sadsygsrbaby Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I am 35 yrs old and seeing a single older man technically a sugar daddy who I met online about 6 months ago. He is fun and it was supposed to be uncomplicated until I fell for him. I am not head over heals in love but would like more. Over time it has been less and less about financial help and more about spending time with him. I have told him this and he only replies I know and you know I like being with you and we have a connection. I know he is seeing other girls and he is aware I know and am insecure about it. Recently I wanted to fulfill his fantasy of a threesome and when I told him he was all about it of course. Condition was someone we met out and hadn't had any intimate connection with. He found someon, a 25 yr old girl and I learned he has been sleeping with maybe 4-5 times in the last 2 months. I was livid but still agreed to one time with her for him. She was supposed to meet us at his place this Saturday night for a couple hours. Now I find out its Friday night and Saturday night but she cant sleep over (thank goodness) I got angry and said ugly things and we talked through it kind of but he sends me a text message the other morning saying. "Love you. Cant wait for this weekend. It will be fun" Totally don't know what to do, any suggestions? Am I being played a fool? I want to see the good in him but I have a feeling he gets bis threesome and I get a heartbreak.
TigerCub Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 haha, is this post serious? Well you were using the guy for financial gain in the beginning - so really? You're wondering if you're gonna be used for sex (the threesome)? He'll still keep you around - don't worry, but if he can get younger and possibly hotter women than you - why do you think you're going to win him or at least why do you think he'll stop sleeping with those girls to have a monogamous relationship with someone that pretty much went into this on "whore" status (company/sex for money).
Author sadsygsrbaby Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Thanks for the reply. As far as being a whore, no I don't charge. I enjoy spending time with someone who isn't broke paying child support or alimony and is living with his mom still. The financial side is assistance not required or set in stone as a payment for sex for me however some women on the site do operate that way. However thank you for the reply as I can respect and appreciate your opinion. Eventhough the delivery was a little rigid the point you made about trading in for younger prettier etc is one that is valid and should be considered.
BetheButterfly Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I am 35 yrs old and seeing a single older man technically a sugar daddy who I met online about 6 months ago. He is fun and it was supposed to be uncomplicated until I fell for him. I am not head over heals in love but would like more. Over time it has been less and less about financial help and more about spending time with him. I have told him this and he only replies I know and you know I like being with you and we have a connection. I know he is seeing other girls and he is aware I know and am insecure about it. Recently I wanted to fulfill his fantasy of a threesome and when I told him he was all about it of course. Condition was someone we met out and hadn't had any intimate connection with. He found someon, a 25 yr old girl and I learned he has been sleeping with maybe 4-5 times in the last 2 months. I was livid but still agreed to one time with her for him. She was supposed to meet us at his place this Saturday night for a couple hours. Now I find out its Friday night and Saturday night but she cant sleep over (thank goodness) I got angry and said ugly things and we talked through it kind of but he sends me a text message the other morning saying. "Love you. Cant wait for this weekend. It will be fun" Totally don't know what to do, any suggestions? Am I being played a fool? I want to see the good in him but I have a feeling he gets bis threesome and I get a heartbreak. I am sorry you are hurting. Some guys say "Love you" but they don't really mean it. It's just words to them. It's not true action. I would suggest letting him go and striving to find one of the rarer yet still shining like diamonds kind of guy who loves you and is not just seeing you as the fulfillment for his lusts. Sex is an awesome and beautiful, natural thing. However, nowadays many men just see it as an enjoyable activity; they don't tend to associate it with love and mutual respect and togetherness. That hurts. My advice is to let him go and look for a good, strong man who knows right from wrong, who knows love isn't just something to say but rather is action that puts you before him (and you loving him and putting him before you) aan also provide for you (and it is good to work hard too, which is something I need to do!)
TigerCub Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Thanks for the reply. As far as being a whore, no I don't charge. I enjoy spending time with someone who isn't broke paying child support or alimony and is living with his mom still. The financial side is assistance not required or set in stone as a payment for sex for me however some women on the site do operate that way. However thank you for the reply as I can respect and appreciate your opinion. Eventhough the delivery was a little rigid the point you made about trading in for younger prettier etc is one that is valid and should be considered. In your OP you said that at first it was financial, so you were getting money for sex from this guy. The point is - this guy likes the arrangement of having women give him their companionship, giving him sex, etc , basically just because he is rich and will spend money on these women. That's what this whole website is and that's what both parties are going into it for. So - I think that this is all he wants, he doesn't want a real relationship. He most likely even doubts that you truly do like him for him because he wouldn't have had a chance with you or any of those other younger women without his money (at least initially - in your case). Maybe he thinks you're using him more and are cooking up a plan to be exclusive only with him, date him for a while, get married and take a lot more than these adventures are already costing him. I dunno. It would be difficult to really trust the intentions of a person that went into this sort of "relationship" primarily at first for the money. He wants the easy breezy get hot younger women lifestyle using money not using any real connection.
Emilia Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 The film Pretty Woman was based on this fantasy, wasn't it? Finding a rich guy who will like you for you. Most likely he doesn't respect you as he could just buy you at the drop of the hat. I don't think most men - no matter how some loudly protest on this site - enjoy a woman seeing him because of his finances. You both have to be pretty cynical people to get an arrangement like this going. He doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who has a relationship-mentality - or a healthy mentality for that matter. So he knew he had to pay for your charms, he will never believe you are anything else than a gold digger. If you want an emotional connection, find a good man and keep money out of the equation. Men that aren't affluent aren't necessarily broke....
stillafool Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 I am 35 yrs old and seeing a single older man technically a sugar daddy who I met online about 6 months ago. He is fun and it was supposed to be uncomplicated until I fell for him. I am not head over heals in love but would like more. Over time it has been less and less about financial help and more about spending time with him. I have told him this and he only replies I know and you know I like being with you and we have a connection. I know he is seeing other girls and he is aware I know and am insecure about it. Recently I wanted to fulfill his fantasy of a threesome and when I told him he was all about it of course. Condition was someone we met out and hadn't had any intimate connection with. He found someon, a 25 yr old girl and I learned he has been sleeping with maybe 4-5 times in the last 2 months. I was livid but still agreed to one time with her for him. She was supposed to meet us at his place this Saturday night for a couple hours. Now I find out its Friday night and Saturday night but she cant sleep over (thank goodness) I got angry and said ugly things and we talked through it kind of but he sends me a text message the other morning saying. "Love you. Cant wait for this weekend. It will be fun" Totally don't know what to do, any suggestions? Am I being played a fool? I want to see the good in him but I have a feeling he gets bis threesome and I get a heartbreak. I'm sorry but you chose this for yourself. When you are involved with a SugarDaddy his job is to pay bills and be able to have sex with you when he wants. A SugarDaddy knows he is the one in control because he holds the money. Therefore you can't expect the relationship to be permanent because most SugarDaddies sooner or later are going to upgrade to a younger woman and pay her bills. Doesn't matter how old the SugarDaddy is because he knows there will always be some woman who doesn't want to take care of herself but would rather trade sex for money. You can't be angry with him because you accepted the relationship. I'm not surprised that now he is recruiting a 25 year old. I hope you are realizing your relationship with him may be ending and I hope you have a job and can take care of yourself.
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