ReadMyThread Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 So this is the 3rd time she has tried to reach out to me in ONE WEEK! It has been 2 months since she has left me. NC too. On Monday she sent 2 Facebook messages that said, "good luck in school" (because I posted a status about going to college soon) I didn't reply and she sent another message right after that that said, "I'm sure you hate me that's fine but I'm sorry.". I also didn't reply to that one either. Since she sent me those messages it made me want to look at her page and she posted a status 20 minutes before sending those 2 messages to me saying, "maybe things wouldn't be like this if she had gone through with her original plan." She was talking about herself and referring to her breaking up with me. I know it was about me, her mom even told me it was. Then on Tuesday, I got a text message from a number I have never seen before. It said, "Hey David." I replied and said, "Uahhhh lol hey, who is this?" and she replied right away saying, "Kate..." I didn't respond and then 5 minutes later she texted me again saying, "I knew you wouldn't text back that's fine. I just wanted to see how you are doing." I never responded back and just went on with my day. Now. Ever since she texted me on Tuesday I HAVE BEEN IN HELL! Now everyday when I wake up I'm scared to even look at my phone. I hope there would be a text from her saying she wants to be with me again but it hurts everytime I have no text from her. I wish I would have changed my number like she did. But hey, now I know for the future lol. SO TODAY!!!!!! I wake up and like I said, I see my phone and I literally told myself out loud that I was scared to even look at it. So I didn't lol. Just grabbed it and put it in my pocket and began my day. Then I had to make a call so when I lit-up my phone I seen I had a Facebook notification text message that was from her meaning it was a facebook message just sent to my phone.... She said, "Please talk to me... Your the one who said we could be friends and that was what you wanted.". That was at 5:43 this morning!!!! When she wakes up for school!!!! lol. Someone is thinking of someone when they wake up lol . F*** guys. It's killing me not to respond to her but I know I can't. I'm scared all she wants is to be friends. I don't want to be her friend. Plus everything she has done to me. She is right though, when she broke up with me, a week after, I told her that I wanted to be cool and end it on good terms which we did. I then said that we could be friends but that was when I was so deep in love with her and I only said yeah because I still wanted her in my life and thought that would be a good thing if I wanted to get her back. Stupid I know. My plan was to agree to be friends and go NC right after which I did. So we agreed to be friends a week after she left me but RIGHT after that I applied NC and haven't talk to her since so we aren't that much of "friends" as we agreed to be. lol. I just wanted it to end on good terms because she could ALWAYS go to the police about our ages at anytime so I HAAAAAD to end it on good terms and agree to be friends with her. I know I shouldn't have told her that back then and I regret it but this is my first love and first big break-up so I didn't know. I also made the mistake of pleading but I'm proud to say that I only asked her ONCE and only ONE DAY! . lol. I hear all these other guys who beg and plead for months! I was like, whaaaat lol. What do you guys think? Do you think this is her trying to start talking to me again to try a second chance with me or is this her trying to ease her guilt and make me not hate her? I mean I sent her off pretty much GUILT-free when she left me. Told her we could be friends. Ended it on good terms. Told her I loved her and I would always be there for her lol. BIG REGRET! Like I said, first love, first heartbreak, first mistakes lol. I don't see why she would want to hear from me again. I'm feeling she could be really missing me and could want to try again but I'm not going to think like that. She may just want for me to not hate her. I haven't talk to her ever since we agreed to be friends and that was 2 months ago. What do you guys think it is? Does she want to talk to me about us or is she trying to get me to NOT hate her?
Simon Phoenix Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 You still didn't block her from Facebook? C'mon man.
TopCat22 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I'd lay it on the line. Tell her that you only want contact with her if she wants to try again. If not and all she wants is friends then you've decided that it is too hard and it's best that you don't speak. One way or another you will get your answer...
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 You still didn't block her from Facebook? C'mon man. lmao I can't man. I don't know why. Somethings telling me not to. YOU didn't delete YOURS! lol. I think that was you. lol.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 I'd lay it on the line. Tell her that you only want contact with her if she wants to try again. If not and all she wants is friends then you've decided that it is too hard and it's best that you don't speak. One way or another you will get your answer... See this is what my sister pretty much told me to tell her. To say, "Please stop talking to me as I'm moving on.". I don't want to tell her something like this because it will hurt if she doesn't respond. I think I will just use her message as an ego boost and continue to ignore her until she starts calling me if she does and it gets that serious. A facebook message is nothing I would break NC contact for. She texted me 2 days ago so I don't see why she would send a facebook message instead of texting me again so I will see that as her just trying to be friends like she is saying and for me to not hate her. She will have to do more if she seriously wants me to talk to her.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 lmao I can't man. I don't know why. Somethings telling me not to. YOU didn't delete YOURS! lol. I think that was you. lol. I haven't, but my ex doesn't harass me on it. And I have her news feed blocked so I have no idea what she's up to. Plus if I did, it would cause a lot more drama than what I have now. But in your case keeping her on Facebook is causing you drama. If my ex started harrassing me on Facebook or I couldn't resist the temptation to snoop on her page, I'd block her in two seconds. Block her dude. That being said, you have two options 1) Continue to hold steady and make her step up her contact game or 2) do what TopCat said and tell her that either she comes back to you 100 percent or you can't talk to her at all. Just because you told her you could be friends when you broke doesn't mean you have to stick with that. Tell her that it's not possible and if she's not going to be with you as boyfriend/girlfriend, she's not going to be with you at all. Those are your only two real options -- whatever you do don't let her ease back into your life without committing to you. That's a lose-lose scenario.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 I haven't, but my ex doesn't harass me on it. And I have her news feed blocked so I have no idea what she's up to. Plus if I did, it would cause a lot more drama than what I have now. But in your case keeping her on Facebook is causing you drama. If my ex started harrassing me on Facebook or I couldn't resist the temptation to snoop on her page, I'd block her in two seconds. Block her dude. That being said, you have two options 1) Continue to hold steady and make her step up her contact game or 2) do what TopCat said and tell her that either she comes back to you 100 percent or you can't talk to her at all. Just because you told her you could be friends when you broke doesn't mean you have to stick with that. Tell her that it's not possible and if she's not going to be with you as boyfriend/girlfriend, she's not going to be with you at all. Those are your only two real options -- whatever you do don't let her ease back into your life without committing to you. That's a lose-lose scenario. Gotcha! Well Im for sure going with option #1. I see no pain coming from option 1 as I would just go on with life without her and ignore her. #2 would risk pain as if she wouldn't want to be with me and just wants to be friends. Ill just let the me ignoring her eat her up inside because I know it's getting to her. Now she sees I don't need her. I'll use her message as an ego boost. Now I'm te one ignoring her when back then she was ignoring me. Tables are slowly turning around. 1
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