Tree_Salmon Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm usually very good about sticking to my NC and generally moving on and my gut says not to say anything but my ex's area was one of the big places where death and flooding took place during the hurricane. Should i bother reaching out with a small nod to see if shes ok or dont bother at all. I mean, i didn't get anything from her so I'm assuming she doesn't care. Should I be just as cold? Gut says "don't bother"
mgce Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Don't reach out. It's not cold to continue NC. Staying out of touch is the right thing to do. (I relate to how you feel and am also in the hurricane zone, but this is still the right way to go).
veggirl Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Most people in the hurricane's path are "okay" as in alive and going to make it through, so I don't know if it is necessary. I did break NC but we didn't end on horrible terms or anything like that (he moved to the east coast for a job last month), I sent ONE text Sunday and said I hope he is safe over there and he said it is crazy but he is and thanks, I didn't reply. If there was any big bad break up I would not have said a word.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I'm just getting bombarded with texts asking if i'm ok by people so I was thinking maybe i should have done the same for her but then i realized she hasn't reached out one bit during this thing so she probably doesn't give a crap. 1
Author Tree_Salmon Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I was going back and forth about it but in the end I'm deciding not to. She doesn't give a flying fu*k about how it went here. She's probably spent all her time with her rebound anyway. She doesn't need my actually heartfelt concern.
veggirl Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Yeah, Tree, if you are both in the hurricane area and she hasn't reached out I def wouldn't bother to.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 If you are going to do it, be funny "Hey, you aren't dead are you?" works. Just kidding, don't send anything.
Author Tree_Salmon Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 If you are going to do it, be funny "Hey, you aren't dead are you?" works. Just kidding, don't send anything. That's how i always am. In fact, that's almost exactly what i had written out. But I pictured her blowing her hideous "boyfriend" while I was about to send it. So I decided against it. 2
big bear Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I never got asked.. How am I doing.. Even ppl I do not know that well are asking me,, You did right, do not contact..
Author Tree_Salmon Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 I never got asked.. How am I doing.. Even ppl I do not know that well are asking me,, You did right, do not contact.. Yes, people I haven't heard from in years were texting me all week and she could have done the same. Who knows what it'll lead to. I expect more threats from her ****ty boyfriend. Why do that to myself?
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