CheckIt Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 It feels like it's more of friends going out... i have no idea. I might be over thinking this, but i really like this girl and we've had our ups and downs in the past, but i finally decided to just ask her out to go somewhere. We've hung out before and with her friends and such. Anyways we don't have class together so i asked her multiple times on seperate days if i could talk to her after school or w/e cuz i needed to ask something, but idk if she was shy or what, but it didn't work out so i just had to do it over text... which is lame i know. This is how it basically went. I asked if she wanted to go out sometime next weekend and like 10 mins later she replied saying, "Sure. where thoughh?" I kind of wanted it to be a surprise and ****, but i told her anyways. She said, "Well I'm down lol, ill bring the kush :)" So like... i don't know. Feels like it's kind of just friends going out, and not a date type thing you know. I'ma try to get close to her when we do go out and make some of them moves ha. Honestly i thought it would be more like, "Okayy!" after i asked her you know. I just think "Sure" is like a "sure w/e il go out".
xdahliax Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 That's because you didn't ask her to go out on a date. Is she supposed to be able to read your mind?
Author CheckIt Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Think it was pretty obvious... I didn't know you still had to include the word "Date" when you ask someone out...
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 You don't have to say "date" anymore these days but if you've been in the friendzone that's what she's going to expect more of. You can't let yourself get caught in the friendzone in the first place, that's your first wrong move. Secondly, if there's no chemistry and tension when hanging out with this person then that's your second clue nothing is there. Lastly, if you haven't made a move or showed interest then you're a "nice guy", nice guys are afraid to make moves and show interest out of fear of being rejected, if a woman did initially have interest you kind of fall under the radar after a while...you've got to make it better known when you have interest, you don't pussy-foot around being scared, but you're probably quite young so it's normal. Express more interest in her, try to talk to her about more personal things, and try and get closer to her. If she rejects you then that's that, however ask her how she feels about dating...she might think it through and consider it, and maybe even say yes who knows. Just stop swinging on the fence and be more aggressive, a lack of confidence doesn't turn most women on unless they're into those "shy" guys that have an extreme amount of trouble expressing themselves. However I don't recommend being either the "nice guy" or "shy guy" if you want to be able to get the women you are interested in, because you'll basically need them to come to you for the most part.
Sadie_66 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Think it was pretty obvious... I didn't know you still had to include the word "Date" when you ask someone out... No it's not always obvious. It depends on the nature of the relationship. Xdahliax is right. Women aren't mindreaders. The words sure and okay are just words. Don't get hung up over semantics. If you want it to be a date, then make sure she knows it's a date. You don't have to necessarily say the word date. You could ask her if she wants to "go out". Sometimes a woman could even tell by the way you ask her. If you ask without much thought or too nonchalantly, she would probably think it's just friends hanging out. It's obviously important to you, so why not be clear from the beginning?
Author CheckIt Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 If you guys knew the full story, I'm pretty sure shes into me. At least i hope so ha. I'll make a move for sure, and I don't consider myself a "nice guy" lol.
Sadie_66 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 If you guys knew the full story, I'm pretty sure shes into me. At least i hope so ha. I'll make a move for sure, and I don't consider myself a "nice guy" lol. What is the full story?
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 If you guys knew the full story, I'm pretty sure shes into me. At least i hope so ha. I'll make a move for sure, and I don't consider myself a "nice guy" lol. They don't act like one mr sexy! You got to do "moooo ooo oo oooo ooooves like Jagger"
Author CheckIt Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 What is the full story? Don't want it public.. sorry. Plus it's long as hell.
Sadie_66 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Don't want it public.. sorry. Plus it's long as hell. Fair enough.
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