xdahliax Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I'm just not the type of guy to randomly slap a girl's butt, rub on her thighs, or pull out random kisses and such. That's not me, I try to be more of a gentleman. Besides if she's not giving any signals you risk actually offending her instead of making her pleased with your actions, and I have a hard enough time just getting a date as it is so I try not to mess it up. The fact that you interpreted his message that way clarifies why you don't do well in dating.
GirlontheLam Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I am in 2 minds, because of my pro-black background I take all of this into account, but when it comes to who I want to be with and who I want to have children with, race is not going to be the biggest factor in the world. It's more complicated than that. Exactly! I get so confused over this issue. In some ways I totally want a fellow black man, and in other ways I think well it doesn't matter, fit and compatibility matter a lot more.
GirlontheLam Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I've personally heard black women trash talk black men for diggin' on/in white women. They almost consider it treasonous, or just a "phase." Haven't heard anything 180 though. but 180-180, white guys are definitely insecure about losing a white girl to a black guy to a very racist extent. I'll be honest, I have mixed feelings. For me it is all about the *why.* Good: I date all women because I am attracted to lots of types of women Bad: I date white women because black women are loud, aggressive, domineering, trashy, ghetto........... <insert your favorite stereotype here> Bad: in the hierarchy of women <insert your favorite non-black ethnicity here> are the "prize" and make it look like I have "arrived" because they are "better" than black women So I am always a little worried/skeptical if someone who is black (or whatever group they are) and refuse to date people of their own group. 2
Author Necris Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 The fact that you interpreted his message that way clarifies why you don't do well in dating. Okay... but what way are you supposed to interpret it? @GirlontheLam I do agree interracial dating should be done with an open mind, not to try to spite someone or get a "prize".
GirlontheLam Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 It depends on the situation, I'm ordinarily comfortable speaking to girls and such, but I'm uncomfortable touching or kissing (never actually did this before) girls. Start small. Like an arm touch. Always a good move. If someone is attracted, they will be more attracted and receptive. If they are repulsed, their body language will show it too. Then you can build up to the "higher value" physical contact.
MrCastle Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I think me, like most people (certainly most non-whites) my race has 1.) Hindered my success 2.) Had a neutral effect on my success 3.) Improved my success All depending on the woman. There is without a doubt women who have rejected me for being hispanic. There have been women who didn't care either way. There were women that made my job very easy because they were into the whole spicy latin lover thing and wanted me to rock their world. I take the good with the bad. I like the fact that I can play that rico suave card when a woman wants me to. That is a hispanic-only privilege. If you want some latin heat you can't get it from an irish dude, you know what I mean? 1
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