winter23 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Here goes.........I was in a friendship with this guy for 10 months. I had feelings for him and I had hoped it would blossom into a relationship...it didnt. I was good to him, I was always there, when he needed me......I bought him gifts, gave him money,helped him study(we're in college), cheered him up when he was said..........I did it all. He was hardly ever there for me in any way. We were close.....so re ently i got fed up when i went through something tough and he wasnt there for me. I told him that I didnt want to be friends anymore.........he said that he didnt want that but I told him that I felt like he was just recieveing and not giving. He hurt me so much. It was then he told me that he had a gf and that he had for a few weekes, I was hurt because he knew how I felt for him and he felt something for me I know but whenever I brought up relationship.........he said he wasnt ready and stuff. So I had hoped that he would be ready one day. He said he was sorry.......that he knows that his having a gf hurts me but he's sorry. I was ........hurt. So almost two weeks have passed. We've seen each other........said hi thats it...........sometimes I catch him watching me.........or something. Its weird between us now I guess. I know that he liked what I did for him, being a good friend.........I think that he might miss me.......I hope he does regret being a jerk to me and using me like he did.......Its been hard trying not to think about him and all.........but I do feel happier now. I dont have to worry about trying to make him like me or stuff........I feel happier. Its hard to let go...........does anyone have any advice for me? I'm pretty, kind and smart.......I was so good to him. I dont know what I did wrong.....all my friends say its his loss but I still feel hurt.......but its getting better every day. he treated me so awful.......I see that now.He took advantage of me..we werent sleeping together....he kissed me once.......it was a peck on the lips and later he said that it wasnt a real kiss or anything which hurt me bad.I feel like I miss him sometimes but I feel better alone. Thx for reading and responding!
Olivia_19742004 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Not sure what response you're looking for. You realized you weren't receiving the same consideration that you were giving and you ended the relationship (or so called relationship) You know you did the right thing. There's nothing else to figure out, is there? It'll just take time to get over the hurt.
Fayebelle Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Good for you for realizing you deserve better! It will hurt for a while- but stay strong- a MUCH better man is waiting for a great girl like you to come along.
Taken_Angel Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I agree you did the right thing by moving on, you deserve someone who'll do nice things for you, even if it's just being there for you emotionally or whatever. You realized *hopefully* that no matter how much times passes he isn't going to change his mind. Not to sound harsh but maybe you're not his type of girl but he liked you as a friend and sadly he probably loved what you were doing for him financially so he kept you around but tried to let you down gently thinking you'd get the hint and understand that it would never go any farther. Find a real man, a decent guy who wouldn't take advantage of a girl's friendship!
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