vm1315 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 In other forum, I read: Dumpers have the power, and don't take this the wrong way, but by the time someone dumps you, they are already annoyed of you on some level and your attractiveness is low, so you make things worse by begging, which makes dumpers look down their noses at you. Give her space and let her know that you are ready to try again if she wants to, otherwise SHE needs to give you space. Give up control because most likely she has already gone. You need to give her time for the negative memories to subside. Even then there is never any guarantee for an ex to want to reconcile. So the best thing to do is to accept it and move on. My question is, when you got dumped, and being looked down, how to take away dumper's power? How to leave the "weak" position?
oracle Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Its only a weak position if you let it become one. No begging, no trying to reconcile.. go NC, focus on yourself, secretly wish bad things for them and find someone hotter to bang 1
ImYours Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Wow reading that is true! i wish i could just accept it. I am trying its bee 4 days NC but i broke last night cause we all got hit with storm and his area no power till monday. I wrote a text saying hoping you and son alright . I think just not knowing if they miss you and you wanting them to see that you are trying to move on and strong is the hard part of NC. I will do my best to remember that he the dumper has power. But not over me. Just the situation. Time to move on. Only time will tell
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 You don't have to accept it, just give the appearance. There is nothing you can do/say to get the ex back so just disappear! Your mindset should be: "You don't want to be with me? Well I'm gone, I'm not going to sit here and wait, I'm giving you exactly what you want." You can't know if they are missing you, and NO WAY can you text/call to find out. Let them go, honor their wish and if you never hear from them, you have your answer. No, they don't miss you. Read the link in my signature.
oracle Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 Begging will just make you hate yourself in the long run. Who gives a fuc? By that time it's over. Most people just are not going to go cold turkey and stop all contact due to the pain levels. This **** is dangerous, and you just have to get the begging out of your system. Eventually you get tired, or find something out that will end contact anyways. When they leave you, it's over, regardless of you don't follow NC. NC is just to save yourself, no restore the realtionship.
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