ImYours Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I am losing it right now. I want to call and ask to see him. I feel like all you do...can't breathe can't eat can't sleep. My heart is hurting so horribly.
PennGuy Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 DO NOT DO IT! Monday of this week, I was kind of angry about the whole situation and how she made out with her ex the night before the break (and lied about it) and decided that I should be the one who keeps the apartment. We had a big long chat on FB about it. She got very worked up. I packed my stuff and headed back "home". We sat down and instead of talking about who keeps the apartment and who gets what, I break into this reconciliation speech. She shot me down. We then changed the subject to who keeps what and who keeps the apartment. I felt so empty after leaving there. It really set me back to be back in our apartment together like we had been the previous three years. The only contact I have had with her since is about when I am moving out. If you were the one who was dumped, THEN DO NOT DO IT! Begging, pleading, spilling your emotions will not do ANYTHING! It's annoying and pushes them away. Let them be the one to contact you. You need to just cut the head off of the snake. Drop off the face of the Earth and let yourself heal. If it's meant to be, they will make that loud and clear. If they don't, then take what you have learned from it and apply it to your next relationship. Contacting them feels better initially, but after it's over it leaves you feeling lower than before. It's like getting high. You come down lower than you were before you took the drug. Trust me. This isn't my first rodeo. I've broken every rule in the book when it comes to dealing with ex's, this time I am not perfect, but I am doing MUCH better.
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I am losing it right now. I want to call and ask to see him. I feel like all you do...can't breathe can't eat can't sleep. My heart is hurting so horribly. Cry it out, scream into a pillow, sit and stare at the walls...let yourself feel the hurt and pain so that you can get past it. But don't call him, keep your dignity and remind yourself that you are strong.
Own Worst Enemy Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I feel so bad for you. Just keep remembering, you will feel even worse if you reach out. You could get no reply or you could hear something you don't want to hear, or you could set your healing back by weeks. At least right now it is as bad as it can get - but it will get better! Fist bumps and hugs x
boblet Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 ImYours don't break that NC! Then you'll have to be back at square one. I know how you feel, it seems like a loss-loss situation, with or without them. But if you break NC, you'll get your heart broken again and it hurts each time. Since I started NC, I've had really bad days also, days when I think of the hurt over and over, then I realize if I contact, it's not the same person I'd be talking to from our relationship. Be strong! There will be days like this, but good days will come too you're not alone!
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