jourdan Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Im at a loss on whats going on with me. In a nutshell, i had an odd but happy relationship. A couple months into it, he disappeared. It was over half a year ago. Ive been with others and moved on, but I still have heartache. I find myself depressed and thinking about him a lot. Im not even the kind of person to be hung up on somebody, and yet hes always in the back of my mind. My coping is out the door. Advice?
kt1012 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I'm guessing your struggling because he just disappeared? You did not get that closure so it makes it harder to move on. My first love and I had broken up after dating for 4+ years... We were young(19) and broke up so we could experience things but we were still very close and talked all the time... even hooked up here and there.... We had been best friends for about 4 years before dating and we had a love and friendship that was beyond normal... Anyone that knew us will still tell you we were meant for eachother!!! Anyways one day I get a phone call from some girl saying that she is his new gf and that I need to leave him alone... He and I had been friends for 9 years and dated for over 4 of those years.... He had NEVER chosen another girl over me.... Anyways I did not talk to him for.... like 4 years... I figured that if he allowed her to say this to me then he didn't care about me anymore. I was hurting for years over this... I moved on and got married then divorced because I compared my ex husband to the relationship and closeness I had with my first love!! About 6 months ago I finally contacted him... We talked and it wasn't even like I wanted to be with him anymore but I needed to know what happened and why all the sudden? We had a good talk and it ended very politely and he said I will always be his first love and he will always have a very very special place in his heart for me. He is now married (to a different girl) and happy. I was actually very happy to hear that he is happy!!! I felt soooo much better and now I don't really think of him at all! Your not hung up on him really, your hung up on the unknown... The why? You may try to contact him and just try to get that closure... Other than that just try to stay positive and move on with your life... I basically wrote this to let you know that your not the only one who has struggled with coping and moving on...
Author jourdan Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 Thanks, I am starting to realize that has to be what it is, him up and leaving. Unfortunately there is no way to contact him, but I'll get closure somehow. Thanks for sharing your story, it reminds me that im not the only one with this issue, and that it could work itself out. I think all i can really do is tell myself hes not coming back, and ill find someone better.
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