GoBomb36 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Well, guys, things went well last week for about 3 days...we were so close to getting back together. Long story short, she was coming to hang out with me Wednesday night. Told me she was going to see her friend and then she was coming to me...while with her friend, about an hour before she comes to me, I get a text from her telling me we have to talk. She brings up some old stuff about when we had split up, and were supposed to be working on our relationship. She was upset that I had contact with other girls during this time, as I was unsure if I was going to be moving away for a new job. She comes over, and mistakenly, I began drinking before she got there...I was very inebriated when she came. She had been drinking also, and when she was there, I was so frustrated at telling her for the past month that things would be different and I was in it for the long haul, that I sort of freaked out. Threw something down in my room, she freaked because she'd been in a relationship before that was abusive, and walked out. She'd try to walk past me outside, and I'd grab her and hold onto her...she did not like it. Sad thing is, I hardly remember much of this. Tells me she'd talk to me the next day, and I've heard nothing from her. Only remote thing I've heard is today...I tweeted, "I just want her to be happy. #TrueLove." She favorited it, and that's it. I see her tweet to her new boyfriend (who has a 6 yeard old kid and it blows my mind she wants to be with him, when I could give her everything, even though I'd screwed up in the past) and it just kills me. She's defriended me on Facebook. I may have an opportunity after this May to move away for a new opportunity, and this seems like the right time to do it. What do I do guys? i miss her, and love her, but not sure how to handle this..thanks!!
Balzac Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I'll wait for the usual suspects chime in but if she was in an abusive relationship prior to you--you've dodged a bullet. OR you too are an abuser. Not sure how to evaluate that. Best thing for you to do is NEXT. Nobody said the loss is easy.
hurt_burst Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I think the only way for us to is to learn to live through it and it means making no contact with her. Because i feel making a contact and getting your fingers burned is worse then making No contact. because if you are not making contact you are healing yourself and getting no fresh insult from her.. and you are kind of forgetting the last one... also it gives us a chances to put our life back on track. Remote possibility of her making a comeback is also through this route.. So overall No Contact is the best option to go with.. initially its tough.. but once you do it for a day or two.. you would start to grow stronger at this...
lovebug1234 Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 It's tough but just let her go. also, figure out a way to get your drinking in check. breakups are not always easy, allow yourself to feel the pain but also remember that there's another chance for something better. for whatever reason she is with the new guy, she was the one that left you.
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