Should I respond?

[Bad_Feeling]

After 6 months of NC, my ex gf texts me 2days ago wondering if I was ok due to the storm Sandy. Don't know if I should respond or not. She crushed me when she broke up with me, and I'm not sure what I should do.

[mammasita]

You have two choices IMO:

 

1) Ignore her

2) Respond with a simple "I'm fine" and move on, ignoring anything else she sends.

[Bad_Feeling]

Thanks for the suggestion, will there be more texts, or is this a one time thing. Do not want to reply, but I was madly in love with her.

[mammasita]

Thanks for the suggestion, will there be more texts, or is this a one time thing. Do not want to reply, but I was madly in love with her.

 

Its a possibility. If you dont think you can ignore any further contact, then don't respond at all. Maybe even block her number.

[KatZee]

Thanks for the suggestion, will there be more texts, or is this a one time thing. Do not want to reply, but I was madly in love with her.

 

If you respond, there are absolutely going to be more texts, and this is probably the "in" she is using to get in touch with you to start up a "friendship." It's been 6 months she's probably testing the waters.

 

If you feel you can handle a few casual texts, say "I'm fine."

 

If you're still in love with her and will dwell on these conversations, then ignore and block.

[Bad_Feeling]

So can I consider this a genuine concern, or as a foot in the door type thing. If I don't reply, will that be it?

[foreverastone]

I think you should respond because it seems kind of rude if you ignore her as the storm sandy is a huge disaster and it's only natural to ask if people are ok.

 

I would treat this as a genuine concern thing and not read too much into it. If I were you and I don't want her to respond with more texts just send her a simple 'I'm fine, thanks'.

It shows that you got her text, that you're ok and you don't want to continue the conversation because it's short and to the point.

 

This is what my ex did when I wished them a happy birthday. They replied with a 'Thanks ' and I didn't send them any more text after that because i got the hint.

[Bad_Feeling]

If i do not respond, what will she think, and what was she thinking when she sent the text?

[ParadeRain]

Mate... you was madly in love with her, she broke your heart and you survived...

 

A hurricane aint got sh*t on you

[Bad_Feeling]

Thanks, not quite sure what that means.

[flitzanu]

more to the point, why would she think the hurricane affected you? where is SHE in relation to where you live?

[Bad_Feeling]

I'm on the east coast, and she is onthe west coast.

[flitzanu]

well, my immature advice would be, if you have mutual friends on facebook or other social media, post on someone's page that you are safe, somewhere you know she can see it, that way the "world" knows you're fine, and you don't have to speak to her directly.

 

i'm with the others, that it's way too easy to get caught up in drama with texts like that.

 

i did the same thing dude, text my es years ago during a bad storm, and just getting replies back really hurt. once that communication starts, it's tough to stop feeling. i'm suggesting to NOT reply directly.

[mammasita]

If i do not respond, what will she think, and what was she thinking when she sent the text?

You're asking questions that you nor anybody here can answer. All you can do is control your response, which should should probably be ignoring her. You seem pretty hung up on her still.

[Bad_Feeling]

I would say yes, I'm still "hung up" on her. I just wanted to know the meaning of the text from a womens point of view.

[Under The Radar]

Nobody here, male or female, can honestly tell you what her text means.

 

You need to look VERY hard at the facts:

 

1. She broke up with you in May.
   
2. She never responded to your text in August.
   
3. You admit to being crushed by the breakup.
   
4. You are still "hung up" on her.
   

I disagree with the other posters who said you should return her text. Yes, I am sure she still cares about you having shared time together. However, that does not mean she wants to be in a relationship with you anymore. If you contact her, it will exacerbate your feelings, and ultimately make it harder to heal. Stay NC and heal.

[Bad_Feeling]

Thanks to all. Quite a mixed bag of comments. Still in the dark on what to do, or if this tex is nothing more than a genuine concern. I guess I'll just wait and see.

Thanks again.

[flitzanu]

hell, send one of us her info, we'll write her and let her know you're fine and to quit texting you

[mishy]

i wouldnt respond, i think its just an excuse.

[ParadeRain]

Thanks, not quite sure what that means.

 

It means when you're madly in love with a girl who greats you're heart..

 

One of the hardest things you'll ever do is come out on the other side with your sanity intact.

 

And if you can do that... then a poxy hurricane is water off a ducks back.

 

Then again.. you can't expect her to know this, either way... ignore the text and don't reply.

[Bad_Feeling]

Thanks, I plan to ignore the text, and see what happens if anything. I can't be to much of a concern to her, if she hasn't bothered to follow up after not receiving a respnse.

[InAFog]

i think ignoring is a good idea. i mean if you weren't ok what would she do to help anyway??

[Bad_Feeling]

This is the actual text.

 

" My prayers are with you and everybody affected by this terrible storm......so very sad & hope you are ok."

[Tree_Salmon]

This is the actual text.

 

" My prayers are with you and everybody affected by this terrible storm......so very sad & hope you are ok."

 

sounds like a standard text she threw to everyone. don't respond.

nothing personal about this.

[Chi townD]

Thanks, I plan to ignore the text, and see what happens if anything. I can't be to much of a concern to her, if she hasn't bothered to follow up after not receiving a respnse.

 

BINGO!!!!! You answered your own question.