medasist Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 And I am honestly really intimidated. He seems too goo to be true, he's a gentleman, funny, easy to talk to and he has his **** together. He's 10 years older then I am but I feel a connection. We have been on 2 dates, second was last night and he did kiss me. I swear I was floating after that, it was amazing. Any advice for me? I don't want to mess this up.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I've been dating this amazing guy who blows me away as a person for almost 5 months, and my only real concern is that I might mess things up with my insecurities. My advice is: Be your awesome self. Enjoy! Don't rush into sex. Get to know each other and build up your emotional bond, and then the sex will be better and more meaningful once you do it. Keep in mind that a man loves making a woman happy. You're the lucky woman in this case. So just let him make you happy, be thankful, and enjoy! 1
It's Just Me Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 And do not, under any circumstance, lead him to believe that your life revolves around him at the moment. Or ever. You still have your own life, and you are living it. Example? Can you picture dating clingy psycho guy who hangs on to your every word and gives you the willies that he may be stalking you? DO NOT be that guy/gal. Second advice, and to echo Ruby... keep your pants on. And stay away from any scenarios that involve removing your pants (his place, your place). Keep it public, light and fun for as long as you can. Third? Congrats. Looking forward to hearing how it all goes. Yay!
Author medasist Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 And do not, under any circumstance, lead him to believe that your life revolves around him at the moment. Or ever. You still have your own life, and you are living it. Example? Can you picture dating clingy psycho guy who hangs on to your every word and gives you the willies that he may be stalking you? DO NOT be that guy/gal. Second advice, and to echo Ruby... keep your pants on. And stay away from any scenarios that involve removing your pants (his place, your place). Keep it public, light and fun for as long as you can. Third? Congrats. Looking forward to hearing how it all goes. Yay! So should I keep the texting to a minimum then? I do work a lot and don't have a chance to text a lot at work so that helps. And our dates have been public, sports bar and last night was starbucks. and we actually are planning on going out tomorrow night to a theater to watch a double feature of some 80's horror flicks. I'm doing my best. This guy seems pretty fantastic so far, and boy, the way he looks at me makes me want to melt.. just cant stand it. I'll keep you updated
yongyong Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I remember reading a thread like this maybe a month ago 'he is too good to be true!' and she was complaining about the guy wasn't giving her that much attention. I think I told her 'look at yourself, you knew he was above your league, how can you get mad if he is not responding well after sleeping with you? you should be thankful' When guys talk about 'so I met this special girl', it always doesn't end in a good way. I hope you are very hot. then you shouldn't worry about it.
Author medasist Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 I remember reading a thread like this maybe a month ago 'he is too good to be true!' and she was complaining about the guy wasn't giving her that much attention. I think I told her 'look at yourself, you knew he was above your league, how can you get mad if he is not responding well after sleeping with you? you should be thankful' When guys talk about 'so I met this special girl', it always doesn't end in a good way. I hope you are very hot. then you shouldn't worry about it. Well, I haven't slept with him, and I'm not complaining that he isn't giving me enough attention.. soo how is what you said relevant?
yongyong Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 There is a good chance you will be like that. I will tell the same thing to a guy if he says 'she is too good to be true' which means he is not used to meeting that kind of woman and he will try to act special that might turn her off. When you 'Try not to mess it up, you will be more likely to mess it up' hope you understand what I am trying to say. Well, I haven't slept with him, and I'm not complaining that he isn't giving me enough attention.. soo how is what you said relevant?
SJC2008 Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Don't play games! Text him back the same day, not the next or 2-3 days later to see if he gets his panties in a wad. Don't be afraid to initiate contact. After your third date you should be to the point where you're comfortable initiating. Now I didn't say take over the courtship just make an effort. Let him contact you first after dates since it's still early on but between dates don't be afraid to drop a "hows everything?" or hey!. A good rule of thumb is to initiate half the amount he does, it shows interest and it not enough to come off as clingy/coming on too strong. Some women don't initiate at all, it's selfish and has a "you have to come to me" air. Most importantly, DON'T WORRY! if it's meant to be it will happen. The more someone likes you the longer the leash is if you get my drift!
Author medasist Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 I'm not one of those girls that just WON'T initiate contact, I have no problem shooting him a text mid day on my break or something asking how his day is going. And I also do not play games, I wouldn't want him to play games so I just kind of treat it like the golden rule.
Emilia Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 And I am honestly really intimidated. He seems too goo to be true, he's a gentleman, funny, easy to talk to and he has his **** together. He's 10 years older then I am but I feel a connection. We have been on 2 dates, second was last night and he did kiss me. I swear I was floating after that, it was amazing. Any advice for me? I don't want to mess this up. Just to add the sobering thought, if he seems too good to be true, he probably is. Just hold your horses and your feet on the ground. Nothing is ever as good or as bad as you first think. Kinda in between.
Author medasist Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Well we went out last night, and I'm not sure if it was the fact that he kept his phone out through the double feature we watched or if it was the fact that he didn't walk me to my car when the night was over. But I just lost interest. He is gorgeous and does have his stuff together. But, I do believe in chivalry and won't settle for anything else. Onto the next!
Drseussgrrl Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Ew I hate that. Pay attention to your gut. I lose interest when guys don't do those little things, too.
Author medasist Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 Ew I hate that. Pay attention to your gut. I lose interest when guys don't do those little things, too. It really is the little things that count! I hate that men don't get that.
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