sissy106 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) I dont know how is it going... but I still miss him, although he has been wrong to me, but I still remember him when anything similar is going on in my life...whether I am goin same places where we used to be or whether it is the time that reminds me where we were few years back.. Although I am getting over him but those special days and moments still reminds me about him. So today I am feeling very low coz today he reached out to me for the first time 7 years ago and we have celebrated this day for 5 years. I still wonder why cant I stop loving him, even though he never cared, even when he has moved out of relationship without looking back. It hurts, although that sharp pain in heart is missing now, but my mind is still struggling to forget everything. I am living another life now, but why cant I love anybody like I loved him. I know I can not love anybody, the way I loved him. It just hurts to feel this way, and though I am with a better person now but still sometimes I wish I could go back in time when I was happy with him and stays there forever... Edited November 1, 2012 by sissy106
KatZee Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm a little confused. Your ex walked out of your life and never looked back 5 or 7 years ago? And then you say, "we celebrate this day every year." Who is "we" ?? And why are you celebrating the end of a relationship? It's no wonder you don't move on, because you're not even attempting to. You're just idealizing him. Keeping him on his pedestal, and "celebrating" something that isn't even worth a second thought.
Author sissy106 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 (edited) I'm a little confused. Your ex walked out of your life and never looked back 5 or 7 years ago? And then you say, "we celebrate this day every year." Who is "we" ?? And why are you celebrating the end of a relationship? It's no wonder you don't move on, because you're not even attempting to. You're just idealizing him. Keeping him on his pedestal, and "celebrating" something that isn't even worth a second thought. Hey Katzee:confused:, no I am not idealizing him and neither I am celebrating something, I am just remembering that my ex reached out to me for the first time during this day, although he proposed me after one month in Nov. and all this happened 7 years back (2005). We were in relationship since then till we got engaged in Dec 2009 and due to some reasons we broke up in mid 2011. Thereafter I got married too, very soon due to my family pressure and my own state of mind. But I now I think that my marriage thing happend too soon coz I was not completely over my ex till that time, although my hubby knows everything and is a nice person. You are absolutely right that it is not even worth a second thought, but I am not letting anybody know outside that I am still going thru all these things but reality is that inside me he is still running in my mind especially on this day. Although I have moved on and is pretty much happy in new relationship and even dont miss him every second like I used to earlier, but its only me who knows that I am not able to love and care for my new partner, the way I used to love my ex. Its just this feeling that makes me sad today. Still I know I have moved on pretty much and I will pass thru this too, but I was just venting out my true feelings here on this platform....which I am not able to share with anybody else in my real world. Edited November 3, 2012 by sissy106
LostOne1 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I think you need to stop thinking of your old relationship. Sure the date will come and go, but you need to know this new guy loves you. He hasn't left you he's there with you. So why think of someone, who left you? Why think of someone who hurt you, when someone who loves you is right there next to you. Be happy that you HAVE someone now, and someone that loves you too. Be happy with this person and accept you deserve to be happy and that the past is gone. I had my grandma pass away only 4 months ago. I try not to dwell on the past, because it will drive me crazy. My ex left me only 1.5 months after my grandma passed away. I try not to dwell on her now. I got treated like ****, but it's taken me a few months to slowly move on. You've had an enormous time and you need to let go of the past. Everyone changes and moves on and we have to look at tmrw. If we look at last day or 5 years ago.. we will go crazy. personally I laugh looking 5 yrs back and how I was. My life felt so crappy then and I feel more mature now. I sitll feel lots is left to learn.. but the future is where it is at and today this very moment. Enjoy this moment with your loved ones. 1
Author sissy106 Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 I think you need to stop thinking of your old relationship. Sure the date will come and go, but you need to know this new guy loves you. He hasn't left you he's there with you. So why think of someone, who left you? Why think of someone who hurt you, when someone who loves you is right there next to you. Be happy that you HAVE someone now, and someone that loves you too. Be happy with this person and accept you deserve to be happy and that the past is gone. I had my grandma pass away only 4 months ago. I try not to dwell on the past, because it will drive me crazy. My ex left me only 1.5 months after my grandma passed away. I try not to dwell on her now. I got treated like ****, but it's taken me a few months to slowly move on. You've had an enormous time and you need to let go of the past. Everyone changes and moves on and we have to look at tmrw. If we look at last day or 5 years ago.. we will go crazy. personally I laugh looking 5 yrs back and how I was. My life felt so crappy then and I feel more mature now. I sitll feel lots is left to learn.. but the future is where it is at and today this very moment. Enjoy this moment with your loved ones. Hey LostOne1 sorry to hear bout ur grandma and ur ex. Yup, I need to be happy for this that I have someone beside me. I think I have to change my own statement that I got married too soon coz I was not able to get over him...coz reading all these stuff here daily had made me realise that had I been lonely, I would have been even more tensed. And I should be happy coz I am with someone who knows my situation and is still being nice to me. Yes days will pass and I need not to look back, coz I am in much better situation, I am settled and enjoying company of a person who loves me, where as my ex is still not settled and is doing multiple datings to look on for somebody to hang on. I am in much better situation, thanks buddy. Dat is why I come to this place coz whenever I write my worries here I get to know from people that I am in a better place, and I am healing fast due to this. Wish all u guys also pass thru ur bad times and may get healed. We all deserve to be with someone who love us. May all these grieving about past lives ends soon for everone here. Bless u!
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