OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I was bored and was doing a fb search.What do I see but ex wife of 3 years pop up as ppl u may know with a pic kissing a baby.I thought no biggie clicked on and and saw a married status plus she just recently had a baby.This is the same lady who week before dropping the bomb told me lets have kids after years of trying.ugh I'm beyond sick
theLWord Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I'm sorry, that has to hurt really bad. Just continue moving on with your life and taking care of you and don't look at her facebook or compare yourself anymore.
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 To think I was gonna call her on her birthday ugh.i won't lie I'm full of tears in less then a year you got preg and married to this man .I feel like I never mattered
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Not to dig for straws but I was with her last end of nov she told me feb 1st she is preg could it be sheer luck that kid has my nose cuz after seeing the pics he does ? Ugh sorry I'm just a wreck
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 I feel so empty after seeing her page .Its been 10 months and I've delete with so much.been dumped,cheated on ,divorce,health has taken a turn for the worse which means I gotta take 15 pills a day just to get by,my uncle has cancer . Sorry I know I'm venting and I know I'm not the best person but I feel I'm sinking hard
VeveCakes Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 You have no idea how happy she really is by creeping her FB. Block her and go out and do something to occupy your mind.
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 How would she know I'm creeping her Facebook ? Anyway what burns the most she claimed she couldn't have kids I guess just not with me.
PYTpisces Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Ugh I'm sorry Yeah, Something must be in the water. I've responded to like 4 posts today about the damaging affects that facebook has on peoples emotions. I too and going through it myself. Block her, deactivate your account. Do everything you can to center your mind back on the REAL world. Social networks are an illusion. Theyre SUPPOSED to make you feel bad and none of it is real. Get back to taking care of yourself. It's okay to feel wounded it seems like you have a lot going on. Re-committ yourself to doing whatever you can to not see any updates on her. All it does is keep her alive in your mind, and gives your mind too much opportunity to wander and come up with crazy things to make you feel like Sh*t. Again, don't believe the illusion. 2
Author OCCDAVE Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Thanks for the responses so far.I agree pY but I think in this case fb creeping/snooping whatever is called saved me from getting told off.see I was gonna call her nov 5 on her b day and tell her I was sorry I hurt her (kinda trying to lift some bad karma or maybe it's an excuse )Last convo we had she said she was preg but she says alot of stuff I figured it was just another way push my buttons .I then see that default pic and when I clicked my heart sunk.maybe I shouldn't be surprised she's married we got married 7 months into it so shes fast with that just the baby stuff had me sad.from the start I've always wanted kids but she told me she couldn't have any and I said no biggie will be together Sorry for rambling
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Is it odd the baby has my nose ?
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Well she's polish and he's Italian but they both got these pointy noses I'm more of a pug nose .but as you said baby's noses change I dunno I've never had kids and don't have any nephews or anything .Maybe I'm just trying to see something as you said .I was with her not to long after she said she was then again I don't know the whole baby cycle
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Just noticed today's makes 11 months since we split.I know I don't know everyone's story but I feel I've suffered more in less then a year then most
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Not gonna lie ever since I saw that picture of her and the baby ive cried my eyes out and can't sleep.i guess what I'm struggling with the most I know ppl move on quick bit to move on ,get preg and married in all then less a year ?Did I mean that little that it was that easy to do all that or by the time she dropped the its over bomb she was already over me.sigh
InAFog Posted November 3, 2012 Posted November 3, 2012 So sorry you're going through this! The feeling of thinking you meant so little is brutal. Hang in there and try to focus on other things. I know it's impossible, but try. And get yourself somewhere where you won't find anything else out about her anymore. The temptation is great, but it really is the only way to help this. Alot of us are feeling the same, your aren't alone.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 3, 2012 Author Posted November 3, 2012 Not gonna I don't know what to think but feel I meant nothing after how fast she moved on.hell I was the one who got dumped and it took me 4 months just to talk to another girl out of respect for my wife who up Untill feb was feeding me bread crumbs when I'd keep breaking nc.I thought there was hope even if a slim chance.But while all that happened you were in the process of getting knocked up and married .i mean I know I treated her wrong but how cold blooded can one be
Llakdknek Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I found out my ex-girlfriend was a sex addict and a hooker today. I'm sure glad I didn't wind up marrying her! 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 I found out my ex-girlfriend was a sex addict and a hooker today. I'm sure glad I didn't wind up marrying her!holy crap now that's just screwed up
cavalier99 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I found out my ex-girlfriend was a sex addict and a hooker today. I'm sure glad I didn't wind up marrying her! This forum is awesome. I know i shouldnt feel better because of your previous situation..but i do your post totally cracked me up. If you can survive that there is hope for all of us.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Another thing that seems to have consumed me is this whole oh she get hers ,karma will bite her on the ass.well next month makes a year and from I've been told/seen her life is on the up while mine is sinking
Llakdknek Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 This forum is awesome. I know i shouldnt feel better because of your previous situation..but i do your post totally cracked me up. If you can survive that there is hope for all of us. I don't know that I'm "surviving" per se. Sorry for the thread jack. It's a moral quandary because the way I found out was none of my business, yet I was lied to. I would have never been in a relationship with her had I known. No way in hell.
cavalier99 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I don't know that I'm "surviving" per se. Sorry for the thread jack. It's a moral quandary because the way I found out was none of my business, yet I was lied to. I would have never been in a relationship with her had I known. No way in hell. Sorry I was insensitive. That is quite a shock. I just looked at your previous posts and see this breakup is still relativley fresh. Im not sure what to say except that whatever her past is doesnt matter. What you felt was real and Im sure for her too. It might actually help you move on which is what we all want. Im going to administer a lie dectector test to all my future prospects.
Llakdknek Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 (edited) Don't worry about being insensitive or anything. The truth is that I dodged a bullet big time. My emotions are raw right now, but logic says that I'm actually pretty lucky given how much worse it could have been. EDIT: I did post a letter I wrote to her in another thread. I don't know if I'm going to send it yet. Edited November 4, 2012 by Llakdknek Addition to Original Post
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 One thing I will say after seeing the pic of her and the baby one thing I did get out of it I gotta maintain nc .i was gonna break it to wish her happy b day but now I'd have to be pretty ballsy to even call her now
ilou Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Damn....Not much to do now bro. Time to do things to keep yourself preoccupied! Take some jiu-jitsu classes. Does wonders. Camaraderie, new friends, build up of confidence and you get in shape. Do it.
Nikki Sahagin Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 OP, I am really sorry for how you must be feeling. If it wasn't for FB chances are you would never know about this. First things first, once you are ready, you HAVE to block her. As people have said facebook doesn't necessarily represent the hardships and realities of peoples life's. Even if she is blissfully happy, it's not something you need to see or know about. DO NOT torture yourself by looking at this. It will just prolong your suffering. It's clear your life's have really moved on and you need to do some healing. TRUST ME YOU WILL GET BETTER FROM THIS. So many people on this board are proof of this, and I am myself You have to give yourself a chance to heal and recover, and you will love again.
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