Author ihavebeenfloated Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Whatever. I'm not getting into a back and forth about how relationships and dating should be, or about how I approach them. Regardless... So I've been really getting the urge to reach out to her. I've deleted her number, but the situation is really bothering me. It's stupid that it is, but I don't know. This felt way too right to just bail on. I know I shouldn't be feeling this after only knowing her for 3 weeks, but I just feel like I should try something. Like one last letter or email or something telling her how I feel. I know it won't do anything. Ultimately she has to want this, and she clearly doesn't. I can't convince her or persuade her or anything. It's just the big what this could have been that's killing me. I don't know. Do I need closure? What the hell is wrong with me for being this hung up on this girl? I've been really not good the past few days. It feels like a real breakup, when it's obviously not. If she really wants it, she'll reach out, right?
Author ihavebeenfloated Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 That's always the hardest part with the short encounters/relationships. They're aborted attempts and you'll never know the outcome. Keep in mind it could have been utter s***. You probably would've have begun to wonder about the genuineness of something that started the way this did in the very near future, even if it had continued. A good friend of mine told me the exact same thing. He questioned this from the start. I don't know. I get it. It's just.. It felt right. I know that sounds stupid. I don't know. Like I know this is a really bad situation. She's clearly not ready for something like this. Forcing it would be a disaster. If she doesn't want it like I do, there's no point in moving forward. I know this. I even accept it sometimes. I just can't accept it all the time. Not contacting her again is obviously the best way to go, and honestly, probably what I'll do. I just have this stupid notion that something like this can be fought for. It makes no sense, and I'm fully aware of that. I guess it just felt like this could really have been something.
TopCat22 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 You've invested way too much of yourself in this relationship too soon and the biggest problem of all is she didn't invest with you. She's not in the same place as you are and it really doesn't matter what you want. If she doesn't want it too then it will go nowhere. This notion you have that it could have been something great is all in your own head. It may have felt right for you, but it didn't for her. Why are you trying to force it? 1
Author ihavebeenfloated Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 You've invested way too much of yourself in this relationship too soon and the biggest problem of all is she didn't invest with you. She's not in the same place as you are and it really doesn't matter what you want. If she doesn't want it too then it will go nowhere. This notion you have that it could have been something great is all in your own head. It may have felt right for you, but it didn't for her. Why are you trying to force it? Because she gave me every indication that she was investing just as much, and that we were on the same page. I'm not blaming my **** on her, but I don't start thinking ahead and getting really into what we could be if I don't think she feels the same. Or maybe I'm just as unstable as she is. Probably that.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Wow, I thought I was messed up for feeling this way about my last ex after two months. This happening after one date makes me feel better, at least I got into double-digit dates. But yeah, do not contact this person and don't try to "fight" for it. If she wants it, she'll come to you. The only thing you can do right now is make her feel even more opposed to being with you. Walk away from this one. If she's willing to cut bait this quickly, there's no future to be had.
BreakUpProblems Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Leave it alone for the moment. If she doesn't want to date, don't be pushy, you will be the one that ends up being hurt in the end. If she really did enjoy your presence, she will come back around sooner or later. Just let time run its course for the moment.
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