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Roller coaster ride - over!

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So the reconciliation of last week is officially over. He showed me the new him for five days and it was great.

 

Then he reverted back to the behaviour that gave us trouble back in September. I was pretty patient, reassuring and very loving, but nothing worked, so I just ended it officially.

 

I have a lot of empathy for him still though, I know he's struggling...but there is only so much I can do to coax him into being a grown up about our relationship. It hurts a lot to have to end it, but I've reached my threshold. For a while, I blamed myself, thinking that I just didn't do enough, or wasn't loving enough etc...you know, that happens when emotions are high. But I know I gave everything to him, he just wouldn't accept it.

 

I'm not giving up hope on love though. And I'm not going to wallow in pain either. Yeah, I'm sad, it'll take some time to get over this, but I don't regret having tried. I think a second chance is always worth the risk, there is always a slim chance that things can work out. The pain sucks though.

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Sorry the second go around didn't work out. You should be proud of yourself for seeing the red flags so quickly this time and having enough self respect to end it early. Now you are free to meet someone in the future who will appreciate all you have to give.

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Sorry the second go around didn't work out. You should be proud of yourself for seeing the red flags so quickly this time and having enough self respect to end it early. Now you are free to meet someone in the future who will appreciate all you have to give.

 

Thanks :)

 

I am proud of myself. Actually before we even reconciled last week, I told him if getting back together were to happen, that one certain thing he does is my deal-breaker. Of course, he said he would never to that to me again. Well, he did it...so I had to follow through and break up with him, even though my heart wanted so badly to just forgive again. I'm sad, but yes, looking forward to meeting new potential love interests! :)

 

When I first joined LS it was during the first breakup. I made a joke that to boost myself self-esteem, I'll just go to the grocery store because the young deli guy always checks me out...so I'm off to get some cold cuts ;)

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