NavyAirTraffic Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Recently my ex came back for me, I'm not taking her back (left me for someone else) but the other day she said all of the right things "biggest mistake ever" "I want you back" "I know I have work to do to get you back" "yada yada yada". This is irrelevant to my point, just a little back story. Well yesterday I had lunch with her and this is what she said: "I couldn't get you out of my head the whole time we were broken up, I kept seeing your pictures on FB looking good and having fun, I couldn't help wondering how you were doing". "This is the first time I broke up with someone and they accepted it" "I couldn't stop thinking about what you were doing". I then asked her about the "other men" she said; "well they just keep texting or calling, its annoying actually, I don't know". About this last guy she said "he keeps texting me and wants a fwb situation, I need to get rid of this problem". What I got from this is she always thought of me as strong, and the "other men" as weak. I never bad mouthed her, I didn't make it hard to break up with me, I never asked her to stay, I accepted it and walked away just like her. Think back to any of your relationships, usually the first thing you think of is the way the relationship ended.
Chi townD Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Well, even though the situation sucks. At least this proves a lot! That walking away with your head held high and leaving with your dignity intact is a hellva lot more attractive than crying, begging and pleading. That even if you don't think your Ex is watching, they are to some degree and she saw that you were moving on without her. That she wasn't the center of your universe. And finally, she found out that the grass ISN'T greener and the OM only wanted to hit it and quit it. But, the fact is, she's still in contact with him. So, don't fall for all of her crap. 2
21flames Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 People wan't what they can't have, that's why she has crawled back to you, she's pissed that you didn't beg, blubber all that crap and like chi town says, she's still int ouch with him ( probably more ) Don't fall for her crap, I did that lots of times and stayed in got really unhappy and shafted at the end, you will never be able to trust her and if you play into her hands she will fook you over again, you will have cracked and she will see it as 'she has cracked you', a massive ego boost for her and she will treat you like crap again after. Actions speak a lot more than bs words of mistake love blah blah
21flames Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 And as for her saying she could see you where having fun etc, wtf was she doing, getting laid with others guys and you let her back in your life and she will be doing it again behind your back.
Author NavyAirTraffic Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 Recently my ex came back for me, I'm not taking her back (left me for someone else) but the other day she said all of the right things "biggest mistake ever" "I want you back" "I know I have work to do to get you back" "yada yada yada". This is irrelevant to my point, just a little back story. Well yesterday I had lunch with her and this is what she said: "I couldn't get you out of my head the whole time we were broken up, I kept seeing your pictures on FB looking good and having fun, I couldn't help wondering how you were doing". "This is the first time I broke up with someone and they accepted it" "I couldn't stop thinking about what you were doing". I then asked her about the "other men" she said; "well they just keep texting or calling, its annoying actually, I don't know". About this last guy she said "he keeps texting me and wants a fwb situation, I need to get rid of this problem". What I got from this is she always thought of me as strong, and the "other men" as weak. I never bad mouthed her, I didn't make it hard to break up with me, I never asked her to stay, I accepted it and walked away just like her. Think back to any of your relationships, usually the first thing you think of is the way the relationship ended. @21flames-Where in any of this did you get "me taking her back"? My current situation is resolved, it is finished. This thread is not for me. This thread it is for the the recent dumpees out there!!
blue_jay_bird Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Yeah...I raise my hand my hand in the corner. This tread is for me. Cause if my ex came back saying this stuff... well i would take him back. I didn't beg... the last thing i said was the stupidest thing ever "call me when you want a second chance" (gah, wish i could take that back). Question, why can't i give a second chance if they come back? I'm talking about , lets say a year down the road. People change right. People learn right?. I'v learned so much since my BU. I even know that with in a few months all that i typed above will look like Bull ****. But i'm not there yet. Why can't i give a second chance?
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I noticed when I pushed my ex away she wanted nothing more than to win me back. It's the great old game of attraction. It doesn't mean she loves you or anything like that. It just means shes wants you because you became a challenge again. Use it. Revel in it. Bask in the wonderful glory that is revenge! It's a big ego boost. Should help you move on.
CptSaveAho Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 FYI - you are reading too much into things, she doesnt want you back She's talking out of her ass. All it is is "talking" and saying what she is suppose to say and making you hear what she wants you to hear This is nothing new and happens all the time 2
ReadMyThread Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 Recently my ex came back for me, I'm not taking her back (left me for someone else) but the other day she said all of the right things "biggest mistake ever" "I want you back" "I know I have work to do to get you back" "yada yada yada". This is irrelevant to my point, just a little back story. Well yesterday I had lunch with her and this is what she said: "I couldn't get you out of my head the whole time we were broken up, I kept seeing your pictures on FB looking good and having fun, I couldn't help wondering how you were doing". "This is the first time I broke up with someone and they accepted it" "I couldn't stop thinking about what you were doing". I then asked her about the "other men" she said; "well they just keep texting or calling, its annoying actually, I don't know". About this last guy she said "he keeps texting me and wants a fwb situation, I need to get rid of this problem". What I got from this is she always thought of me as strong, and the "other men" as weak. I never bad mouthed her, I didn't make it hard to break up with me, I never asked her to stay, I accepted it and walked away just like her. Think back to any of your relationships, usually the first thing you think of is the way the relationship ended. Navy, I have a question and I may be wrong and I don't mean it in a mean demeanor but didn't you say you wanted your ex to come back? You said you two were in the honeymoon phase when she left. Or is this a ex prior to your recent? How long did it take for this one to come back?
21flames Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 So you fooked her a few week ago and now you are meeting her for lunch and listening to her bs after she left you for another man, doesn't exactly appear your situation is resolved.
Author NavyAirTraffic Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Navy, I have a question and I may be wrong and I don't mean it in a mean demeanor but didn't you say you wanted your ex to come back? You said you two were in the honeymoon phase when she left. Or is this a ex prior to your recent? How long did it take for this one to come back? Yes I did want her back, then 3 weeks ago she told me she's with someone else (after sleeping with me). So no, no longer want her back. She took just under 2 months to come back, but that doesn't matter. You can't think about that because you have no control over it.
Author NavyAirTraffic Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 So you fooked her a few week ago and now you are meeting her for lunch and listening to her bs after she left you for another man, doesn't exactly appear your situation is resolved. I wanted to hear what she had to say is that wrong? Am I not allowed to make myself feel better by letting her show me how much she wants me? This woman caused me pain and I almost enjoyed seeing her hurting as well. Is it bad that I feel better after seeing her, I want her less? Seeing her (breaking NC) didn't set me back at all, I didn't leave the lunch and cry in the car. Again this thread is not for me! Trust me my situation is over. You won't read another story about her on LS (unless it's an old story to help someone out).
Tree_Salmon Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I wanted to hear what she had to say is that wrong? Am I not allowed to make myself feel better by letting her show me how much she wants me? This woman caused me pain and I almost enjoyed seeing her hurting as well. Is it bad that I feel better after seeing her, I want her less? Seeing her (breaking NC) didn't set me back at all, I didn't leave the lunch and cry in the car. Again this thread is not for me! Trust me my situation is over. You won't read another story about her on LS (unless it's an old story to help someone out). I like this story. I loved when my ex would come back telling me what I already know. But it wears away at you after a while and you get tired of the hot and cold game. I'm glad this happened for you.
21flames Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 (edited) I wanted to hear what she had to say is that wrong? Am I not allowed to make myself feel better by letting her show me how much she wants me? This woman caused me pain and I almost enjoyed seeing her hurting as well. Is it bad that I feel better after seeing her, I want her less? Seeing her (breaking NC) didn't set me back at all, I didn't leave the lunch and cry in the car. Again this thread is not for me! Trust me my situation is over. You won't read another story about her on LS (unless it's an old story to help someone out). No not at, just thought you may have a lot more emotion and questions of exactly what is true etc but your obviously quick at moving on and have a strong identity just me personally would try and avoid it but hey 6 months time it may happen to me and I'm in your position, who knows. After meeting her though knowing she's begging you, will she not just keep contacting you? If so will that not pi*s you off? Post about what you want, I do, It just came across that you may not be over her and I thought doing this my stop you from moving on but you have made it clear that's not the case. Edited November 3, 2012 by 21flames
Charlie Harper Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 My first 2 big relationships were a wreck and I begged and cried, then later I realized that when someone says ITS OVER, there is no point on begging or whatever. So Afterwards when things got bad, and broke off I just said, the standard "well it was great while it lasted hope you are happy and try to be" end of story. The weird thing is that 100% of the time they would check how I was doing, who I was seeing and such, nothings gets more in the head of inmature people than seeing they were not that important and their EX is actually having fun with others. Drama queens....mmmm now how to spot them. And AVOID them like the plague. 1
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