Jamesblame Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 (edited) Hi all, Here's a tip for getting over your ex which helped me quite a bit. For the most part, the sorrow we feel toward losing our relationship and life is based on the fact that it's gone. So we mourn. We still think of our ex and what we did together, but we know it's gone. Even if the images are still there. In many ways it's like our ex was hit by a car and is now brain dead in a coma. S/hes there but not there. So you got to take them off life support and know that the person you loved isn't going to be in your future or present. Like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=62rcqzBeKwM Then part 2 of getting over them is knowing that your past with your ex will always be there. The good times and the bad....and as time goes on you can focus more and more on the good, while forgiving both of you for the bad. And every time you get sad, give that love you're feeling back to yourself. Imagine a little hug around you. Your time with your ex is gone, but by all means whenever thinking back to the times with them, smile and enjoy it. Then look at your future and ask yourself how you can recreate those feelings/experiences. In the present focus on what makes you happy. Every time you get sad and miss them, refocus on yourself and treat yourself. Date yourself. Go do fun things with yourself. Then next on the list is working on making that future happy. The reality is : 1. You were meant to break up because the relationship wasn't healthy. 2. You could NEVER be happy if you got back together because you weren't meant to be together forever, just for the time you had. 3. You could die at any moment.. It's important to celebrate the good memories you had while always trying to make the best of any situation you're facing. Hopefully it helps. when thinking of : Past - Nostalgic and good. With great memories. Present - Sad, but intellectualize all the flaws in relationship/ex that would make your happiness impossible. Future - Always visualize a world where you are happy, successful, and feeling the love you deserve. Work to that future...because so long as you follow your passions, do the work, and remain optimistic you WILL end up in that spot. Mantra to be said when sad: I am sad now because I am hurting from losing my love and a big part of my life. I treasure those moments with them and wish I had been more grateful of those times while living them. However, I will get over the pain, I will find a better match in the future, and nothing can change the good times in the past. I felt happy and loved in the past, and I will feel loved and happy in the future. This pain will pass. Edited November 2, 2012 by Jamesblame 5
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