seahorse Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Ok, I know it's a generalisation, but what do most guys really want in relationships or in women? Are you all out there looking for love, or really just a lot of one night stands? Is dudesomewhere, with his honesty and not-playing-games somewhere out there on his own, or is that the norm? I guess I've got some general trust issues going on at the moment, so just humour me ok? seahorse
dudesomewhere Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 it's a lonely world for me... but yeah, in this "real world" most guys don't want to cherish a woman...and sadly some women will settle for it. Others will fight against it when they realize. My goal in life is to try to be friends with women...good women (many women are like many men)...and show them that it's ok to hold the average guy up to their standards...that they don't have to lower it or themselves to progress.
lydiamarie Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Originally posted by dudesomewhere but yeah, in this "real world" most guys don't want to cherish a woman... that just can't be true. site your sources! men and women aren't that different. and besides, you only need to find one. just one.
avsguy01 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Theres many different types of men out there, and its really hard to actually catagorize what men want in general. Some want one night stands. Some want friends. Some want a true relationship and feel empty without one. Some want a family. I have to believe that the general goal is to eventually find a woman to bear children. Isnt that the general purpose of life? To pass on your genes. I know thats mine. Its a matter of finding that special person to cherish moments with and to then eventually start a family with. I know thats my goal in life.
moimeme Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 yeah, in this "real world" most guys don't want to cherish a woman My last ex used to forever tell me how superior he was to 'most guys'. He wasn't. With all respect to dude, you need to realize that just because a person describes himself as being one way does not mean he actually walks his talk. Some people understand themselves very well and report themselves exactly as they are and some people have ideas of themselves which don't reflect reality. They tell you what they believe to be true about themselves. It's not that they are lying or trying to deceive you, it's just that they don't understand that they don't live up to their own advertising. It is always a mistake to generalize about people. Even if you meet a hundred men who are all jerks, there are several billion others who are not. You just need to sort out where to find the ones who are not.
Taken_Angel Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 So does this mean "dude" doesn't date women or what? I am a woman but I think most men are looking for love and a good woman but then again there are the other men who are seeking a good time and just physical stimulations.
dudesomewhere Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I just don't date around...meaning I don't do like most and just go on dates. I only go out with those I feel something with...a spark if you will. Has to be something special there to motivate...then you get to know each other and see if things would work. I don't date blindly, randomly because someone is female and then try to work up deceit so that she'll be mine because I want nooky . Hell I walk the walk and talk it cuz it's so . It's never a mistake to generalize people. . People can argue most or majority when they use words...I however disagree with saying all. When I hear men or women saying all men or women are this and that, whether to lay blame or defend actions it irks me. But in life civilizations are built upon the majority. Um...this last statement could get too philosophical so I'll leave it at that. I'll probably annoy someone waiting for some finite explanation there You can easily tell how true someone is Moi by noting how they do or don't deviate . I don't think I do
TempSain Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Most "real" men want the same thing.............. SEX all the other things they may think they want or tell you they want are just fluff. Just simplifying...
UCFKevin Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I want sex, for sure. But I also want love and commitment along with that. I cherish the hell out of my girlfriends. One thing my ex could never deny was that she was very much loved the entire time we were together. Some guys want a relationship for the right reasons, some guys want them for the wrong reasons. It's just how the world works. Same goes for women, too.
sami Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 They want love, appreciation, recognition and, of course, that sweet triangle hidden deep down there. Hope all girls will understand.
FolderWife Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Men want a pretty face, and a pretty body....preferably one that's in fairly good shape, so when she's on top, she doesn't wear out too fast. Once they get past the initial appearance, they want a woman who'll wait on them hand and foot, let them look at porn, go to strip clubs, and hang out with the guys, AND who has a good job, so she can support him, should he want to not work any more. But you only have to pretend to be that great until you marry them I'M KIDDING!
locogurl Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I think we all want acceptance and appreciation.
savethedrama4allama Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 We all want acceptance, appreciation, and other things; I want to be held. I want to be validated. I want someone to laugh at my jokes. And I want sex. Lots and lots of sex.
Author seahorse Posted August 3, 2004 Author Posted August 3, 2004 Ok, some good answers there. dudesomewhere, I do believe you walk as you talk, I've seen no posts from you that go against that. I read somewhere else recently that men need to be physiologically satisfied (eg, hae their sexual needs met) before they want to be emotionally satisfied, and women are vice versa. I think that makes a lot of sense. I think I'm beginning to like this board a whole lot. seahorse
disconcertainly Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin I want sex, for sure. But I also want love and commitment along with that. I cherish the hell out of my girlfriends. One thing my ex could never deny was that she was very much loved the entire time we were together. Some guys want a relationship for the right reasons, some guys want them for the wrong reasons. It's just how the world works. Same goes for women, too. So what be the most important part of the relationship? (BEN) LOL!!jk
Curt Posted August 4, 2004 Moderators Posted August 4, 2004 Fact is, that men (not boys) want the same general things that women want. Trying to find the right person to give you the "things" in the right balance will continue to become more and more challenging. The world is changing, and I honestly don't believe it's for the better when it comes to finding good partners with which to form relationships. But then, I stand to be corrected. Ladies? Any takers? Curt
UCFKevin Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 The most important thing in a relationship to me is TRUST. Hands down.
wp234 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Hi UCFKevin, I'm sorry to interrupt this thread but I tried to reply to your "I want a girlfriend dammit" post but it's now locked/closed. And I really wanted to tell you this. You should check out the book "Love Tactics" by Tom McKnight. I think you'll find it extremely helpful in attracting women and starting a relationship. You seem like a nice person. Your vulnerability and humility are very attractive qualities! (As you'll see when reading this book!) wp234
dyermaker Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Psstt.... Kevin.... That guy just called you humble and vulnerable....
Fetish 2 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Doesn't it all depend on the age and stage of their life the male is at? I mean... if they're 16-18: They want fast cars and sex.. 18-20: They want to meet many women...try them all out: Party hard, get pissed and have sex In their mid to late 20's...theyre probably looking for companionship and a future with a woman... I don't want to generalise.. but It's just an idea... And I know each guy is different..so i guess it depends on the guy, his personality, and what he wants?
TempSain Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Originally posted by Fetish #2 Doesn't it all depend on the age and stage of their life the male is at? I mean... if they're 16-18: They want fast cars and sex.. 18-20: They want to meet many women...try them all out: Party hard, get pissed and have sex In their mid to late 20's...theyre probably looking for companionship and a future with a woman... I don't want to generalise.. but It's just an idea... And I know each guy is different..so i guess it depends on the guy, his personality, and what he wants? So far you have confirmed what I have said, guys want sex. Sounds like your young from the ages that you put in your remark. It doesn't really change much as you get older. I have talked to many guys much older and they all say the same thing.
dudesomewhere Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 the comments laid before you. Sure they may be the majority but I will not live my life by such basic of things. I am not a caveman afterall. I will allow such views from my forefathers clad in loin clothes but I will not give such leniency to any human in this day and age. It is time to evolve. And if you do not wish to, so be your path but do not claim it of others. Originally posted by TempSain So far you have confirmed what I have said, guys want sex. Sounds like your young from the ages that you put in your remark. It doesn't really change much as you get older. I have talked to many guys much older and they all say the same thing.
Touch of Innocence Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Originally posted by UCFKevin The most important thing in a relationship to me is TRUST. Hands down. I wish all guys would think like that
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