kt1012 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 So I did post yesterday that I am confused about whether or not my relationship is going anywhere. 2.5 years and we are in the same place we were in after 6 months.... Anyways.... I think I have known for a while that he and I won't go anywhere but I wanted validation.... My problem is this... I love him, I really do love him. I just have realized that loveing him will not make him willing to move foward with me! I have given him 2.5 years of my life and of my child's life. She thinks he is basically her step-dad. I spend every night with him and am not sure how I will cope without him there! The last thing I ever want to do is hurt him!!! Even though he is hurting me by some of the stuff he does or doesn't do. He and I work together!! We don't work directly with eachother but our offices are on the same floor and we do pass eachother from time to time at work... Plus we have a lot of co-workers that we both hang out with and talk to all the time...All of which tell him to marry me haha I don't know what to say to him... We don't fight and things are kinda just normal, except that I am done wasting my time. I don't know how to bring it up or what to say?????????? HELP ps. I am very worried about being able to make it a permanent breakup because we can't help but see eachother and it is almost like I have become dependant on him being around!
sweetkiwi Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 you can't love someone enough to make them love you. It won't happen. The whole work life slash real life combination is a bad idea from the start and i know first hand. I just broke up with my nice guy because he doesn't love me. And his boss is my only girlfriend here in italy. If you want to be happy, eventually, you'll have to grow your mental balls and leave. Whichever friends take sides are the ones you don't want anyway. Consider it a life douche. Maybe its uncomfortable at first but you'll feel better after. 1
mammasita Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 It is extremely HARD to end a relationship, but I promise it gets better. My BF (I guess he's my BF again, but thats another story) moved out of my house after living with my son and I for almost 2 years. I thought I was gonna die from heartache and lonliness having to sleep alone again..... TADA, I'm still here a month later. I think situations like this are hard for children either way (both moving in with someone, and the dreaded breakup/separation). Ultimately though, they are resiliant as long as YOU are strong and demonstrate that you will be OK no matter what. Not sure how old your child is, but I was very open and honest with my son about what happened with me. He seems to be doing just fine. 2
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