somedude81 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Right now there are five girls I want to ask out in my salsa class. It would be so convenient if I could get them together and ask "You're all beautiful. Would any of you like to go to the show with me this weekend." The alternative basically requires me to pick a favorite, ask her out, then if she rejects me, move on to the next one and start at ground zero and hope she didn't find out that I asked somebody out before her, because it would make her feel less special or something And thinking a girl that one isn't dating, as special, is a horrible mistake. Simply because there is no guarantee that she will return the feeling. I'm not doing that again. Frankly, if they're all going to reject me, I'd rather get it over with as quickly as possible.
SmileFace Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Conference call. "Hey girls! I wanted to know if any of you wanted to go out with me? Any takers... you Amber? Megan? Come on - Amanda!?. Well, Ann, Taylor?Umm, ok" Ok, in all seriousness do you think the above will work? I hope not - because it is a bad idea. How about you plan an outing with all of them and other guys in the class and actually ask out the one you are interested in. 8
mesmerized Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 has any of these girls shown any kind of interest in you? have you flirted with them at all? 1
ascendotum Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I guess it depends on how much these girls chat and socialize with each other between or after lessons as to the likelihood that the others will find out that you have already hit on one of them. Its possible the first one will blab and then the others will know they are your 2nd options. If the one you like the most doesn't yak/gossip that much with the others then, go for her, otherwise if you would be happy having any of the 5 as a gf then, go with the one who seems the most friendly & receptive to you when you chatted or flirted with her in the past. 1
ThaWholigan Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I guess it depends on how much these girls chat and socialize with each other between or after lessons as to the likelihood that the others will find out that you have already hit on one of them. Its possible the first one will blab and then the others will know they are your 2nd options. If the one you like the most doesn't yak/gossip that much with the others then, go for her, otherwise if you would be happy having any of the 5 as a gf then, go with the one who seems the most friendly & receptive to you when you chatted or flirted with her in the past. Agree. Flirt with the girls a little, banter with them.
KraftDinner Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Are you the type to organize outings or whatever? If so, ask them all to go for a drink after class or something.
Hawaii50 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 make an announcement "All I wanna know is, who's coming with me?!" Salsa is a great idea >cheers< In all honesty, I think you'd be better served figuring out which one gives you the most interested already and separating her from the flock. eh? 3
Hawaii50 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Are you the type to organize outings or whatever? If so, ask them all to go for a drink after class or something. ^ better idea. I don't know what would be more impressive to a woman than entertaining a group of 'em while they get to know you and your cool self.. cause you just set it all up
Author somedude81 Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Conference call. "Hey girls! I wanted to know if any of you wanted to go out with me? Any takers... you Amber? Megan? Come on - Amanda!?. Well, Ann, Taylor?Umm, ok" Ok, in all seriousness do you think the above will work? I hope not - because it is a bad idea. How about you plan an outing with all of them and other guys in the class and actually ask out the one you are interested in. Of course I know it doesn't work, that's why I made a thread stating how I hate I can't do that. No, I'm not interested in just one of them. That's because every time I focused on one girl, she rejected me, and then I felt like I wasted my time getting to know her. Never mind the fact how much it sucks to be turned down by somebody I like. I really don't care if I could date A, B, C, D or E. I'd be fine with any of my top five, out of the 20 or so girls in the class. has any of these girls shown any kind of interest in you? have you flirted with them at all? I can't tell the difference between interest and friendship. On that note, these girls have shown to be friendlier towards me than the other girls in the class. Putting it another way. The majority of girls in the class are tepid towards me. A couple girls are cold. And some girls are like a nice warm bath Nobody is obviously hot. I basically know which girls would decline if I asked them out, but I don't have a clue who if any, would say yes. I guess it depends on how much these girls chat and socialize with each other between or after lessons as to the likelihood that the others will find out that you have already hit on one of them. Its possible the first one will blab and then the others will know they are your 2nd options. If the one you like the most doesn't yak/gossip that much with the others then, go for her, otherwise if you would be happy having any of the 5 as a gf then, go with the one who seems the most friendly & receptive to you when you chatted or flirted with her in the past. The girls seem to have divided themselves into friend groups, of which there are several in the class. From what I can tell, there are two girls who are friends in group A, two who are friends in group B and the 5th girl is the only one in her group I'm attracted to. If I ask out somebody in group A, then most likely she'll tell her friend. The same for somebody in B. But I don't think if I ask out somebody in B she'd tell anybody in A or C. (I'm making a diagram if to make sense of this ) At this point I can't tell who is the most receptive. 1
ascendotum Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Salsa lessons in theory sounded like a great idea to meet girls, but it has not been the success you hoped it would in the past. Are these a new batch of girls? You should be getting reasonably good at it now. I know there are salsa lessons in my city but I don't know of any clubs/venues where it actually goes on. Is there clubs in your city that have salsa/latin theme....if so, and you are pretty good now, maybe you should give them a visit?
Author somedude81 Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Are you the type to organize outings or whatever? If so, ask them all to go for a drink after class or something. The only outing I can see getting anybody to go to would be to a salsa club and the last time I tried to do that only one guy showed up. I think I tried to rely on Facebook too much, and it was easy for people to flake out. I don't think I'll have any luck being able to get some people to have a drink sometime after class. Salsa lessons in theory sounded like a great idea to meet girls, but it has not been the success you hoped it would in the past. Are these a new batch of girls? Yeah it's a new batch of girls every semester. And your right that I haven't had the success I've hoped for. But the fact is that salsa basically is the best place to meet girls. It's almost like Salsa is a speed dating event that lasts a couple of months. I can't think of any other situation where I get to meet so many girls and we have to interact with each other. Of course the major downfall is that one doesn't have to be single and looking to be in a salsa class. You should be getting reasonably good at it now. I know there are salsa lessons in my city but I don't know of any clubs/venues where it actually goes on. Is there clubs in your city that have salsa/latin theme....if so, and you are pretty good now, maybe you should give them a visit?I've been to a few actual salsa clubs and frankly, have had a terrible time each time I went. The problem is that there are just way too many guys at the clubs and the vast majority of girls there, actually arrived with a guy. From what I've seen, the only way to have fun at a salsa club is to bring one or more girls with me, so I will always have somebody to dance with.
xxoo Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I can't tell the difference between interest and friendship. On that note, these girls have shown to be friendlier towards me than the other girls in the class. So flirt, and see who responds. Indicate some attraction. You can't ask them all out, but you can flirt with all of them and gauge who flirts in return. 1
ThaWholigan Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Somedude, do you reckon you are a good dancer? This may be a factor - believe it or not. I admit, I am a terrible dancer, my brother says I dance like an old white man at Notting Hill Carnival . 3
Author somedude81 Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 So flirt, and see who responds. Indicate some attraction. You can't ask them all out, but you can flirt with all of them and gauge who flirts in return. ROFL, for all I'm concerned, I've flirted with all of them already. Their reaction to me is why they're on my top 5. Beyond that I'm clueless. Somedude, do you reckon you are a good dancer? This may be a factor - believe it or not. In terms of salsa dancing, I'm Ok. Considering the level of the class I'm in, then I'm pretty good. Everywhere else, not so much. I admit, I am a terrible dancer, my brother says I dance like an old white man at Notting Hill Carnival .
xxoo Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 ROFL, for all I'm concerned, I've flirted with all of them already. Their reaction to me is why they're on my top 5. Beyond that I'm clueless. Describe. What did you do/say, and what did they do/say?
Minka333 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 You should be in "The Bachelor-Salsa Edition"..jk:bunny: But really, just try to see who shows the most interest..and pick the winner:)
CptObvious Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Rank them from 1-60 and strike out in that order. Pace yourself.
MrCastle Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Not sure how many of these 5 hot girls are 5 hot single girls. You need to find that out before you start thinking of dates. Don't start getting attached to women that are off the market. 1
Els Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Well, lots of stuff IRL would be convenient, but it just ain't happening. I'd love to be able to go out in pyjamas everyday, and why people are expected to primp themselves to appear in public is beyond me, but that's just the way society works, so we either adhere or face the consequences. Frankly, though, I don't think you'd be very flattered if you were with a bunch of guys and a girl went to you all one by one, asking you out in turn.
kaylan Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 (edited) Heres the problem OP; Sure single men and women tend to have more than 1 person who catches their eye that they would want to date. However, no one wants to acknowledge an insinuation that states "hey, Im just open to any decently attractive female in the vicinity. And you are all here and I need someone, so Im willing to take whoever will have me" Thats what your OP says. And the hottest girl in a room could approach me and some other guys I am talking to...and if she said what you said in your OP, Id be quite turned off. Its like saying "look I just need someone to give me some penis, and any of you will do." Sometimes this is the case with people, but no one wants to be made to feel that right away. People want to feel unique. And making it known to all the women in the room that youd take whomever, and that they arent special in a way, is totally going to lose you many points. To do what youre trying to do OP, I would take a funny angle. Make friends with all the girls, and then one day while everyone is talking, you can slide in a remark to reel in one of them. If something regarding dating comes up, I can guarantee one will say something about how guys are complicated or how we suck. In which case you can say "Well I guess you at least have me pegged, I am a handful. *insert some witty comment about yourself*". Just say something like that very jokingly, and see if a girl bites on that and tries to gab you up some more. Thats just one way Id say you could build rapport with the entire group, and then fish for one without looking silly. However, Id say to just lightly flirt with each of them one on one, and see who bites. Its easy to flirt with a girl, and gauge interest. That kind of light flirting allows you to come off friendly, and not seem like you were making an outright play for her to go out with you. That way she cant make any accurate assumptions, and you are safe to make a play at all of the women you find desirable. Edited November 1, 2012 by kaylan 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 No offense, but the quicker you realize that the window of opportunity for you to date any women has already closed, the better. Seriously, you need to move on with your life. Women aren't in the cards. Sorry.
sweetkiwi Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 5 women in one class!? What a sexy class. Or what low standards. Either way you need to narrow your field of vision. You will have no luck with the shot gun approach. We, women, want to feel special. Not like one of many options. And if you pay attention we are special. Just like you are. Find the one who is into you. Really into you. Not just for an ego boost. But for you! Try the shot gun approach on a group of women not so connected.
Author somedude81 Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 No offense, but the quicker you realize that the window of opportunity for you to date any women has already closed, the better. Seriously, you need to move on with your life. Women aren't in the cards. Sorry. So you finally got the Bi-Lateral Orchiectomy?
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 So you finally got the Bi-Lateral Orchiectomy? No. But going over a year without watching porn or masturbation does help to kill your sex drive. Try it. Seriously (the abstaining from porn part I mean). There's no need to go on living in pain and denial like this forever...
Author somedude81 Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 My God this Asian girl in my salsa class. She's so fun, nice and warm. She makes me feel so good when I'm with her. Once it was time to go she gave me a tight hug. Unfortunately she seems to like another dude in the class and they often leave together. If he wasn't in the class or didn't receive any attention from her, I would have asked her out a long time ago. So frustrating.
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