saribear Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) Well of course there's a confusing guy, otherwise I wouldn't even be on here! So I dated this guy for about a month, everything was going great (or so I thought), then out of nowhere he breaks up with me with the whole "we'll still be friends, if I wasn't going overseas in a couple months this would be a whole different story, I just like you more as a friend etc." One big thing that threw me about the whole breakup was up until the night before he was making other plans for the weekend past the day he broke up with me. Also, he asked me how I wanted to handle the distance, etc. So I let it go, I tried to let everything settle. But I go to this bar for dancing on Fridays usually, so the next weekend after we broke up I went. He comes up to me and flirts like nothing happened. I just wrote this off as him trying to be nice and not make it awkward. Besides that night he hadn't contacted me at all and I didn't contact him. This last Friday, however, I he was in flirting overdrive. He left another girl that was obviously interested in him to come over to my friend and I as soon as we got there. The girl he was flirting/talking to came over and was like "Hey, I'm going to go outside." His response was just a quick "Okay" before he redirected his attention back to me. He pretty much hung out with us all night after this, despite me trying to flirt with another guy. We danced, he told me I looked great, he dipped me and I thought almost dropped me I mentioned it and he said "Hey, I haven't dropped you yet...oh, well...tonight I haven't anyways". (He did drop me once when we were dating). When my friend and I went to leave, he walked me to my truck and offered me his jacket as we went outside. I just feel like this isn't normal "I just like you more as a friend" behavior; I don't mind being his friend but I can't handle the flirting if it's just a game to him. However, I don't know if it is a game or not; I don't want to talk to him about it because like I said I'm trying to let everything settle and let him figure out what he wants if he is confused. Oh and the walk to the truck, Idk if he was going to try and make a move or not, I jumped into my truck asap lol and didn't take the jacket. Also, not sure if this helps any but he's 25 and I'm 20.... Edited October 30, 2012 by saribear
InJest Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Probably trying to bang you until he leaves. Who knows. Tell him to stop contacting you.
todreaminblue Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Well of course there's a confusing guy, otherwise I wouldn't even be on here! So I dated this guy for about a month, everything was going great (or so I thought), then out of nowhere he breaks up with me with the whole "we'll still be friends, if I wasn't going overseas in a couple months this would be a whole different story, I just like you more as a friend etc." One big thing that threw me about the whole breakup was up until the night before he was making other plans for the weekend past the day he broke up with me. Also, he asked me how I wanted to handle the distance, etc. So I let it go, I tried to let everything settle. But I go to this bar for dancing on Fridays usually, so the next weekend after we broke up I went. He comes up to me and flirts like nothing happened. I just wrote this off as him trying to be nice and not make it awkward. Besides that night he hadn't contacted me at all and I didn't contact him. This last Friday, however, I he was in flirting overdrive. He left another girl that was obviously interested in him to come over to my friend and I as soon as we got there. The girl he was flirting/talking to came over and was like "Hey, I'm going to go outside." His response was just a quick "Okay" before he redirected his attention back to me. He pretty much hung out with us all night after this, despite me trying to flirt with another guy. We danced, he told me I looked great, he dipped me and I thought almost dropped me I mentioned it and he said "Hey, I haven't dropped you yet...oh, well...tonight I haven't anyways". (He did drop me once when we were dating). When my friend and I went to leave, he walked me to my truck and offered me his jacket as we went outside. I just feel like this isn't normal "I just like you more as a friend" behavior; I don't mind being his friend but I can't handle the flirting if it's just a game to him. However, I don't know if it is a game or not; I don't want to talk to him about it because like I said I'm trying to let everything settle and let him figure out what he wants if he is confused. Oh and the walk to the truck, Idk if he was going to try and make a move or not, I jumped into my truck asap lol and didn't take the jacket. Also, not sure if this helps any but he's 25 and I'm 20.... If i were in your situation..this is what i would do this is my opinion ... after dating a guy for a while, i think it gives you the absolute right to say hey what are you doing........that way there's no mistakes or second guessing....tell him he is confusing you and you want to know where you stand.....say the flirting is cute but its getting old whats up???? you have to decide what you want and if you can trust he won't drop you again he is confusing you and the only way is to ask him.....you will get an answer might not be the one you are looking for but either way you can decide what you want to do...if he is a player...he wont answer you properly you still wont know whether you are left or right.....there's your answer........player alert alert alert... complete with ray bans and half truths..friends dont play you either so dont be his friend move forward onward and upward, find a guy who will tell you what is up when you ask..that's forward for you...good luck and best wishes......deb
Author saribear Posted November 1, 2012 Author Posted November 1, 2012 I've known him since last year, I don't think he's a player. He's dated like one other girl that I know of, one of his friends told me he thinks that the original guy (we'll call him Steve) haha was scared I was going to dump him or cheat on him while he was overseas. But that's not what "Steve" told him, it's just what the friend speculated. Either way, I don't *think* he's a player, but in reality I don't know what's going on. I'm not putting my life on hold for this guy or anything, but I obviously still care about him.
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