harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 A man walks over to you and hands you a note and walks away. I reads "Dear Friend, I have noticed you many times and I have a crush on you. My name is xxxxxxx. My phone number is xxxxxxx. My email is xxxxxx. I would like to meet you sometime if you're interested." Hot or not?
sweetkiwi Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 not. Why can't you just say it? Notes are cute when you're in a relationship or courting. I appreciate written word. But as a pick up technique? Not.
Emilia Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 A man walks over to you and hands you a note and walks away. I reads "Dear Friend, I have noticed you many times and I have a crush on you. My name is xxxxxxx. My phone number is xxxxxxx. My email is xxxxxx. I would like to meet you sometime if you're interested." Hot or not? Not. I'd assume he hands out those stupid little notes to anyone just in case a woman bites.
SmileFace Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 (edited) Only if he has a pussy magnet in his hummer...teehee What do you plan to do walk around with prewritten notes? Why would I want someone to walk up to when they can actually use their words and hand me a note? Note - no thanks. If it is a situation where it is a must, ok. But on the regular no. You may need to realize the difference between online dating and real life. Edited November 2, 2012 by SmileFace
sweetkiwi Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 this is just a hypothetical situation right? These kind of notes work in middle school and high school. Not in real adult life.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Writing that on paper would be 100% not hot. The same thing written on Facebook, by a text, or email possibly hot. Depending on how the woman feels about you.
dasein Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 It would depend on whether the girl has given definite "buy signs" to the guy in question. This is one of those dreamy if the desired guy does it, creepy for everyone else kind of things. If the guy knows for certain she digs him, why not just ask her out? Otherwise, without knowledge of her desire? Lottery odds.
somedude81 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 this is just a hypothetical situation right? These kind of notes work in middle school and high school. Not in real adult life. They worked in middle school?!
Author harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 The problem with speaking is that first of all other people will overhear and this may be embarrassing to her. Secondly it forces her to give an immediate reponse which (one case in a million) might be no, which may be embarrassing to her. Also, thanks for referring to the notes as "stupid". I'm glad the cyberbullies work on Friday as well. But I hope someone is going to throw an "immature" in soon, just to spice it up a little.
sweetkiwi Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 aww don't worry about the cyber bullies. And yeah these notes worked in middle school. I dated a cute little guy for 2 years because he sent me a note saying he liked me. But i think he ended up dumping me because i never kissed him.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 The problem with speaking is that first of all other people will overhear and this may be embarrassing to her. Secondly it forces her to give an immediate reponse which (one case in a million) might be no, which may be embarrassing to her. Also, thanks for referring to the notes as "stupid". I'm glad the cyberbullies work on Friday as well. But I hope someone is going to throw an "immature" in soon, just to spice it up a little. Their advice is realistic. These days that really isn't done. Yet, as always, how a woman (or man) receives your attention depends on their level of sexual attraction to you. A rant follows: I feel for ya Harry. I'll bet that grown adults wrote eachother notes or even full on handwritten love letters in your younger days. Their passion indicated by the stroke of their cursive. Now a days some schools don't even teach cursive writing. Heck by today's enlightened standards if one calls you "my dearest friend" it's the kiss of death, not the way a love letter would begin. This book would be about breaking up gently if it was published now: MY DEAREST FRIEND: Letters of Abigail and John Adams So in a way Harry is right in a more romantic world someone writing a note wouldn't be "creepy" or even bad. dosen't mean it would get a yes, but it wouldn't be "creepy" or "stalkery" or any of that nonsense. Harry, in the world we have USA (or even UK) 2012 going on 2013 we don't do it that way. Friends is now a word that too often means they find you repulsive and they don't want to even really know you. Lovers are people you can't stand for anything but sex. A romantic old guy like you is an anacrhonism, I don't mean that as an insult. As imperfect as times past were, when a note would have been at least neutral, they were in a way more honest about feelings. 2
Author harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 If in the note, I address the woman as "Dear Bitch" and I make at least one passing reference to "your big tits" or "would love a blow job", would that bring it up to date?
CarrieT Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I've had it happen to me. Totally, totally creepy... First off, it does not give me time to size up the guy and find out anything about him. Other than a cursory glance after he's handed the note and walked away, I don't know if he is attractive, eloquent, or even if he had any teeth. It also depicts a social phobia of some sort, "Why couldn't he just introduce himself and talk to me?" Icky, icky, icky. 1
CarrieT Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 If in the note, I address the woman as "Dear Bitch" and I make at least one passing reference to "your big tits" or "would love a blow job", would that bring it up to date? Trolls beget trolls - some of us are trying to give you legitimate advice. Why so hostile and nasty? 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I've had it happen to me. Totally, totally creepy... First off, it does not give me time to size up the guy and find out anything about him. Other than a cursory glance after he's handed the note and walked away, I don't know if he is attractive, eloquent, or even if he had any teeth. It also depicts a social phobia of some sort, "Why couldn't he just introduce himself and talk to me?" Icky, icky, icky. Well. I think your imagining this as a totally cold approach. I am thinking this could be someone he knows say, from work, where privacy and time to talk this out aren't in great supply. He could write up this "note" in the form of a memo and hand it to them like it was work related. (While email would be recorded on any number of company computers and be read by who knows....perhaps even cause trouble regardless of how it's recieved by the woman). Some work places with lots of young people are tolerant of dating and flirting. With older people they usually aren't. This all depends.
melodymatters Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 My husband and I worked together and flirted a bit but neither of us were willing to make the first move. NOW we laugh at remembering who said what and what we each were thinking at the time. If he had written me that note ( with my name of course) we could have saved a lot of time ! But a random guy in a store, no, I would also assume he had 10 more in his pocket to give out to any cute girls he see's. 1
dasein Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Just thought of a way this might actually work. Put the note in a funny greeting card, from one of the trendier gift shops. Surely they have funny ones with a "just wanted to say hi" in those places. I notice lots of women are really into getting and giving such cards, could warm the approach up a bit. Consider softening up the "hey bitch" approach, though, maybe "hey snuggle bitch" or "sweet ass hoochie bitch" might be better.
scratch Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 A man walks over to you and hands you a note and walks away. Hot or not? I recall pulling off a note successfully once. At a very loud bar with a live band. I walked up to the girl, tapped her on the shoulder and handed her a note that said "It's loud. You're hot." She smiled and laughed, I made a gesture indicating a telephone, and she wrote down her number. Why walk away? Why not use the note as a funny opener, e.g. "check yes or no?" It still may not work, but your chances are better, and best of all, you know where you stand right away.
Author harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 Right I'm talking about someone I have a slight acquaintance with. Like for example a librarian or a stripper. 1
Author harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 Would "Dear Potential Sex Object" be too formal and kill the romance?
sweetkiwi Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 i think you're funny. At least i hope you're being funny. So talking speaking would convey the message much better than writing a note.
dasein Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 If it's a stripper, be sure to write the note on a $20. Check Yes... No... or broke-dick Ho. I think you are onto something.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 i think you're funny. At least i hope you're being funny. So talking speaking would convey the message much better than writing a note. Perhaps. Even in a strip club writing his note on a $1 bill might work. If he's a regular and unlike younger men took the time to speak to her before. It can be quite loud in those clubs though.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Would "Dear Potential Sex Object" be too formal and kill the romance? You don't have to go that far. You wrote about wanting 30 something ish women. There are some who would appreciate your old fashioned. That those ways are who you are. They will like you and could love you for them.
Author harrydubois Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 That's the point about the librarian, because you can't talk in the library, and the strip club, because you can't hear there. I wonder if I should spice the note up by writing it on the back of a photo of myself with no shirt on, or is that over the top, since I don't even know her name yet? 1
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