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For those of you who are wondering, all of the girls that I got numbers from were due to cold approaches. As I have mentioned in other posts, there are virtually no girls in my classes and social circle, so cold approach is the only option I got. I get a number if I am able to carry out a long conversation with a girl while keeping her interested. After the conversatoin ends is when I get the number.

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For those of you who are wondering, all of the girls that I got numbers from were due to cold approaches. As I have mentioned in other posts, there are virtually no girls in my classes and social circle, so cold approach is the only option I got. I get a number if I am able to carry out a long conversation with a girl while keeping her interested. After the conversatoin ends is when I get the number.

Sorry, I don't think one can build any sort of connection with somebody else on the very first meeting (especially from a cold approach) unless you had an amazing conversation.

 

Essentially you walked up to, tried to talk to and asked out 40 strangers. That's why your odds of success were so low.

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For those of you who are wondering, all of the girls that I got numbers from were due to cold approaches. As I have mentioned in other posts, there are virtually no girls in my classes and social circle, so cold approach is the only option I got. I get a number if I am able to carry out a long conversation with a girl while keeping her interested. After the conversatoin ends is when I get the number.

 

So wait - you cold approached expecting to get a girlfriend out of it? I think there's your problem...

 

Okay, it can work. But, you'd have much better odds if you actually had a social circle to pick from. This isn't "Baggage" or some dating show.

 

Instead of cold approaching all the time, actually form friendships and let it go from there.

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People have gotten GF's and BF's out of cold approaches and even out of what started out as one nite hook ups.

 

He just needs to keep at it. If there is a 0.1% chance that the OP will get a GF out of a cold approach he needs to approach 1000 women to get 1 GF.

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People have gotten GF's and BF's out of cold approaches and even out of what started out as one nite hook ups.

 

He just needs to keep at it. If there is a 0.1% chance that the OP will get a GF out of a cold approach he needs to approach 1000 women to get 1 GF.

 

Somehow I think most people couldn't handle that mentally...at least, it's not likely OP can since after 40 there's a posting here.

 

That said, I couldn't either. If a girl's interested they'll actually show it. If not, oh well.

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So far this year, I have had 40 girls reject me and that was after I had established a connection of some kind. I have talked to a lot more girls. I only been on 3 dates, but nothing formed. How many girls did you guys ask out before you found a girlfriend?

 

be a douche, sleep with them first, push for sex and then they will be more into actually dating you

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I thought the one was supposed to be like a soul mate or at least someone you're in love with.

 

Why would you be someone's gf/bf unless you at least love them?

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Why would you be someone's gf/bf unless you at least love them?

 

Because you're attracted to them and you like them.

 

Loads of people are have a bf or gf that they don't love.

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People probably don't want to hear this, but alot of men just keep asking girls out until one says yes. This could be a few or dozens.

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Somehow I think most people couldn't handle that mentally...at least, it's not likely OP can since after 40 there's a posting here.

 

That said, I couldn't either. If a girl's interested they'll actually show it. If not, oh well.

 

Your right because most people read the body language and make sure there is some level of real interest before they ask someone on a date. Even then asking out 40 isn't such a high number.

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This past month I just got 5 more rejections. If anyone is curious, I have been cold approaching these girls since there are none in my social circle.

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Maybe you should stop viewing women as sex objects and a halfway decent one will actually show interest in you.

 

I run away from men that think women should be used. I can pick up on it pretty quickly

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The problem is that most women want to be treated like sex objects. If they for not, then they would not fall for jerks, but they do anyways.

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The problem is that most women want to be treated like sex objects. If they for not, then they would not fall for jerks, but they do anyways.

 

Thats fine. Go find one of the women that fall into "most women" and you should be okay. Afterall, since it is "most women" it shouldnt be so hard to find one anyway.

 

Most jerks put on a facade in the beginning. A small % of women will go after men that make it blatantly obvious they are a royal prick.

 

I would have to say based on your posting history you seem like the kind of person who would put on a facade that you care about someone when you actually dont. That will work- problem is, most women dont figure out thats not your true self until it is too late

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Can you provide us an example of the cold approach you are using? Post the conversation, as best as you can remember it and set the scene. I suspect you are coming across as incredibly desperate.

 

The problem is that most women want to be treated like sex objects. If they for not, then they would not fall for jerks, but they do anyways.

 

Then you should have no problem getting laid...oh, wait.

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When I talk to a girl, I talk about classes and other things on campus. I also try to get them to talk about themselves.

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The problem is that most women want to be treated like sex objects.

 

Just curious, how's this philosophy been working out for you so far?

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Just curious, how's this philosophy been working out for you so far?

 

It isn't because he spends all day making the same pity party thread over and over rather than working on his miserable outlook on life.

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People have gotten GF's and BF's out of cold approaches and even out of what started out as one nite hook ups.

 

He just needs to keep at it. If there is a 0.1% chance that the OP will get a GF out of a cold approach he needs to approach 1000 women to get 1 GF.

 

If his chances are really 1 in a 1000, brute force isn't going to be the best approach. He needs to rethink whatever criteria he's using to choose the girls he's approaching or how he's approaching them. If he can bring .1% up to even 1% that's 900 girls less that he has to approach!

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1000. On the dot.

 

Have at 'em, Dweevil. ;)

 

EDIT: Didn't even read the posts above me. I just figured OP wanted a magic number.

 

Those girls ain't gonna reject themselves, make like Nike™ and just DO IT™!

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