Sitting at the same table with my ex in-laws

[Evangeline Lilly]

I was with my husband for 7 years.....he cheated on me and left me for the other woman. He wasn't able to be a man about it and never told the truth. Waited until I worked my butt off getting him through school and left me while I was halfway through college. They worked together. I was devastated but I had one choice sink or swim.....I doggie paddled for a bit but I eventually swam. He has a brother and it turns out the apple really does not fall far from the tree. His brother cheated on his girlfriend of several years she decided that she had enough of his cheating ways and dumped his ass. She and I have kept In touch over the years why not we had a bond and an understanding of what we went through with these cheating brothers it's been years now. She has moved on with a fantastic man. She informed me that I am invites to the wedding and while I am thrilled I have also learned that not only did she invite our ex's parents but that she has put me at their table. They have expressed their excitement of seeing me after so many years and well what can I say they were wonderful people who had nothing to do with their sons choice. As we all know Facebook is larger than life and I have been informed that tons of photos will be taken which I know that my ex and his now wife will see. I don't owe them anything but I need advice on how to remain classy about the situation. Honestly there is a small part of me that thinks it would be funny picturing their faces when they see photos of us together and me looking amazing but there is another part of me that doesn't care. I know that I am happy he cheated In the end bc I got my life back and I was able to find someone who loves me and puts my needs first....any thoughts? Should I even go?

[dasein]

Welcome to the forum. Fewer pictures are likely to be taken while the meal is served and eaten. Spend time socializing and catching up with your ex inlaws during the meal, be absent from the table otherwise depending on what you want your photo exposure to be. Or just adopt a who gives a f attitude and have a good time. Good luck either way.

 

PS, you were hot in Lost, but hated the show.

[CC12]

Of course you should go, if you want to. Who cares if your ex sees photos of you? You have no control over what wedding photos someone else posts on Facebook. It's not like you'd be purposely flaunting yourself for your ex to see, you know?

 

As far as "keeping it classy," obviously be polite and respectful to his parents. Don't bring up the past, don't talk badly about their son. In fact, I wouldn't bring up their son at all, and if they did, I'd smile and nod then try to smoothly steer the conversation elsewhere.

 

And don't get drunk.

[melenkurion]

You are friends with the bride. You'd want to be there if there was no "complication". So, go!

 

It's been years, so, go and have a great time. I'm sure it'd be nice to see your old in-laws again, and since they are at the wedding of their EX daughter-in-law, I am sure they are smart enough not to open up old wounds. Like CC12, I'd say don't bring up their son, and if they mention him, nod and smile politely and move swiftly on in the conversation. I am sure you will be able to be classy.

[mammasita]

I like to refer to my ex in-laws as out-laws.

 

Get it?

 

Yeah, I say go, have fun. Who cares about your ex.