Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Feeling a little desperate right now... She is leaving to go overseas for 2 months. I want to let her know I want her to be safe and to have fun. The BU happened 1.5 months ago. I miss her so much...she was my best friend in the world. I just want to Skype or say hi. GIGS was the culprit. Ended on good terms. After initial begging and pleading, I just wanted her to be happy - even though it killed me inside. What should I do? I think I know the answer, but I just want to say hello, I miss you and maybe upon return, we can go ice skating.
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 If you're prepared for the worst case scenario, no reply, then go ahead and wish her a safe trip. If there is no chance the two of you will ever be together again, I wouldn't contact her because you'll be back at square one of your healing. 1
Under The Radar Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I think you should stay NC; especially if you were begging/pleading during the breakup. Contacting her now might look clingy and further delay your healing. Could you handle getting no response or a one word answer?
Author Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 I'm not sure when I'll be ready to contact her again...I know she would respond cordially. I just don't know when I'll be ready, for example, to Skype with her as friends. I'm still hurting, so anytime in the near future is out of the question. She made it clear that she doesn't want a relationship. But I have a gut feeling about us, I have since the first time I ever laid eyes on her. I just hope that by the time I don't feel like crap, she doesn't remember/forgotten what an amazing friendship we had. I think I'll stay NC. But thinking down the road, a hello on Skype may be warranted.
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Use the next 2 months to work on yourself, build your confidence and independence. Try to be social if you can too, meet some women...you don't have to rebound or get into anything serious, but it will help your self-esteem. Who knows what will happen 2 months from now, but it's important not to put your life on hold for anyone. I believe in second chances, not in every case, but sometimes they can work. But you have to be healed and emotionally healthy in order to even think about a second chance, or it'll all be the same cr*p all over again, in my opinion and recent experience. 1
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