Flowerchildxoxo Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I have been dating my significant other for a little over two years, a year of which has been a LDR. He moved five hours away to continue college, I will also be attending that college this fall. Last weekend I traveled with a group of friends to go see him after a year of not seeing each other and to check out the University. The first night went fine, we drank a little bit and just hung out. (Yes we both drink a lot, but hey we're in college..) Although, during the night one of my friends brought up something from my past that bothered him. When he left that night he seemed fine and we made plans to stay with each other the next night and he was going to come with me on the college visit and show me around. He told me he loved me and kissed me when he left. The next day I texted him and no reply. He didn't reply to me until 10 oclock that night when he got off of work (he went to work at 5) and by then I was livid! He proceeded to tell me he was coming that whole night and never came. So I decided to get drunk by myself in the hotel, and I told him I couldnt be with someone who didn't treat me right. I told him that if he didn't treat me right now, then he never would. He knew I was upset and decided he wanted to come at 3 in the morning and I told him could. But I fell asleep while he was on his way over. (Maybe on purpose..) He texted me the whole time he wasn't there, constantly asking what I was doing and who I was with.. but I only made snotty remarks because he was supposed to be with me. After a year of not seeing the girl you love would you think he would want to see me? Should I even forgive him for not showing up? I left on that Sunday, and he texted me after he knew I had sobered up and asked if we were really done. I told him we were, because he didn't love me enough to be with me when I came to see him and that was the last we had talked. After a week of not talking to him he texted me last night to ask "how I was." (Not sure if he's keeping tabs or really cares how I'm doing) I broke my NC rule and texted him back, but only to tell him how messed up what he did to me was. I do love him, but I don't know if I love him enough to forgive him. Or if he even deserves to be forgiven. I know he's loyal and he says he loves me and wants to be with me..but that weekend proved none of that true..is it even worth it anymore?
justwhoiam Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Last weekend I traveled with a group of friends to go see him after a year of not seeing each other and to check out the University. In one year he never went back home? Weird. A 5 hour drive might mean a 4 hour train trip. Not that much after all. No one of you felt the urge to meet up in one year? The first night went fine, we drank a little bit and just hung out. So I assume it took Friday night off. we made plans to stay with each other the next night and he was going to come with me on the college visit and show me around. ... The next day I texted him and no reply. He didn't reply to me until 10 oclock that night when he got off of work (he went to work at 5) and by then I was livid! He proceeded to tell me he was coming that whole night and never came. Did you ask for the reason why he changed his plans? Did he tell you he was going to work that night (supposedly Saturday night)? He knew I was upset and decided he wanted to come at 3 in the morning and I told him could. But I fell asleep while he was on his way over. He texted me the whole time he wasn't there, constantly asking what I was doing and who I was with.. Texted you the whole time while at work or after he got off of work? Did you ask him what he was doing and where he was? After a year of not seeing the girl you love would you think he would want to see me? Should I even forgive him for not showing up? After not seeing my boyfriend for a year, would I get drunk the whole time I spend with him? You both seem kinda wasted. And very immature too. You can't demand seriousness in a relationship if you don't start wondering what you're able to offer to start with. What's on the plate for him? A drunk girlfriend? It's not clear if you even asked him why he didn't show up to take you around the college, if you knew he was going to work that night, if he told you or you asked him why he didn't come see you after work. I don't know if I love him enough to forgive him. Or if he even deserves to be forgiven. I know he's loyal and he says he loves me and wants to be with me..but that weekend proved none of that true..is it even worth it anymore? I can't answer the question, as not enough information was provided. 1
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