JasonRules Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Some months ago I had unblocked my ex because I thought I was completely over the pain I had been feeling since she broke up with me. However, I logged on FB the other day and she was listed as "People you may know". Well, low and behold she posted a lovey dovey photo of herself with her current guy as her profile photo. The photograph of them together hit me like a tsunami even though I knew she was with someone. All the negative memories and feelings of hurt, anger, and resentment came back to me and I've been feeling like crap the past 2 days. Now I'm feeling the same way I did 1.5 years ago. For all the pain and agony I have felt, sometimes I wish that I had never met her ever.
PYTpisces Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Man, there are a lot of facebook related posts today. I'm with you dear this happened to me today. I have to keep reminding myself that Facebook is intrinsically designed to harp on our insecurities in every way. Keep telling yourself that it's an illusion. What if her new bf is abusive? God forbid........ point is though, nothing is ever as it seems... EVER. Even if they are happy, no one should ever have to know what their exes are up to post break-up. Think back to before facebook existed (difficult i know), you wouldn't have seen that pic, none of us would have probably 75% of the anxiety we have today due to social networks. Anywho... sorry that this set you back . Press the reset button as quickly as possible... maybe block her... keep her blocked until you forget that she's on your block list (it is possible though it may take a long time). Do whatever you have to do within your power to ensure that you don't experience this again. 1
InAFog Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 So sorry you're going thru this. I'm dealing with a similar situation and can totally sympathize. FB is POISON! Stay away!! Seeing them happpy with someone else hurts! I thought i was finally starting to heal from all this right before i saw his lovey dovey photo with his new girl. Now i'm knocked back down the mountain i've been trying to climb. I've just been trying to remind myself that his life DOES NOT affect mine anymore. It DOES NOT change what's happening or will happen in my life. And trying real hard to get back to the place i was before i found out. 1
gaudi Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 So sorry you're going thru this. I'm dealing with a similar situation and can totally sympathize. FB is POISON! Stay away!! Seeing them happpy with someone else hurts! I thought i was finally starting to heal from all this right before i saw his lovey dovey photo with his new girl. Now i'm knocked back down the mountain i've been trying to climb. I've just been trying to remind myself that his life DOES NOT affect mine anymore. It DOES NOT change what's happening or will happen in my life. And trying real hard to get back to the place i was before i found out. beautiful and very wise words
Author JasonRules Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Well I went ahead and re-blocked her today. I think I'm never going to remove the FB block on her again and just "fire and forget" it. Better to be safe than to be feeling miserable, bitter, hurt, and angry again.
InAFog Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 When you block someone on facebook do they get a notice that they have been blocked?
Headintheclouds Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 @JasonRules The same thing happened to me man. We've been broken up for almost 9 months and its been 6 months of NC. I de-friended her on FB but never blocked her. I didn't block her because I wanted her to be able to see my photos still, especially if there was another girl etc. Spiteful I know... Anyways, I got sick of seeing her posts on my friend statuses and photos so I deactivated my facebook for 2 months. I reactivated it about a month ago. Since then I see her name pop up randomly. I hovered over it the other day and BAM... there she was with her new BF. She looked super happy. It messed me up. Every time I see her name on there my heart sinks a little. No matter how much I feel that I have moved on it still sucks. I feel ya. I should probably block her but I've chosen to just deal. The more I see photos of her the more I become de-sensitized to it, or at least I feel that way.
puzzled1 Posted November 2, 2012 Posted November 2, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. I am still trying to get over my ex and yesterday out of boredom I started to snoop around. Found a picture of her sitting on the "new guys' lap while he has his hand all around her, smiling away. I actually felt fire inside my stomach. Its really hard to see these kinds of things but you have to force yourself not to. There is a reason to the quote "Curiosity killed the cat".
fetish1980 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Jason old buddy. We were going through our breakups around the same time. I know i'm late in this thread but i'm sorry you had to see this. Keep focusing on moving forward and it will all get easier. My ex requested me to be a friend on f/b back in april after i defriended her when we first broke up. I went ahead and refriended her but she defriended me back in august. We would talk every once in a while through texts up until about august and now we don't even speak. I thought for a while with her defriending me, she was just trying to even up the score, but whatever reason, it doesn't matter, we didn't need to be friends because i didn't want to know what was going on in her life and i didn't want her to know what was going on in mine. I think even to this day, almost 2 years after our breakup, my heart would sink if i saw her with someone else. Love really can suck.
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