Scorpion1691 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 My wife cheated on me about 3 years ago, she says she is trying to make it work but does not love me. Obviously there is alot of information in between , mostly lack of communications, there are 4 kids still at home. My family means the world to me. Why would she tell her friends she is moving out, when I ask her she says she is not moving out. How to deal with it. Ignore it until it happens. She has never followed through with anything.
ringo Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 You need communication, trust, honesty and loyalty in a relationship to make it work. If you are lacking in any of these areas and have tried to make changes to better theses areas... and have failed.... then seek outside counseling. If your wife won't agree to it.... then go on your own. Maybe she'll want to go later. It's worth a try. Best wishes to you and yours.
Author Scorpion1691 Posted August 3, 2004 Author Posted August 3, 2004 Thanks, she denied her affaiars all the up to when I went to a lawyer. I went to couseling, she would not go. It helped me a little, It helped me to understand that I was not a complete fault. The first thing a person feels is guilt, she was pretty good about putting that on me. Then I found out from the guy that she was cheating on me for that she really battered me verbally, made me sound like a really bad father, never around , controlling, when I was coaching next to this guy. Coaching my own kids. He said it took a while but he saw what she was saying was not correct. She still after 3 years has tried to contact this person as early as March. Now she is contacting a wrestling camp clinician. I am about at my last witts, my own fault for not being able to deal with it. But I want to stay with my kids.Lawyers say unless I can show gross neglect she will have the kids even with even custody.
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