OompaLoompa Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Not a long term gf/bf sex. But when you engage in a one night stand or a short term fling, do you remember their face and recognized them even after a few years? Like, you would see them at a cafe or, the person got famous and appeared on TV . . . would you recognize the person, and tell your friends, hey I hooked up with that guy/girl many years ago? Just curious as I was reading about this article where people even publish a book about their past sexual encounters.lol
xdahliax Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 If you can't remember the faces of the people you slept with, you're probably sleeping with too many people or you're inebriated. I remember faces of people for years, even if I only spoke to them for 5 minutes. 2
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 If you can't remember the faces of the people you slept with, you're probably sleeping with too many people or you're inebriated. I remember faces of people for years, even if I only spoke to them for 5 minutes. Hmm really? I thought about the question myself and I feel like I would be quite indifferent? many people kinda resemble each other anyway ... lol and after a few years, if he didn't mean anything more than just a one night stand, I would probably forget his face? I dont know, maybe it's different if it actually happens.
tigressA Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 If I ever reached the point when I wouldn't be able to remember every single man who's been inside of me (save memory loss), I would feel it's time to get a greater handle on myself and my sexual impulses. This is the number one reason why I don't get blackout drunk. I know my limit for alcohol and never go past it. 3
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 If I ever reached the point when I wouldn't be able to remember every single man who's been inside of me (save memory loss), I would feel it's time to get a greater handle on myself and my sexual impulses. This is the number one reason why I don't get blackout drunk. I know my limit for alcohol and never go past it. My point of question was not whether you remember their face right after sex. So intoxication or too many people are not the issue...lol I was wondering if "EVEN AFTER YEARS" would people remember/recognize the person. I guess I am rather surprised that people would? Like you meet so many people in your life, and read so much, use your brain up all the time, and that such an insignificant person would last in your memory for like years and years and you's recognize the person on the street? I just personally don't know if that is realistic? ha.
somedude81 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 You must have been with a lot of guys to start forgetting what they look like and not being able to recognize them. That or sex means very little to you.
veggirl Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 (edited) I can think of a couple that I have slept with that I don't think I'd recognize. I mean I can't picture their faces right now. And they weren't one night stands. They are just...unremarkable? I don't know. Is that so awful? Where I work, there is a man and woman WHO WERE MARRIED 25-30 yrs ago, only for 6 mos....they randomly ran into one another at my work and after talking for a while, the woman recognized the man as her ex HUSBAND but he still did not recognize her face! I mean shoot you meet / see so many people throughout your life, you forget the forgettable ones...some of whom you may have slept with. So? I am sure after decades I will not remember what some of the guys I remember *now* look like. It happens. It's easy to say when you are like 23 oh yah of course I will, I remember them now, but when you are 60? Hmm. Edited November 3, 2012 by veggirl 2
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 You must have been with a lot of guys to start forgetting what they look like and not being able to recognize them. That or sex means very little to you. Not ME lol this is a hypothetical question. I just think if you are engagin in a one night stand, your focus/aim is to relieve your sexual stress. And then why would you even pay so much attention and effort to remember detail feature of his face or body and try to recognize him years later? I just feel like why would one waste his/her energy trying to remember such an insiginificant person in one's life, when you have such a limited memory capacity? lol
SmileFace Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Granted I have only been sexually active for 3 years - there isn't a chance I woulldn't remember them. Due to the fact I am still in contact with most of the guys I have slept with. However I won't know what my answer will be as I get much older or if we didn't have things such as facebook.
CarrieT Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I don't... But I have bumped into guys I had sex with twenty and thirty years ago and didn't recognize or remember them - although they remembered me...
sweetkiwi Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 i remember them. Sometimes i wish i didn't. I'm sure this question is much different for every person. I've only been sexually active for 8 years. And in a relationship for nearly 7 of those years. I am a person who has to care for the person i'm sleeping with. If i didn't i'm sure i'd be a promiscuous person. I am a very straightforward woman and i always get what i want. That coupled with being attractive can get me into trouble if i didn't have standards.
tigressA Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Not ME lol this is a hypothetical question. I just think if you are engagin in a one night stand, your focus/aim is to relieve your sexual stress. And then why would you even pay so much attention and effort to remember detail feature of his face or body and try to recognize him years later? I just feel like why would one waste his/her energy trying to remember such an insiginificant person in one's life, when you have such a limited memory capacity? lol It's not about 'wasting energy trying to remember'. Despite my propensity for casual flings, I do see sex as a pretty big deal and if I, 'even after years', couldn't remember everyone I've engaged in it with, it would be very troubling for me. 2
veggirl Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 What if you guys just flat out didn't recognize the person though? I mean you might remember I slept with X, Y, and Z but she was asking about remembering / recognizing their faces. I mean take someone at 25 and take them at 60..... I read the question :cool: lol 1
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I've only had sex with two guys and I remember them both, but they were LTR's.
MrCastle Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 No, but the hope is some day I'll reach that point where I lose count/forget. Reminds me of a story printed about Derek Jeter earlier in the year. Apparently he brought a girl back to his place that he had already hooked up with before and didn't know it. He gave her a gift basket afterwards (apparently he gives this to every chick after the deed) and she was offended because he had given it to her before. That's the level I want to be at 2
kaylan Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 (edited) I remember everyone Ive had sex with. Doesnt matter if it was a hookup or a relationship. Its easy to do that when you dont sleep with scores of people. Btw, if the question is just about recognizing someone a year later, then the sex part is irrelevant since everyone ages and changes appearance to some extent. Some people take good care of themselves and will be greatly recognizable years down the line, while others will not. Edited November 3, 2012 by kaylan
Under The Radar Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Not a long term gf/bf sex. But when you engage in a one night stand or a short term fling, do you remember their face and recognized them even after a few years? Like, you would see them at a cafe or, the person got famous and appeared on TV . . . would you recognize the person, and tell your friends, hey I hooked up with that guy/girl many years ago? Just curious as I was reading about this article where people even publish a book about their past sexual encounters.lol Absolutely
2sure Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 For me , No. I do have a funny story about it though. A few years ago I was married to a man running for public office. During a campaign event while " glad handing" and walking through a crowd a man showed me his arm and said " look, I still have it". My name, in it's very unusually spelled form, on his arm. Not a freaking clue. I mean sure, I have a few possibilities, but ...who keeps those?? Anyway, my husband asked what was it...I dunno.
kaylan Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 A tattoo? You cant remember a guy who gets your name tattooed on your arm? wow.
CarrieT Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 No, but the hope is some day I'll reach that point where I lose count/forget. Reminds me of a story printed about Derek Jeter earlier in the year. Apparently he brought a girl back to his place that he had already hooked up with before and didn't know it. He gave her a gift basket afterwards (apparently he gives this to every chick after the deed) and she was offended because he had given it to her before. That's the level I want to be at Speaking from experience, trust me when I say it is not a "level" you want to be at or will necessarily enjoy. I know my number is in excess of 300 - I stopped counting... I have some serious black spots in my memory and bumping into someone you have slept with an not remember invokes a lot more feelings than just embarrassment.
kaylan Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 ^If thats the case, and it seems like you have some regret...why lack the self control to be able to limit yourself from ever making it to such a number like 300. That has to be like the top 1% of numbers when compared to everyones elses average. Im assuming a bell curve across the population in terms of sex partners though.
EasyHeart Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Even though I don't do ONSs (at least not on purpose) or even 'flings' (not sure what that means), I doubt I can remember every woman I've ever dated or slept with. I'm much better with faces than with names, and more than once I've run into old girlfriends and struggled to remember their names. As I think about it, I can obviously remember everyone I've dated in the past few years, but I can also vividly remember the girls I slept with in high school and college just like it was yesterday. It's the ones in the middle that get blurry. I think there should be a ten year statute of limitations on remembering people you've slept with. 1
CarrieT Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 ^If thats the case, and it seems like you have some regret...why lack the self control to be able to limit yourself from ever making it to such a number like 300. That is a long story. The bulk of that number occurred in my 20s while married in an open marriage, my husband a full participant. There were orgy-filled weekends that would involve twenty and thirty people - names of whom I often never knew - so the number went up quickly. It was 25 years ago at this point. And regret? I have had a lot of trauma and - yes - have made bad decisions. But it has made me who I am and has put me into a place in life I finally like (yes, there were many years I thought of ending it), so I do not believe in regret. Only learning lessons in life and helping others learn from bad decisions I made, in hoping to keep them from making the same regrettable decisions.
2.50 a gallon Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 After so many partners you begin to only remember the good ones.
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