songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 When you can pray and wish for a person's happiness and well being and move on at the same time....u are truly over (not them) but the breakup. So...just an update...this person I was involved with I believe I will never stop loving for the rest of my life...but I have moved on and hold no anger or ill will anymore. In fact, I feel sorry for his situation and pray that he finds his way, and ends up happy, no matter who he is with, and I know I will find someone else as well. To me that's a HUGE step and I feel like I'm finally healed over the heartbreak ;-) I wish the same for you all out there...and thanks for the support in getting through this. I no longer sign on much because I don't feel the need as I have moved on and no longer hurting :-)
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I feel sorry for his situation and pray that he finds his way, and ends up happy, no matter who he is with, and I know I will find someone else as well. I felt this way too. Then he lulled me back in with sweet words and I fell for him again, so I was not really over him when I thought I was.
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 When you can pray and wish for a person's happiness and well being and move on at the same time....u are truly over (not them) but the breakup. So...just an update...this person I was involved with I believe I will never stop loving for the rest of my life...but I have moved on and hold no anger or ill will anymore. In fact, I feel sorry for his situation and pray that he finds his way, and ends up happy, no matter who he is with, and I know I will find someone else as well. To me that's a HUGE step and I feel like I'm finally healed over the heartbreak ;-) I wish the same for you all out there...and thanks for the support in getting through this. I no longer sign on much because I don't feel the need as I have moved on and no longer hurting :-) well, i think you're truly over them when you're not posting threads about being over them 1
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 I felt this way too. Then he lulled me back in with sweet words and I fell for him again, so I was not really over him when I thought I was. RR...I live in fear of this on a daily basis...lol. I don't want him back as we were...he would have to come and tell me he inherited a kingdom for that...lol. BUT...I'm very scared of how I would feel if I ever seen him again...NC FOR THIS REASON...lol. Never breaking it!
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 RR...I live in fear of this on a daily basis...lol. I don't want him back as we were...he would have to come and tell me he inherited a kingdom for that...lol. BUT...I'm very scared of how I would feel if I ever seen him again...NC FOR THIS REASON...lol. Never breaking it! Yeah, I should have done the same because right now I'm sitting here with a broken heart again because he basically reverted to the same behaviour that tore us apart initially. It's a hard pill to swallow, but I've finally learned my lesson. Keep your NC girl.
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 well, i think you're truly over them when you're not posting threads about being over them TS...it was only to help the ones that are STRUGGLING!!!...LOL. Wow...you took this post wrong obviously :-P
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Yeah, I should have done the same because right now I'm sitting here with a broken heart again because he basically reverted to the same behaviour that tore us apart initially. It's a hard pill to swallow, but I've finally learned my lesson. Keep your NC girl. All you have to do now sweetie is put your expectations HIGH!!! never ever except them as they were. I'm sorry you are broken hearted again, but in the future, if they DO come back...look for a KING and not a joker...lol. I have come to realize who I am and THEY DO NOT deserve me unless they come with high expectations.....You do the same because you are ALL THAT! And for all you negative posters...you are the main reason I gave up on this site! you post your pitty party and expect everyone else to feel the same! If they don't, you gotta through some BS in there to try and drag them there! I pray for you all and please be respectful and NOT respond to my post.
River Rain Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 All you have to do now sweetie is put your expectations HIGH!!! never ever except them as they were. I'm sorry you are broken hearted again, but in the future, if they DO come back...look for a KING and not a joker...lol. I have come to realize who I am and THEY DO NOT deserve me unless they come with high expectations.....You do the same because you are ALL THAT! And for all you negative posters...you are the main reason I gave up on this site! you post your pitty party and expect everyone else to feel the same! If they don't, you gotta through some BS in there to try and drag them there! I pray for you all and please be respectful and NOT respond to my post. Thanks, I guess I just had a little pity party of my own on your thread, lol...I did have much higher expectations this time around, we even discussed it and he agreed to everything...but 6 days in, he's back to what he was. You know, I was very devastated, but I do know that I shouldn't settle at all. Thanks for the pep talk!
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 TS...it was only to help the ones that are STRUGGLING!!!...LOL. Wow...you took this post wrong obviously :-P I dunno about that. "Usually wanting to see them happy" is a weird phase that comes with dealing with a breakup. When I'm TRULY over my ex's I usually dont care if theyre happy or not. That's how I know.
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 I dunno about that. "Usually wanting to see them happy" is a weird phase that comes with dealing with a breakup. When I'm TRULY over my ex's I usually dont care if theyre happy or not. That's how I know. that's cause you obviously never gotten over them or you didn't care in the first place
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Thanks, I guess I just had a little pity party of my own on your thread, lol...I did have much higher expectations this time around, we even discussed it and he agreed to everything...but 6 days in, he's back to what he was. You know, I was very devastated, but I do know that I shouldn't settle at all. Thanks for the pep talk! RR we had the DISCUSSION when we broke up and that's how I got stuck sometimes...only when I realized I am to good for him and his situation is MUCH worse than mine did I have the energy and mentality to let it go! He does not deserve me and yours does not deserve you! we are better and we need to believe that and move on ;-). Like I said, I'm not much into this pitty party sad website anymore but I do check in. if you are interested in keeping in touch let me know :-) 1
todreaminblue Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 When you can pray and wish for a person's happiness and well being and move on at the same time....u are truly over (not them) but the breakup. So...just an update...this person I was involved with I believe I will never stop loving for the rest of my life...but I have moved on and hold no anger or ill will anymore. In fact, I feel sorry for his situation and pray that he finds his way, and ends up happy, no matter who he is with, and I know I will find someone else as well. To me that's a HUGE step and I feel like I'm finally healed over the heartbreak ;-) I wish the same for you all out there...and thanks for the support in getting through this. I no longer sign on much because I don't feel the need as I have moved on and no longer hurting :-) I was in an ldr with my ex for a long time, on and off over a fifteen year period.....so i was and still am used to inflections in peoples voices changing over the phone especially his.when i used to hear his inflection change to a lower smooth register i knew what he was thinking of....i used to have a heart rate that elevated at that particular inflection and my voice would change to match..... i don't feel anything anymore maybe because i am thinking of someone else i dont know....but i maintain the conversation in a courteous way and a light hearted joking way and his voice changes back and while i am speaking to him I actually am disappointed it wasnt another voice talking to me on the phone.....that i could learn and recognise inflections from.....i have good voice recognition....it is what i rely on more than faces and more than names......i have been able to read inflections from experience both good and bad....it has served me well....so that's how i knew i had truly moved on...my reactions to voices and inflections.......so thats probably weird.....but its true and truth is often weird with me ..deb
Author songbird70 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 I was in an ldr with my ex for a long time, on and off over a fifteen year period.....so i was and still am used to inflections in peoples voices changing over the phone especially his.when i used to hear his inflection change to a lower smooth register i knew what he was thinking of....i used to have a heart rate that elevated at that particular inflection and my voice would change to match..... i don't feel anything anymore maybe because i am thinking of someone else i dont know....but i maintain the conversation in a courteous way and a light hearted joking way and his voice changes back and while i am speaking to him I actually am disappointed it wasnt another voice talking to me on the phone.....that i could learn and recognise inflections from.....i have good voice recognition....it is what i rely on more than faces and more than names......i have been able to read inflections from experience both good and bad....it has served me well....so that's how i knew i had truly moved on...my reactions to voices and inflections.......so thats probably weird.....but its true and truth is often weird with me ..deb I know EXACTLY what you mean...don't want to sound weird either but I FEEL things with my partner. sometimes good, and sometimes bad. With this one I never felt ANYTHING in my life before and I am no spring chicken...lol. follow your your gut and intuition ALWAYS...good or bad! :-) 1
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