jake92 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Hello all I'd really love some advice as to how to handle my current situation. My ex girlfriend decided to randomly dump me two weeks ago, which was ironically a day short of our two year anniversary together. Prior to the break up we spent the weekend together and had a great time. However, I have noticed that she has been changing over the past couple of months and that something deep down has been bothering her. She wouldn't elaborate on her feelings though no matter how many times we had open heart talks. So she calls me up one night and we get into an argument our her college situation where she will not be able to come see me without having access to a car (I attend a college around 2.5 hrs away from her). I have been the one to travel to see her almost every other weekend since I went off to college two years ago. She somehow gets bothered by this issue all of a sudden and seemingly uses it as a ploy to dig into a breakup conversation. She tells me that it's not going to work when she leaves for school and we should just break it off now...She also says that she needs her space and wants to be single. This is all a shock to me, so I make the drive to her and discuss this with her in person. She takes 10 minutes to talk to me about this and when we talked she wouldn't even look me into the eye or show emotion, while I was pouring my heart out to her. She leaves giving me a "last kiss" and that's the last time I have spoken with her until today (2 weeks later). She blocked me randomly a few nights ago from her twitter, Facebook, and instagram pages-which were almost entirely pictures of us and our relationship. So she sent me a text last night around midnight saying that she hasn't had her period since the last time we had relations, which was close to a month ago. She said I didn't need to respond and that she'll let me know the results of the pregnancy test the next day. She contacted me again today saying the "results were negative" and "bye". I waited several hours to reply and told her "good. bye". She immediately responds back telling me that she is taking another test tomorrow, and "thanks for deleting me off Facebook". I have not responded since. What I'm asking is why would she contact me? Is she using this issue to talk to me or try to win me over? How am I supposed to respond to the "Facebook" thing? I obviously care about her, but she has hurt me a great deal in this break up and I want to take time to heal and allow her to miss and appreciate me, while leaving the door open for the future. Any thoughts how I should handle this?
Quest4_TheLost Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Yes, she seems like she wants you to reach out to her and talk to her. But she isn't giving you much to go on. Its all really just (bread crumbs). I wouldn't respond to any of it.. If and when she really wants to have a conversation with you then she will reach out and say so. Other then that she is just playing head games.
Author jake92 Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 (edited) Thanks for responding and clarifying that for me. I responded to her texts not to initiate contact but to make it clear to hear how I felt since we've not been contacting each other previously since the break up. I realize this conversation will probably sound fickle to a lot of you. But this is all I have to go on and the only bit of conversation with her that started with the pregnancy test scare. Her: "thanks for deleting me off FB btw." Me: "You blocked me on instagram, Facebook, twitter, so what's the problem?" Her:"Thats a lie, I definitely didn't delete you on FB but okay bye" Me: "I unfriended you on Facebook because you blocked me on instagram and twitter" Her: "Okay" Me" "Don't text me, bye" Her:"Damn, that's rude. Ill take the second pregnancy test tomorrow and let you know" Me: (Hours later) "If you want to have a serious conversation fine, otherwise Im not playing head games with you." Edited October 31, 2012 by jake92
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