I don't think that online dating will work for me

[harrydubois]

I think I am similar to the professor in this post

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/354935-i-want-my-professor-worst-way

 

not especially attractive at first glance, but absolutely a chick magnet once women get to know me.

 

But where do I meet women?

 

Other than online, where did you meet your last few partners?

[serial muse]

I think I am similar to the professor in this post

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/354935-i-want-my-professor-worst-way

 

not especially attractive at first glance, but absolutely a chick magnet once women get to know me.

 

But where do I meet women?

 

Other than online, where did you meet your last few partners?

 

Harry, I don't want to swipe at you, considering how your last thread went off the rails. I mean this quite sincerely: How do you know that you're a chick magnet if you don't actually meet women? The issue I think a lot of women were having with your last thread is that, well, your premise doesn't seem to make a lot of sense. So maybe you could lay it out for us a bit more clearly?

[dasein]

Social events, parties, through mutual acquaintances. Find social married or single women who have single friends at community or charity events. Befriend them. Go to their dinners and parties and then start having your own if possible. Be a good guest, don't be just there to hit on women. Always bring food and/or drink/wine bottle if it's appropriate. Before you know it you will be on the list and meeting lots of women and good contacts generally.

[dasein]

Harry, I don't want to swipe at you, considering how your last thread went off the rails.

 

Don't want to swipe at you either, but can we agree that some of OP's posts in the other thread, and his OP in this one contain some lighthearted tongue in cheek and with humorous intent?

[serial muse]

Don't want to swipe at you either, but can we agree that some of OP's posts in the other thread, and his OP in this one contain some lighthearted tongue in cheek and with humorous intent?

 

Sure, obviously the last few were just him whistling in the dark and being silly. But I also do think the OP may have an inflated sense of self, and it's probably worth taking a long look at. (YMMV.)

[dasein]

IMO it's better to get back into dating with some confidence and not taking things too seriously, and OP has that in spades. He got needlessly reamed in the other thread, so understand his replies there, and have seen many new posters react much worse to LS brand pinata hazing.

[harrydubois]

Well, how exactly do want me prove anything I am saying about myself is true? Do you want to give me your name and address and I'll come over and you'll interview me? So I think you just have to take my word for it all and answer based on that.

[CarrieT]

Am I missing the obvious?

 

If you are such a chick magnet - and are in your 50s, why do you need advice on where to meet women? What have you been doing for the past four or five decades?

[dasein]

He has posted that he is recently single if I'm not mistaken.

[harrydubois]

In sexual prison. AKA marriage. I was recently paroled.

[harrydubois]

By the way, I think we're close to a page of comments and no one has yet called me immature, which seems to be a favorite put down on this forum. What's happening? Are the cyberbullies slacking off because it's Friday??

[serial muse]

Oh, relax, I'm not asking you to "prove" anything. I was simply asking you to elaborate on something you said: why you think you're a chick magnet. C'mon, you can do it.

[dasein]

OP asked for advice on where to meet women, not to estimate his level of overconfidence. C'mon, you can do it.

[harrydubois]

My chick magnetic quality is something that can easily be proven by a simple laboratory experiment. Put me in a room with a chick. Close the door. After two hours open the door. Notice we are both undressed and said chick is embracing me. Hypothesis proven.

[SmileFace]

My chick magnetic quality is something that can easily be proven by a simple laboratory experiment. Put me in a room with a chick. Close the door. After two hours open the door. Notice we are both undressed and said chick is embracing me. Hypothesis proven.

Wooow, you have some of the most entertaining stories.

[serial muse]

OP asked for advice on where to meet women, not to estimate his level of overconfidence. C'mon, you can do it.

 

Sigh. Well, dasein, I'm sure you know why I asked and that it might actually be helpful for him to answer the question, but why be helpful and open-minded when you can draw arbitrary combative lines in the sand? Harry, I think it's a reasonable question, and it's not something you need to answer here, obviously, but trust me, you're only going to get the same predictable responses here, from both sides of this false dichotomy, unless you go a bit deeper and step away from the gender divide. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.

[William]

If anyone has a substantive reply here, alert on this post and offer it to me in the alert. Otherwise, this thread is going nowhere.