OompaLoompa Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I am particularly sad today. I just looked around and everyone else seems so happy but me. They are all happy couples hand in hand and I am all by myself. Where do you guys meet people? I never go to clubs and don't want to meet guys from bars. But then where else (other than work)? 1
Carenth Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Sorry to hear you are feeling down. It can be a bit crummy when you see couples all around you and you are by yourself. Some suggestions for places friends of friends? online? or join a club/activity group or something of the like. Sometimes it's random... I have been approached by girls in coffee shops before? 1
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Sorry to hear you are feeling down. It can be a bit crummy when you see couples all around you and you are by yourself. Some suggestions for places friends of friends? online? or join a club/activity group or something of the like. Sometimes it's random... I have been approached by girls in coffee shops before? I am a female in 20s. I mean I have been approached by guys at the airport what not but I don't want to just date anyone because I am lonely... Nowadays, I am so much in doubt about if I will ever meet the Mr.Right, ever. And my confidence can't be lower. Sigh.
Carenth Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I personally don't believe in the whole Mr/Mrs right thing as I believe it sets unrealistic expectations of what you expect in a partner. Don't get me wrong it's good to have standards, I'm pretty picky myself to the point it confuses the hell out of a lot of my friends/family. I'm also pretty content been single for the most part when I am. For me personally the most important thing is emotional compatibility. Sex and what not is very much a secondary thing for me as I don't enjoy random, emotionless, sexual encounters (tried it just not my thing). I think it's good that you are not dating people just because you are lonely, I wouldn't do that either. I only date people I have a genuine interest in. Why are you feeling so low on self esteem? Is it due to the amount of time you have been out of a relationship? or something else? 1
MrCastle Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Didn't realize how hard dating could be for an OompaLoompa, but looking back on it; makes sense. All day in that factory, I don't recall them getting very many breaks, either. 1
Nik1 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I just looked around and everyone else seems so happy but me. They are all happy couples hand in hand and I am all by myself. Try looking at the breakup section. 1
ls32ssibm Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Following high school I was single for 3-4 years, fell in love for 4 months, got dumped, and have been single for the following 1.5 years. I've just accepted life blows and am trying to improve myself. 1
sanjana4u Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I am particularly sad today. I just looked around and everyone else seems so happy but me. They are all happy couples hand in hand and I am all by myself. Where do you guys meet people? I never go to clubs and don't want to meet guys from bars. But then where else (other than work)? Don't feel sad dear...someone who is made for you is still waiting for you...you have to wait only for ryt time... 1
Nik1 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 ^^^Please don't listen to this lady/guy, he/she's ****ing crazy and nothing he/she says is true.
Emilia Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Where do you guys meet people? I never go to clubs and don't want to meet guys from bars. But then where else (other than work)? I never go to clubs either. I have a lot of interests and hobbies so I'm out and about meeting new people all the time. How do you spend your spare time?
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I personally don't believe in the whole Mr/Mrs right thing as I believe it sets unrealistic expectations of what you expect in a partner. Don't get me wrong it's good to have standards, I'm pretty picky myself to the point it confuses the hell out of a lot of my friends/family. I'm also pretty content been single for the most part when I am. For me personally the most important thing is emotional compatibility. Sex and what not is very much a secondary thing for me as I don't enjoy random, emotionless, sexual encounters (tried it just not my thing). I think it's good that you are not dating people just because you are lonely, I wouldn't do that either. I only date people I have a genuine interest in. Why are you feeling so low on self esteem? Is it due to the amount of time you have been out of a relationship? or something else? I don't know. I used to just think that "oh, guess it's just not the right time," "he will come around someday in my life, sooner or later," etc. But that's been years! So now I'm thinking, maybe I have some problem. Maybe there's something with me, that I am not attracting the right people (meaning the people I want). 1
Author OompaLoompa Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I never go to clubs either. I have a lot of interests and hobbies so I'm out and about meeting new people all the time. How do you spend your spare time? I go to a cafe to read usually. I mean in the city, I don't know what else is there to do?
ascendotum Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 A lot of other people are in the same boat, its just that they are not out and about so much, and chances are you don't notice them, because you are focusing on the happy couples wishing you were as happy as they were. Have you ever changed your look or style much? If you don't go to clubs, do you go to bbqs or parties or music venues or festivals? 1
Emilia Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I go to a cafe to read usually. I mean in the city, I don't know what else is there to do? Wow, sounds like you need to widen your horizons somewhat 1
mammasita Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 meetup.com No, I dont work for them. Its a good place to get out there and meet new and different people with similar interests.
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