ScreamingTrees Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 what if there is more than one ugly one? Use both hands? If there's three? Use my other pointer? In that case.. ABORT MISSION.
Nightsky Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 What if there is more than one ugly one? Use both hands? If there's three? Use my other pointer? You can point one at a time. If the group has more ugly chicks in it than hot it will be easier to point out the hot ones.
xxoo Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 When he goes up to a girl he should open with "Hate how I can't ask out a bunch of girls at once!" Than he should go to a group of girls and say "Would any one in this group like to go out on a date with me, You're kidding, but I'd think that was funny as hell! SD, you are so funny here on LS. If you are like that in person, I think I'd have a crush on you! 2
Els Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Second and third what the others have said about over-planning a date - it's good to set a place and time to start with (and not flake about it!), but other than that, being natural and spontaneous about where to go from there is great. So glad you decided to just go for it, SD. Will be rooting for ya.
Author somedude81 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 God dammit! Both girls I wanted to ask out showed up super late, during the time we were actually taking the test. There was about 20 minutes before test time when I could have talked to them. I stayed for about ten minutes after I was finished and one of the girls was talking to two other guys and there was no way I was going to go up to her and ask her out. The other girl was still taking it and I was already pissed that I couldn't talk to the first one. So I just ended up storming out of the room super angry. Now the rest of the year is absolutely fu*ked. Of course who am I kidding, I know that even if I asked anybody out she'd say no. There is nothing in this world that I at all look forward to. The best thing that God could do for me now is mercifully end my life.
ScreamingTrees Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 The other girl was still taking it and I was already pissed that I couldn't talk to the first one. So I just ended up storming out of the room super angry. Now the rest of the year is absolutely fu*ked. Of course who am I kidding, I know that even if I asked anybody out she'd say no. There is nothing in this world that I at all look forward to. The best thing that God could do for me now is mercifully end my life. Man, you can't go all suicidal on us just because of **** luck. And don't go beating yourself up, you don't know what would've happened.. Having a positive attitude can only increase your chances. 1
iris219 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 God dammit! Both girls I wanted to ask out showed up super late, during the time we were actually taking the test. There was about 20 minutes before test time when I could have talked to them. I stayed for about ten minutes after I was finished and one of the girls was talking to two other guys and there was no way I was going to go up to her and ask her out. The other girl was still taking it and I was already pissed that I couldn't talk to the first one. So I just ended up storming out of the room super angry. Now the rest of the year is absolutely fu*ked. Of course who am I kidding, I know that even if I asked anybody out she'd say no. There is nothing in this world that I at all look forward to. The best thing that God could do for me now is mercifully end my life. OMG, Mr. Melodramatic. This reminds of a teenage girl getting a zit before the dance, bursting into tears, screaming "I want to die" and refusing to go. I know you like how convenient the girls at school are, but they are not (or should not be) the be-all, end-all of your existence. Also, women do exist in other places, ya know. You have to CREATE things in your life to look forward to. Go on now. Do it! 3
Author somedude81 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 OMG, Mr. Melodramatic. This reminds of a teenage girl getting a zit before the dance, bursting into tears, screaming "I want to die" and refusing to go. Just in case you didn't know, I'm 31 and have never had a girlfriend. It has caused me to become very depressed for many years. Contemplating suicide has been a daily thought for the past decade. I know you like how convenient the girls at school are, but they are not (or should not be) the be-all, end-all of your existence. Also, women do exist in other places, ya know. I don't have a clue how to meet other girls or even get them to want to date me. Yes the girls in school are convenient, and dating in college is supposed to be the easiest that it will ever be. Yet somehow I managed to completely fu*k it up. Am I really supposed to believe that it will be any easier once I'm in the working world?
iris219 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Just in case you didn't know, I'm 31 and have never had a girlfriend. It has caused me to become very depressed for many years. Contemplating suicide has been a daily thought for the past decade. SD, I know your story. I was simply trying to lighten up a serious matter. I don't have a clue how to meet other girls or even get them to want to date me. Yes the girls in school are convenient, and dating in college is supposed to be the easiest that it will ever be. Yet somehow I managed to completely fu*k it up. Am I really supposed to believe that it will be any easier once I'm in the working world? You know how to meet women. We're all over the place. You don't want to put in the effort to do this. Dating will be easier for you once you're working, mainly because you'll be surrounded by your peer group. Dating was much better for me after college. In fact, I never dated anyone I met in college. I've always dated people I met through friends, at work, or out and about.
Nightsky Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Both girls I wanted to ask out showed up super late, during the time we were actually taking the test. There was about 20 minutes before test time when I could have talked to them. Don't sweat it next time man. After the test is actually a lot better because before the test they may still be reviewing their notes or nervous. Also even if it's just a nothing test it's always a happier atmosphere to be done. After would have been fine. I stayed for about ten minutes after I was finished and one of the girls was talking to two other guys and there was no way I was going to go up to her and ask her out. You know some guys would cut in on a girl dancing with another guy and ask her to dance any ways. All you had to do was go over there and awkwardly stand than pull her away for a moment so you could ask her out. It would have been a bold move in the right direction. A girl is often going to be talking with some one... not just sitting there alone waiting to be talked to. The other girl was still taking it and I was already pissed that I couldn't talk to the first one. So I just ended up storming out of the room super angry. Yeah you should have not got so angry about nothing because you really could have talked to the girl who happened to be having small talk with some guys. Also you just seem to be looking for excuses. You should have sat around and than said hi to her as she was leaving. Made a comment or joke about the test than asked her out. Now the rest of the year is absolutely fu*ked. Of course who am I kidding, I know that even if I asked anybody out she'd say no. There is nothing in this world that I at all look forward to. The best thing that God could do for me now is mercifully end my life. You didn't really try. You made up excuses. "I need to talk to them BEFORE class not AFTER." "That girls talking to some guy therefore I can't talk to her." and my favorite "I'm mad now so I can't wait around to ask the other girl out." The rest of the year isn't fcked cheer up.
xxoo Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Sorry today was a bust. But you essentially sabotaged yourself by waiting until the last possible day to ask a girl out. Think of all the missed opportunities over previous weeks. That's a big part of making your own luck (good or bad). I don't have a clue how to meet other girls or even get them to want to date me. I believe you. I think having a couple of friends would help remedy that a lot. You could learn through observation.
Author somedude81 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 SD, I know your story. I was simply trying to lighten up a serious matter. I know I must sound overly dramatic, but this does feel like a matter of life and death to me. If I somehow manage to keep going on like this without getting anywhere close to getting a girl friend, I will kill myself before I hit 40, that's roughly 8 1/2 years from now. If I manage to make it that long. Odds are the misery will destroy long before then. You know how to meet women. We're all over the place. You don't want to put in the effort to do this. Outside of college, the only way to meet women is to do cold approaches and OLD. I will try OLD but I don't expect much. Dating will be easier for you once you're working, mainly because you'll be surrounded by your peer group. How would that make anything different? What if my peer group is all men, which would be pretty likely since I'll be working in IT. Dating was much better for me after college. In fact, I never dated anyone I met in college. I've always dated people I met through friends, at work, or out and about. Though I'm sure you had plenty of opportunity to date in college, and just chose not to. Tha'ts obsiouly not mly case!
Nightsky Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 What if my peer group is all men, which would be pretty likely since I'll be working in IT. Though I'm sure you had plenty of opportunity to date in college, and just chose not to. Tha'ts obsiouly not mly case! Dating got a lot better and easier for me AFTER college. (I didn't have a gf in hs or college) Look you're 31 and still in college just working part time not in a career job. It should get easier even if every one you work with are men. Heck if college is so great for meeting women take a night class at the community college in what ever creative writing... Personally I think your biggest obstacle is yourself. By that I mean your mind and the way you think about things.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Outside of college, the only way to meet women is to do cold approaches and OLD. I will try OLD but I don't expect much. Wrong....... You can meet women lots of ways. 1. through mutual friends 2. through friends wives/girlfriends 3. through social events 4. through adult coed sports softball & soccer for example 5. an a lot of other ways as well What if my peer group is all men, which would be pretty likely since I'll be working in IT. I work in IT, and I still have female coworkers. I am also friends with some coworkers wives.
Author somedude81 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Sorry today was a bust. But you essentially sabotaged yourself by waiting until the last possible day to ask a girl out. Think of all the missed opportunities over previous weeks. That's a big part of making your own luck (good or bad). I know, so I had to hit myself a few times because I was such an idiot. I was waiting for opportunities to talk to either of them more but they just never happened. I also think I got too focused on girl, which was I what I wanted to avoid in the start. Had to slap myself in the forehead again for that one. Now my forehead is all red. I believe you. I think having a couple of friends would help remedy that a lot. You could learn through observation You know some guys would cut in on a girl dancing with another guy and ask her to dance any ways. All you had to do was go over there and awkwardly stand than pull her away for a moment so you could ask her out. It would have been a bold move in the right direction. A girl is often going to be talking with some one... not just sitting there alone waiting to be talked to. That really is something I have to work on. I do not like talking to a girl when there are other guys around. When it's one guy talking to a girl, I know that he wants to be alone with her so I respect that. If a guy ever tried to cut in when I was dancing with a girl I'd start throwing punches.
iris219 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I know I must sound overly dramatic, but this does feel like a matter of life and death to me. If I somehow manage to keep going on like this without getting anywhere close to getting a girl friend, I will kill myself before I hit 40, that's roughly 8 1/2 years from now. If I manage to make it that long. Odds are the misery will destroy long before then. You HAVE to learn to be happy on your own. Relationships aren't the answer. What if you got a GF and she made you miserable? Relationships often destroy us and it takes years to recover, and often we're never the same. You don't seem to realize how awful and damaging relationships can be. What makes you think you're going to get in a happy one? Outside of college, the only way to meet women is to do cold approaches and OLD. I will try OLD but I don't expect much. No to cold approaches. Most people meet through friends. So you're willing to give OLD a try? That's great news! How would that make anything different? What if my peer group is all men, which would be pretty likely since I'll be working in IT. You would make friends and have people to go places with, increasing your chances of meeting women.
xxoo Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I work in IT, and I still have female coworkers. I am also friends with some coworkers wives. And when married couples have bbqs, they invite all sorts of people. And those sorts of comfortable social events make it much easier to talk to new women. But first you have to make some friends!
Nightsky Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I know, so I had to hit myself a few times because I was such an idiot. I was waiting for opportunities to talk to either of them more but they just never happened. You need to make your own opportunities sooner than later. Like the first day of class next time. That really is something I have to work on. I do not like talking to a girl when there are other guys around. When it's one guy talking to a girl, I know that he wants to be alone with her so I respect that. If a guy ever tried to cut in when I was dancing with a girl I'd start throwing punches. Who cares if he wants to be alone, so did you! He should have known you wanted to talk to her after class lol. Just kidding, but still you should have gone over and talked to her and tried to pull her aside any ways. That would have been a try, and cool. Also if a guy ever tries to cut in while dancing with a girl just tell him to move along or what ever. How is it you're afraid to ask out a girl if she doesn't show up before class and sit there alone yet you claim you'll fight a guy if he tries to dance with a girl you're dancing with? I wouldn't start fights over such things, a good way to get arrested and or seriously injured. If the guy attacks you than fight if you need too. No to cold approaches. Most people meet through friends. So you're willing to give OLD a try? That's great news! I disagree as cold approaches might make you more confident if you get over your hang ups. OLD is not something you should be relying on. Only use it as entertainment value with no expectations. OLD is probably one of the reasons you're single, think about it.
tman666 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Sorry to hear things didn't go the way you wanted them to! I will echo the sentiment that having a career and making friends will go a long way. Cold approaching girls is one of the absolute WORST ways to get dates, even if you are the type of guy that can walk up to any girl with un-faked swagger and put something together. The approach you're taking (waiting for a window of opportunity to open up versus making your own window) only further decreases the odds of success. I know this because I've tried it. And failed, many times. Any time you appear to be a "lone wolf", you will be viewed with suspicion, no matter how good looking or smooth you are. This isn't just you, it's every male ever. I get checked out about 50 times more by girls when I'm with my fiancee or while hanging out with guy friends than I do when I'm out doing things alone. I hope you're seeing the common theme here: finish your degree, find a career job, and work on getting a friend or two. Pro-tip: female friends trump male friends in terms of the potential for getting exposed to more single girls. 1
yessy21 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 thats 5 slaps and 5 dramatic turnarounds... ahahahhaha
veggirl Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Calm down SD!! Add them on Facebook and then chat them and get a bit of a rapport going and invite them to do something. That way you can ask them all and see who bites!
ThaWholigan Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Build that circle my friend, build that circle . I swear, soon as I am rich, I'm flying over there to help you . 2
clia Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Try joining some groups near you on Meetup.com -- they are a fabulous way to meet people -- both new friends and people to date.
Author somedude81 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Calm down SD!! Add them on Facebook and then chat them and get a bit of a rapport going and invite them to do something. That way you can ask them all and see who bites! So it's not too late to add them to facebook and stuff?
Nightsky Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 So it's not too late to add them to facebook and stuff? It's never too late. Add them! Write a comment on their pictures. Something good.
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