Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Thanks Chi townD, I guess I have answered my own question.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 My last question is this. When I don't respond, what will she do or think, and what are the chances she will text again? It has been 4 days now with no other texts. Thanks to everyone for the advice.
Survivor12 Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 This is the actual text. " My prayers are with you and everybody affected by this terrible storm......so very sad & hope you are ok." In your OP, you said that she was "wondering" if you were okay, but this text says only that she HOPES that you--among others--are okay. Also of note, in no way did she ASK. In fact, the way she worded this is to let you know that she is not singling you out. Bottom line, you do not "owe" her a response.
foreverastone Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 I think it depends how much pride she has I know I have a lot of pride so if someone doesn't respond to my text I think 'Well f*** you too' and just leave it. Unless it was something totally urgent like what time we're meeting for dinner or if I need to bring something to somewhere. Other than that I wouldn't try and get in touch again. but then again you know her better than any of us so you would have some inkling whether she plays games or not 1
Under The Radar Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 My last question is this. When I don't respond, what will she do or think, and what are the chances she will text again? It has been 4 days now with no other texts. Thanks to everyone for the advice. Nobody can read her mind, but if I had to guess she will not contact you again. As another poster stated, she did not specifically ask how YOU are doing. It was worded very carefully and DID NOT require a response. Of course, having been in a LTR, she doesn't want you to die or be harmed by the hurricane. However, she doesn't want to continue a relationship with you. Why continue contact based on these facts? I'm not trying to kick you when you're down, but you need to remain NC. Many of us have been where you currently are in the breakup process and understand the mindset. To be honest, I am proud of you for not responding. I know, from personal experience, how hard it can be to not respond. In my case, I had to learn the hard way and it SIGNIFICANTLY delayed my healing. Who cares what she thinks? It's over, concern yourself with moving on and growing into a better partner for the next amazing girl you will meet. Best of luck to you.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Just an update. It has been 6 days now since she sent the text. No other texts since then. I am so glad I didn't respond.
Ascendingspark Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Good, I wouldn't have responded either. I'd delete that text and not think about it.
gamman Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Block her number from text/call and set up a filter to block her email addy. Do this for YOU. Trust me.
Sameold Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 You definitely did the right thing not responding. She would have heard if you had been injured or killed etc... She was probably testing the water, seeing if you were mad with her etc and if things were "cool" between you after the BU. You not texting back says no they are not cool, you ****ed me over and broke my heart which is exactly all that should be said. You responding in any way would just make her feel better about herself and less guilt about the BU.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Thanks Sameold. I have know idea why she texted, after so many months of absolutely nothing. I find it hard to believe that she would have any concern for my well being, considering how easy it was for her to walk away. Go figure.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 Another update. No other texts, and I haven't responded to her text. It has been over one week now. 1
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 Two weeks now with no follow up text, and I haven't tesponded to her first text.
cavalier99 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 You are in the clear! I'm glad im not getting any texts/emails now. Isn't it messed up how one simple text can mess with our minds. If it was from anyone else we wouldn't think about it at all. But here we have a whole thread of analysis and advise You made the right call not responding. Keep up the NC. Your not waiting/hoping for another text are you? You should block her number.
Author Bad_Feeling Posted November 12, 2012 Author Posted November 12, 2012 What kind of advice is that? Don't quite understand it.
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