nola504 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I'm sick of being treated like i'm not worth anything because i'm not a size 5. Men seem to think that because i'm a bbw that i'm desperate for a man and will take anything off them. I was in a long term relationship and it ended in 99 ever since then the dating scene has been pure hell. (tried the personals-all those guys do is LIE) I'm tired of one sided relationships where i'm giving 110% and not getting any thing back in return. Giving my heart and having it trampled upon. I'm tired of being lied too, mistreated, and cheated on. I'm tired of being sick and tired. I want some one who will love me for me and be happy with just me. I have a lot of love to give and I'm not looking for a man to take care of me or complete me. I want someone who will compliment me, for I'm already complete. I'm looking for my friend, lover, and soulmate. I'm a professional woman(never married, No kids), currently in school, work full time, own my home and have my own transportation. I'm smart, consider my self pretty, great sense of humor. So, why am I being taken for granted? I planned a birthday weekend for the guy i'm dating now. He ended the weekend early again saying his dad planned something for him(here i am with 2 tickets to Florida-wasted). Well, I didn't hear from him the rest of the weekend. He called on Sunday to say he was in bed all day from food poisoning. Serves him right...:-) I've decided that i'm not going to settle for less. I'm going to dump him and he wont have to lie to me anymore about spending time with his dad or anyone else.
lnichols Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 You DO deserve better and you deserve to be loved unconditionally! Don't give up. There is someone out there for you. It sounds like you have a lot of love to gove. And there are men out there who are crazy about BBW! Be happy with who you are and keep trying. They aren't all jerks.
Martyn Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Never ever give up! Anyone deserves to be loved, especially if he hasn´t made any major mistakes and to be honest, it isn´t your fault, is it?
doppelganger Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I agree with the above posts, don't settle. But let me see if i get this straight. Plane tickets for two to florida for a guy you're just dating? Granted, its a birthday, but whoa! I think most guys would be happy with the 3 dvd box set of Die Hard. Maybe your giving of 110% is pushing guys away? To me, Die Hard dvd's say you care, buying a weekend getaway with someone you're only 'dating,' a bit much it if you're not solid in the relationship yet. Might scare guys away. My $0.02 ------------- Beauty fades.... Attitude lasts forever...
Author nola504 Posted August 5, 2004 Author Posted August 5, 2004 Ok, maybe ur right, maybe i'm am giving too much. We were friends before anything else. (I would never buy tickets for some guy I just met) Anyhoo, I've decided to call it quits with him. I'm not going to settle for less anymore. If he can't treat me like I deserve to be treated then i'm outta there. I've decided to focus my energy back into school and finishing up my degree. It just gets loney at times. Thanks, guys for all the wonderful advise. But, I think I knew the answer all along. :-)
Dork Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 There's an easy solution for this. You say you are fat so men think you are easy. How about losing weight? It's so logical... spock.
honey2005 Posted August 7, 2004 Posted August 7, 2004 There's an easy solution for this. You say you are fat so men think you are easy. How about losing weight? It's so logical... spock. Someone shouldn't try to lose weight just to get a guys to like them. If they want to lose weight they should do it for themselves. Nola, you don't have to change your appearance to get someone who will treat you right. There are guys out there who will love you for who you are. You don't ever need to settle. Everyone deserves to be loved, even if they aren't size 5.
Author nola504 Posted August 9, 2004 Author Posted August 9, 2004 Thanks, for the positive comment, you are totally right. I'm not trying to lose weight for some man to want me. This comment is to the other poster: The situation is not about weight, it's about some guy being a total jerk and a lier.
NatoPMT Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 Hi Nola Sorry you feel like that - of course you dont deserve anything less than what you want if you bought your fella tickets, did you ask him to keep the weekend free beforehand? did you ask him if he had any plans? how do you know he lied about seeing his dad? if he did freak out about it being a grand gesture, then to be compatible with him you need to be slower in coming forward, which means hes not a t*sser, it just means you 2 werent right. but if he was making alternative arrangments and you didnt factor those into your trip to florida, you cant be mad at him. does he know about the trip? what did he say when you told him? about the weight thing - are YOU happy with you weight? truly? if you are, why do you think others arent and you get treated badly because of it? that indicated to me you may not be happy with your weight as you are prepared to blame it for your bad luck in dating. BB
Recommended Posts