is in a relationship, including the guys "whose holey t-shirts barely cover their beer bellies." Sounds like I'd have no trouble getting a GF if I moved there. As for how low I've gone. The lowest, and only girl I dated was about 3 inches shorter than me and about 50-70lbs heavier. Smoked weed and cut herself. She also had a reputation for being a slut. I only went with her because I was super desperate and she made did all the work. That lasted two weeks then she went with another guy right away.
Under The Radar Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 How expensive could it possibly be to have Tony Robbins hypnotize us? I'm pretty sure I'd date a 1,900 pound walrus if I truly thought it was Halle Berry:lmao: I think I'm on to something here - I'll keep you guys updated. Robbins lives in California, right?
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