mortensorchid Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I went out on an Internet date with this guy I had been chatting with for the last week or so through the site. I know, I said I had given up but this one appeared out of no where, so I thought I would give it a shot. He was nice - 39, divorced, 2 kids, had a good job (so he said, he could be lying about it), and travels quite a bit for his job. Unfortunately, I knew about halfway through this evening that I was not going to hear from him again after this evening. I was attempting the whole time to make more of a connection with him (that is, to talk about something a little deeper than just factual information), but I felt like he was a bit standoffish. When we left the place, we walked outside onto the street. I asked where he had parked, he said he was down this one street. I said my car was parked in a parking garage at the end of the same street. When we got to his car, he said "Well thanks for the stories." Then he got into his car and drove away. No handshake, no hug, just a half assed good-bye. Thought that was kind of odd of him. Ah well, life goes on, it could've been a really bad time as well but I got a meal out of it.
yongyong Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 "but I got a meal out of it" Women I am sure he felt good for doing community service 1
Author mortensorchid Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Well if he felt better about it he would've at least given me a handshake. To say I got a meal or something out of it is the best part of the evening.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Do you think your pics match up to what you look like in real life? I don't mean this in a bad way, just that was the first thing that popped into my mind, especially if this happens to you often.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Sounds like he just wanted to get the date over with and didn't want to make any gestures that would lead you to believe that he was really interested. I think he was a bit on the disrespectful side, however if he wasn't interested he wasn't interested and I don't expect him to act like it so I'm not going to knock him for being clear about that especially when so many people seem to be confused when a man acts appropriately and like a gentlemen then doesn't call again as if that means there was chemistry, attraction and interest present. A date is a date, not a guarantee of anything. Now if by some chance he contacts you again, then something really isn't right and wouldn't pick up the phone if i were you. Otherwise I think you should be thankful he didn't lead you on and waste your time and give you some "confusing" sense of romantic interest, as many men will just be persistent just over the fact that it's a possibility of getting something out of it.
dasein Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Sorry the date didn't go well. Here's hoping the next one is much better.
Author mortensorchid Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Sounds like he just wanted to get the date over with and didn't want to make any gestures that would lead you to believe that he was really interested. I think he was a bit on the disrespectful side, however if he wasn't interested he wasn't interested and I don't expect him to act like it so I'm not going to knock him for being clear about that especially when so many people seem to be confused when a man acts appropriately and like a gentlemen then doesn't call again as if that means there was chemistry, attraction and interest present. A date is a date, not a guarantee of anything. Now if by some chance he contacts you again, then something really isn't right and wouldn't pick up the phone if i were you. Otherwise I think you should be thankful he didn't lead you on and waste your time and give you some "confusing" sense of romantic interest, as many men will just be persistent just over the fact that it's a possibility of getting something out of it. Oh yeah, I'm not bent out of shape about it or anything. Sometimes it happens, other times it does not. But I would have at least given the person a handshake after I have said thank you for the meal and departed. I got the impression that he wasn't having a good time through it, and I think I realized halfway through it that this wasn't someone I was going to see again. Seemed like a good guy and all, but especially after his brush off good-bye I realized he was not someone I would want to see again. Once, years ago, I met someone for an Internet date and at the end of the meal (once the check had been paid), he stands up and I did as well. And he doesn't say a word, he walked right past me! Not even a "See you later" or something at all verbal! He just walked away, literally. I stood there for a second, thinking that he was coming back, then realized he wasn't. Talk about strange. But, that's the online world for you. I've moved on.
truth_seeker Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Once, years ago, I met someone for an Internet date and at the end of the meal (once the check had been paid), he stands up and I did as well. And he doesn't say a word, he walked right past me! Not even a "See you later" or something at all verbal! He just walked away, literally. I stood there for a second, thinking that he was coming back, then realized he wasn't. Talk about strange. But, that's the online world for you. I've moved on. That's unbelievable! Although, I have to ask, is there something you're doing to cause these cold reactions from men? If not you, then I guess you're having terrible luck with men.
crude Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Ah well, life goes on, it could've been a really bad time as well but I got a meal out of it. I feel so bad for the guy. You got a free meal, what did that poor man get?
rocketman122 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 But, that's the online world for you. I went on way too many dates from OLD..no one acted like you experienced to me. btw, are you ugly or pretty?
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