derrick231 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 My ex told me that she is going to Cancun Mexico next week.. We haven't really been talking very much cause she said she wants to be able to see other guys without being questioned. So I stopped talking or emailing her...now she emailed me yesterday and says to call her tomorrow when she's off work if I want to.. I guess I will call her...and try to just talk normal and not tell her I want her back or anything.....But should I be worried about if she goes to cancun messing with other guys or not??? she's dated some guys already....and even messed around with one...I know she gets horny when she's been drinking, some I'm scared that something will happen down there, b/c they do get free drinks with there hotel......I've seen the shows and heard the rumors about Cancun...people just go to get laid it seems like......What should I act like or do??
Butter15 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 i think you should just move on she probably knows that she's messing with your feelings and that's not right, i want to stay with my boyfriend too but i have to let him go because he wants to be single and just live his life, she should stop messing with you and let you live yours. I know you don't want to move on and neither do I but I guess both of us do...it's going to be hard, I'm really scared to be alone and tomorrow it would have been 10 months and i'm just going to feel so lonely and i don't want to, i still just want to be in his arms and know that evereythings alright but i can't because he'd be lying then i guess...oh i know how you feel and i know it hurts but the best thing for you to do is just move on.
budd98 Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 I've been to Cancun and know the environment. Yeah people there have a crazy attitude, but it is only the right now attititude and not future terms. Anyways, what I am trying to say is that maybe she will go crazy down there and maybe she won't, but I can almost gaurantee that if anything does happen that it won't be long term. My ex of 2.5 weeks has been doing the same to me. She has already messed around and believe it or not, but she finally told me that she had sex with one guy. I begged to know and when she finally said the truth, I was really hurt. It sucks really bad, but what sucks even more is that I still love her to death over all of that. My ex told me that none of the other guys even compared to me or her high expectations of me. She tells me she wants to be with me in the future and have kids and blah blah blah, but right now she is so confused and wants to date other guys. Believe me, the less you know the less it hurts. Don't ask her!!!! Just try and move on with your life, which is what I am trying to do, but feels impossible. It is the only way you will ever feel better. It sounds like she will have to experience other men before she realizes what you mean to her. Thats what it took for my ex, but now I am forcing myself to move on. I deserve better then that and so do you. Just think to yourself that everything does happen for a reason and give it time. Stop contacting her and it will help you BIG TIME. I went the first 2 weeks without contact and I was finally feeling great, then I ran into her and I felt like sh** again. Aviod anything that has to do with her and you will feel better. My ex told me to call her anytime I wanted to or when I missed her. She also siad that she would'nt call me and bother me. That is BS. Good luck and know that you are'nt the only one feeling that way!!
jmargel Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Cancun is basically known as a party spot & a sex fest. She's doing this to be selfish, ignorant and a bunch of other things. Not sure why the both of you broke up, but if I were you I would tell her how you feel. That if she just left you to mess around with other men, then you deserve better. That you don't give second chances. Because if you take her back, it'll only be a matter of time before she does it again. It's apparent she is immature to have to do this. People change over time, sometime for the good, sometime for the bad. For you budd98, she is taking you for granted. Glad to know you won't put up with this and moving on. Stand strong when she calls you crying and wanting you back. Remember she wasn't thinking of you when she had her legs spread for that other man. Players come in both sexes, both male & females. These chicks are doing this to you. There are plently of women out there that would be willing to have & stay with their man. If you stick to these rules then you will live a decent life: - No drama, if a chick is into it then leave - No second chances when it comes to cheating - Trust with all your heart, but once it's broken don't look back. A relationship where you can't trust 100% is not a relationship you want to be in - Find someone who knows what they want in life. Usually women in their late twenties or older truly know what they want in life. I'd never hook up with a chick in their early twenties. They haven't experienced enough out there and will only leave you to do this - Find a woman who has already lived on their own. If not, she'll want to experience her independence at some point in life, which will only prolong her leaving you - Find someone who is not a 'me' person, someone who's willing to compromise & care about you. Dating a chick just because she's hot is not going to get you anywhere in life. Sometimes beautiful things are better to look at then to have
dugs Posted August 2, 2004 Posted August 2, 2004 Hey man, don't think about it and trust me you probably don't want to know what she is up to down their anyways. My ex of 3 weeks went to Havasu and totaly "lived in the moment" if you know what I mean. I eneded up seeing pictures of the whole thing from my friends though, which was really hard to stomach. UGH!!! Trust me, your better off not knowing or worrying about it.
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