RyTom21 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) Okay, here's the deal. My name is Ryan. I'm 28 years old. I'm not unnatractive by any stretch of the imagination. But I'm also not the kind of guy who turns women's heads and makes them say, "Daaaammnn!". I was born with a mild form of autism called Aspergers Syndrome. I had a pretty rough childhood. I got teased alot, and never really had any dates...or friends. Now, almost 10 years later, I'm still stuck in the superficial mindset of high school. If a woman is even mildly attractive, I assume she's out of my league and could never be interested in me...because that's how it was in High School. The girls didn't want me back then. They wanted the good looking muscular jock types. I have a great personality. I'm funny, sweet, nice, trustworthy. But I'm somehow convinced that all of that means nothing if I'm not not "HOT" on top of it all. How can I change this negative thinking?. Is it stupid to assume that every beautiful woman could never be interested in me because I'm not the "Channing Tatum" type? For anyone who is curious, I have included a link to a photo below. Edited November 2, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Removed link to facebook profile
dasein Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Don't have any other than the same old advice. Get out and get positive feedback from a social circle consisting of all types of people. Not only will that bolster your self-esteem, but they all know single women. Win-win. If you already have a full boat of a social circle and social life, start bending it towards activities that put you in proximity to more single women. Good luck.
xdahliax Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 High school is over. I was a total outcast in high school and I get a lot of male attention. I also have a lot more friends than I could have imagined ever making in high school. You're pretty attractive, and you said yourself that you have a great personality. Take a risk and approach girls. You will be rejected but you'll also be successful sooner or later. Don't take rejections personally, everyone has to go through that.
El Brujo Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Turn it around: become awesome. Go from thinking that you're the one who's missing out, to giving others reasons why they might be missing out. Better to be a little arrogant than be a mopey sad sack.
jcrew11 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Join a yoga class. It might help your coordination and your fitness. The girls will be friendlier and more zen/relaxed.
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