Sun Devil Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 As you know, I am a very short guy who is shorter than most women. Now some of you will tell me to get a shorter girl, but there are not too many of them and the ones I know are all in a relationship. Some guys I know will not date taller women, but I am not llike that. I would not mind dating a 6 foot tall woman even though I am only 5 feet tall. To me, a woman's height means nothing. However, I want to know how do I convince a woman to date a shorter man and where would I find a woman who does not care about height?
iris219 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 As you know, I am a very short guy who is shorter than most women. Now some of you will tell me to get a shorter girl, but there are not too many of them and the ones I know are all in a relationship. Some guys I know will not date taller women, but I am not llike that. I would not mind dating a 6 foot tall woman even though I am only 5 feet tall. To me, a woman's height means nothing. However, I want to know how do I convince a woman to date a shorter man and where would I find a woman who does not care about height? You can't convince her. Some women will date shorter men and some won't. Your job is to find one who will rather than trying to convert one who doesn't want to. 1
Author Sun Devil Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Where would I find these women. I have seen some relationships where the woman was taller, but I dont know where to find these types of women.
iris219 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Sorry, but I don't know of a specific place where women who like short guys congregate. Church, maybe? In places with high Asian or Hispanic populations?
Hawaii50 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Where would I find these women. I have seen some relationships where the woman was taller, but I dont know where to find these types of women. if you're below average in one area, you're going to have to be above average in others. bottom-line. No one is going to take a list of below averages and think "sweet, exactly what I was looking for." Well they might, but then I'd be questioning motives. There needs to be a over-all balance.
Hawaii50 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I really wish you would wake up and stop talking about how short you are. Shoe inserts for men ^^Not even joking, might give you that few inches you need to stop being so sour... I'm equal opportunity.. if they're going to have fake breasts, high-heels, make-up, I think it's pretty acceptable for you level the playing field (little pun)
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Yeah there's no way you can convince a woman that's already had her mind made up unless you are able to get in close and spark chemistry and interest from an one on one situation, but even then at 5 ft tall you're going to get shut down by a LOT of women. I see Asian women date the smallest/shortest/petite type of men at least in Los Angeles, so if I were you that'd be my target zone. I would say most of these guys are below average in size and build, they seem to be doing fine getting dates, however I'm sure even to them they see a difference in sizes even though they are all small to me and I just group them together...for me 5ft to 5'7 is all the same to me at 6'1, the only heights that stand out to me are people that are close to mine or taller. And I'm not a woman or a short guy so height has never been a great concern to me nor ever been a reason i had to pay attention to it much, I kinda don't get it, that's just my luxury however I guess. Many women hate to feel bigger and taller than their men, it makes them feel "safe" with a taller guy even if he couldn't curl 10 pounds, is basically a skeleton or would lose a fight to a strong kitten. It's just something psychological, and many take it pretty seriously because being insecure themselves they use taller men to compensate for their lack of, they live the dream through tall men! You just gotta keep trying, you're not going to know before hand, women who date short men don't congregate in short men zones. They're just regular women walking about, and you should target women who are not very tall themselves (under 5'5). And this would likely be more effective in real life than OLD, most men have difficulty with online dating because of the expansive options that women have and are unable to stand out. It's gonna be tougher for you, but sitting around crying about it all day isn't going to make your chances any better. You have to play the cards that are dealt to you.
crude Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Sorry, but no way can you date taller women, especially really tall ones. From what I read on here, many people are caught up in the sexual stereotypes. The man is the one who leads, who protects, who even leads when dancing. In your case, you'd be like a chihuahua to a tall woman. Every stereotype would be shattered, SHE'D carry YOU over the threshold. Society will never be ready for that, based on what so many here seem to believe.
somedude81 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 You need to convince her that you are an amazing guy. Once you do that she will have a easier time looking over your height. As for actually convincing a girl, I haven't got that far yet... 1
kiss_andmakeup Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Sorry, but I don't know of a specific place where women who like short guys congregate. There should be a local "Tall Girls Who Love Short Men" club near your town. You can google it or look it up in the yellow pages. Seriously? There ISN'T a place where they congregate! They don't congregate! Period! They're just out there, intermingled with everyone else! Honestly I really can't see a 6-foot tall woman wanting to date a 5-foot tall man. I'm 5'8 and have dated shorter men, but I have to be totally honest, at 5' it would just never happen.
hinatticus Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Sorry, but no way can you date taller women, especially really tall ones. From what I read on here, many people are caught up in the sexual stereotypes. The man is the one who leads, who protects, who even leads when dancing. In your case, you'd be like a chihuahua to a tall woman. Every stereotype would be shattered, SHE'D carry YOU over the threshold. Society will never be ready for that, based on what so many here seem to believe. Exactly, people HERE! That doesn't mean the rest of the planet. I've only dated taller woman so I know that it can happen.
mortensorchid Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I've never had a problem with it myself. I am 5'10", I have been with guys who are/were shorter than me. They don't seem to see it as an issue, neither did I quite honestly. If anyone was bothered by it, they never said anything about it. But really, one thing that bothers me is the guys out there who try to tell you that they are actually taller than they are. One said he was 5'11", he came up to my cheekbones and clearly shorter than me. I guess it's all relative, but when you know the person is shorter than they are telling others and when you see otherwise, it's a little sad. Still, that isn't going to stop anyone from doing it.
CarrieT Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I have referenced a handful of Dating Sites for short men - have you looked into them?
todreaminblue Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 As you know, I am a very short guy who is shorter than most women. Now some of you will tell me to get a shorter girl, but there are not too many of them and the ones I know are all in a relationship. Some guys I know will not date taller women, but I am not llike that. I would not mind dating a 6 foot tall woman even though I am only 5 feet tall. To me, a woman's height means nothing. However, I want to know how do I convince a woman to date a shorter man and where would I find a woman who does not care about height? You have asked this before, you dont need to convince a woman to date you, you need to be convincing that you are happy to be you that you are not resentful of other people one being other guys for getting the taller women and two you are not resentful of other women for not dating you so you have to convince that woman you want to date that you don't have a chip on your shoulder.......a lot of my friends over the years i have had, will not date a shorter man...it is their preference.......i will date a shorter man.....i have also dated amazons i don't have a height preference....most of the guys i have dated have been physically fit.....short or tall......all of them have had intelligence of one kind or another and when they haven't that is when i say goodbye......i am more attracted to depth than width or height...... I understand your frustration at a world that seems to be aesthetic in nature, but if you remain true to who you are then you find soemone who appreciates that. I attract men and i am not tall don't consider myself to be attractive(I know i have some good features), but i am friendly and i am told my eyes sparkle when i am talking to others so being happy attracts dates....you are approachable a smile goes a long way to showing that you are approachable make that smile go all the way to your eyes...even if you feel insecure about your height you dont have to resent people for your height or the lack of attention that you get,, just enjoy others company and that might get a potential date to look past your height and see you the person......good luck......deb
Recommended Posts