domple Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Ok I know I might sound nuts but I met a girl online. She's cute and her values and everything match. I know she wants to see me again (met first time last week) and will meet on Saturday. But every time I text she's always super positive and your talkin to a guy who is considered mr positive. Am I just being silly for example this morning I texted her good morning and she replied "Good Morning, the sun is out and summer is around the corner, how are you?" It's just that almost every comment is SUPER POSITIVE and feel like I'm talking to a motivational book. I don't want a depressed chick but has anyone had this experience before?
xdahliax Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I haven't, but it sounds like she's living in The Sound of Music. I can see it getting annoying, but you (or we) could also learn a little something from people like her.
River Rain Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Well, from the example you give, it is a good morning when the sun is out and summer is around the corner. I'm a highly positive person too, but I don't overdo it. Do you think she's overcompensating for nerves maybe? I can see how it might get annoying if it continued though. 2
Author domple Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Is she overcompensating for nerves? I am not sure as I have only met her once. I feel that shes just a genuinely nice girl and I am having a lot of trouble getting her off the topic of work. As I want to get to know her and she said she wants to see me but cant get her off the topic of work. So maybe she is, I am not expecting her to divulge everything about her but I do sense some barriers but it is pushing me away with this VERY optimistic attitude. I suppose I will gauge it on Saturday when I see her. Is there a way I could approach her about this as I it sounds silly saying STOP BEING SO POSITIVE
SpiralOut Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm not sure if it's a good idea to approach her about it. This is her personality we're talking about. If it's really bothering you that much after just one date, it might be better to move onto someone else.
River Rain Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Is she overcompensating for nerves? I am not sure as I have only met her once. I feel that shes just a genuinely nice girl and I am having a lot of trouble getting her off the topic of work. As I want to get to know her and she said she wants to see me but cant get her off the topic of work. So maybe she is, I am not expecting her to divulge everything about her but I do sense some barriers but it is pushing me away with this VERY optimistic attitude. I suppose I will gauge it on Saturday when I see her. Is there a way I could approach her about this as I it sounds silly saying STOP BEING SO POSITIVE Why don't you just wait and see how it goes on Saturday? Maybe once you meet her again, she'll cool it down a bit. And to answer your question, not a clue how to approach that particular problem... 2
serial muse Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Haha, yes, that does whisper "trying too hard." But maybe it's just nerves on her part? Is she like that in person or is that just her texting style? 2
CptObvious Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Hire John C McGinley to send a few texts to her. Here's a free one: "I don’t know if they taught you this in the land of fairies and puppy-dog tales, where you obviously, if not grew up then at least spent most of your summers, but you’re in the real world now. Mmkay?"
todreaminblue Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Ok I know I might sound nuts but I met a girl online. She's cute and her values and everything match. I know she wants to see me again (met first time last week) and will meet on Saturday. But every time I text she's always super positive and your talkin to a guy who is considered mr positive. Am I just being silly for example this morning I texted her good morning and she replied "Good Morning, the sun is out and summer is around the corner, how are you?" It's just that almost every comment is SUPER POSITIVE and feel like I'm talking to a motivational book. I don't want a depressed chick but has anyone had this experience before? I only tend to text when i feel good unlikely to text when i am down......so i think the more time you spend with this girl the barriers you sense might fall away, reality is not texting....... phone calls tend to be an easier way to lose the poetic license to be happy....even then....aint nothing like the real thang.........i do agree with the other poster nerves could be playing a part and the fact you are just getting to know each other....do what you feel so if you cant handle it dont handle it.....you arent invested so if you feel annoyance let her go .....or stick it out and get to know her .......its up to you and your personality....everybody has multi faceted personalities hardly anyone is stagnantly the same....if they are one dimensional.... poke them see if they are real..i only let people close to me see the different sides when i am comfortable with them. when I know they arent going to freak i have to have return with my investment or else.....until then happy happy joy joy....im kidding or am i...........deb
Mer-Maid Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Do you know anything about her background, domple? If she's been through difficult times, that might make her more upbeat than a 'normal' person, I know from experience. I had been disabled since I was 14-years-old (24 years in all - 10 of them homebound) and when we finally found the solution and I got better, I was truly Mary Sunshine, and it was completely genuine. When asked how I was, I didn't just say, 'fine', I was able to honestly say, "Better than I've ever been!" A person's history can make a big difference in their personality! One meets so many negative people everyday, it's refreshing to meet a fellow optimist. 2
Author domple Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 You are all right, I will see her on Saturday. Again it's early days and we shall see what comes of it. As you all said its better to be with someone who is positive than negative Be Awesome 4
irin Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 where do you live? its autumn more like winter is here.
Hawaii50 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm pretty happy-go-lucky, too. But not to an annoying extent. I find negative people very annoying and detrimental to the people around them. Unless her positive nature is based in naivety, then it's not a problem...imho
lovebug1234 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I Don't find it annoying but if it annoys you already, esp on the first date just date someone else. Doesn't make sense to dwell on it so early on. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm with the OP. That cheesy stuff would drive me nuts. I'm not a negative person but it sounds like you're dating Pollyanna. LOL
FitChick Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 There are plenty of depressed, critical and negative women you could date instead.
BetheButterfly Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Am I just being silly for example this morning I texted her good morning and she replied "Good Morning, the sun is out and summer is around the corner, how are you?" It's just that almost every comment is SUPER POSITIVE and feel like I'm talking to a motivational book. I don't want a depressed chick but has anyone had this experience before? I think her reply is cool. In my opinion, it's better than than "Good morning. How are you?" Motivational books are for the most part written by people who have something to give other than the same-old same-old. Saying "Good morning" and "How are you?" is the same old thing that thousands and thousands of people say. Commenting on the sun and the coming season while doing so shows she can go outside the box a little bit and it also shows she loves nature. I think she sounds awesome!!! Positivity is important. If you want a negative girl though, there are quite a few of them around too... I'm a very positive person and some people I'm sure find it annoying. However, that's just a part of diversity... not everyone is the same. If you accept her for who she is, that's great! If not, another guy more than likely will! My husband accepts me even though I'm silly and considered by some to by "annoying." He is silly too. For example, after a meeting, he put his name tag on one of my breasts and mine on the other, "naming" them. I'm just glad he didn't do that in the meeting lol!!! Some girls might think that's annoying but to me, he's downright hilarious!!! Life is short. Look on the bright side! 3
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Anyway, summer's not around the corner. Winter's around the corner, along with the time when anytime normal people are awake it's pitch dark outside. The election is about to be stolen by political thugs, and the east coast is a total shambles. I have a cavity, there is no way of keeping the mud out of my house, and my daughter called me a bitch the other day. I could go on ... :(:(:(:(:( 2
BetheButterfly Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Anyway, summer's not around the corner. Winter's around the corner, along with the time when anytime normal people are awake it's pitch dark outside. The election is about to be stolen by political thugs, and the east coast is a total shambles. I have a cavity, there is no way of keeping the mud out of my house, and my daughter called me a bitch the other day. I could go on ... :(:(:(:(:( Did she really? I can't believe it! She doesn't know what an amazing lady you are!!! 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Did she really? I can't believe it! She doesn't know what an amazing lady you are!!! Well … I am living proof that it's possible to be an amazing lady AND a bitch, simultaneously! 1
BetheButterfly Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Well … I am living proof that it's possible to be an amazing lady AND a bitch, simultaneously! Well she shouldn't have said that. Shame on her! That reminds me of this song... I love this song though I don't love the "b" word for people.
gaius Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 You are all right, I will see her on Saturday. Again it's early days and we shall see what comes of it. As you all said its better to be with someone who is positive than negative Be Awesome It's better to be with someone who is true to their feelings, positive or negative. You know she isn't really that happy. I think we need more quotes from her though to really decide.
dasein Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Stop texting. Call to set dates only until you have dated her enough to know there could be an exclusive relationship in the cards, 5-10 dates. Get to know who she really is in person before worrying about too cheery texts. Good luck.
todreaminblue Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I think her reply is cool. In my opinion, it's better than than "Good morning. How are you?" annoying but to me, he's downright hilarious!!! Life is short. Look on the bright side! so many sad faces, bad places and rough times, so its cool just to put a slice of happiness in a rhyme, if all we remember what in the world is ill, then how do we go on to do gods will, and touch someone who may have despair, how else but with happiness do you show you care, you can accept rough days and be down you can type im smiling but wear a frown, you can have tears on the inside wearing the mask of a clown, to do so becomes a fine tuned art, and one day somewhere by someone happiness starts an original poetic happiness poem just written from me to you BETHEBUTTERFLY, not grammatically correct but from my heart which hates grammar i was inspired to write this from your post....so thankyou...have a great day.....deb 2
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