Primus Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Hi all, I met a girl abroad this year travelling, I'm 28, she's 26 and we kept a LDR for almost 7 months. She fell very hard for me quickly, and was talking about long term relationship. I was wary, but enjoyed the attention. After a few months in the LTR, i wanted to be with her, so when I came back to my country to be with her, She told me through FB in Sept she met someone else, and she was sorry. The previous week she told me she loved me, and wanted to be with me forever etc. I was blind sided and hurt. So I went NC, deleted her and blocked her on FB and moved on with me life. Friday evening I received two txts from her after 2 months NC. "I never wanted to hurt you, please believe me" I didn't reply Then 1 1/2 hours later "please let me know that your ok" I didn't reply. I'm confused now, and don't know what to do. I have no idea what is going on with her life, but she lied to me and showed no respect. I miss her, but feel this year was a waste.
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Well, from my perspective, after my ex broke up with me, I said very nasty things, on purpose because I knew it would hurt him. We were nc for a month, and I sent him an apology because I genuinely felt bad. I had no intention of getting back with him, it's just the guilt was too much. Maybe that's the case with her? It's up to you if you want to reply or not, but you're opening the door if you do. If you have no intention of wanting her friendship or more, then I'd say just ignore the texts and keep moving on.
gullibleme Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 She's just feeling guilty...DON"T RESPOND ...it will make you feel stupid in the end knowing it meant nothing and she will feel good thinking she is a "GOOD PERSON" for pretending to worry...UGH!! I hate when the dumper does that. 1
Author Primus Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Thanks guys. I won't reply, as it's just breadcrumbs. I though about sending a "I'm fine, please don't contact me again" text, but declined. Silence speaks volumes.
LostOne1 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 She's just feeling guilty...DON"T RESPOND ...it will make you feel stupid in the end knowing it meant nothing and she will feel good thinking she is a "GOOD PERSON" for pretending to worry...UGH!! I hate when the dumper does that. yeah my ex did this too after a few days of leaving me. She went off on me and said some nasty things. THen called me later that day I refused to pickup. Then texted me the next day to say sorry and check up to see if I was okay. But she didn't care about getting back. It's those days when your ex probably feels lonely or misses you. But it doesn't mean she wants to get back. I been through it and it makes you suffer more thinking she wants to work it out, when really she doesn't or will change her mind tomorrow and just lead you on for today.
Author Primus Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 So she just text me again." please I know don't deserve it, but please message me back.." She lives in a different country in Europe/ I have been hurt before, and don't want to get hurt again. I have strong feelings for her still. But I don't know what to do...
Chi townD Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Well, you got two choices. 1. just ignore her. or 2. respond to her text with a text of your own stating, " Look, I'm fine. You made a choice and unfortunately, it wasn't me. So, I need to heal from this relationship and move on and I won't be able to do that if you keep contacting me. Me not contacting you isn't a punishment. But, I can't communicate with you while I still have romantic feelings for you. That isn't fair to you or me. So, I hope you will respect my feelings on this and I wish you nothing but the best." Then go dark. There! Closure! If she can't buy a clue from that, then the girl has issues. 1
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