whispering_willoww Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I have been seeing this guy for several months now and 2 months ago he moved to GA. in that transition he told me he loves me and wanted me to come down there with him. I told him I would think about it and then i decided to go. Went down there several times, had some interviews, things were fine for a while. Well he made a stupid financial choice to take over the lease on a friends car. can't go back on it cause he works for the guy. i was upset about that and then i didn't get the job. well now he is saying he has gotten cold feet and he doesn't know if he loves me. He says he cares about me a lot but he is not sure if he knows what love is. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone else. He looked me dead in my face and told me that he loves me so much. I am all that matters to him etc. and now just about 1 1/2 weeks later he doesn't know anymore. This guy he works for is very influential and every since he took this car over it's been hell. now the guy is talking about leaving his wife and moving into a townhouse and my boyfriend thinks he will be able to move there too. I am so frustrated and heartbroken right now. My boss knows i was going to leave and has hired my replacement already and now i have no where to go and noone who is there for me. I feel so alone. it is so hard to open yourself to someone anyway especially with so many past heartbreaks and now here's another one for the list. he told me so many times he loved me and his eyes didn't lie, so why the change? Someone please help me I feel like i'm losing it here.
pitprincess Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Sounds like this other person is the kind to go out and have a good time and go to work, home or bar and spread the word. Makes others want the same thing. I hope this isnt what is happening but it very well may be. Maybe someone else can advise on this. Good Luck to you
mr7man Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Sounds awfully weird to me that he would just up & leave living with you and move in with his boss. The tough question might be: Could there be some hanky panky going on between them? Is he bi? Why would he move in with a guy over living with you? Can I assume you have been intimate? If you rocked his world- he would not be considering moving in with his boss. You might be finding out a bit more about him than you planned on. Better now than later. If you are not ok with that, then move on. I may be way off base, but the thought occured. It could just be the stress of moving. Its ranked way up there on the most tramatic events one can experience. Couple that with financial problems (high on the list) and making somewhat of a commitment to you (another biggie) He may be overwelmed or depressed. You might be able to help him with this if you can get him talking about this. The other issue is YOUR feelings. Bottom line: Its better to have loved & lost than to not have loved at all. Yes it may be another heartbreak, but in time, you will heal. You will find another love-probably better than you expected- Remember- You don't know what you don't know. I'm sure you were kinda lost before he can along, but time changed that. You' re young and its never too late to find true love. If you were a good employeee, maybe your boss will find something for you or give you a good referral- good employees are hare to find- so you are a valuable asset. If you are a good person and attractive- believe me, you won't have any trouble meeting someone new- just look in the right places. Keep you chin up. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Good luck sweetie.
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