ReadMyThread Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 (edited) WHAT THE F***!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY!!!!!!? So today I just woke up (yeah I just woke up, I sleep alot lol). My phone was dead and I plugged it in to charge. Once it was enough to turn on I turned it on and got some facebook notification texts. That was all. Then I was sitting here on my laptop and then bam. I get a text from a number I have never seen before, saying, "Hey David.". I responded right away (I'm always on my phone) with, "Uahhhh hey lol. Who is this?". She texted right back with, "Kate...". I didn't respond and she texted again after like 4 minutes and said, "I knew you weren't going to text back that's fine. I just wanted to see how your doing.." Guys I need help. I want to talk to her but I am scared she wants nothing more than to just see how I am doing but I want more. She has made it obvious that she has made a big mistake but I don't know if she wants me back or not. Maybe she is just feeling really guilty now and seeing how stupid she looks right now. I want her but I don't want her to tell me she doesn't want me . Edited October 30, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Cleaned up title
Jono85 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 WHAT THE F***!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY!!!!!!? So today I just woke up (yeah I just woke up, I sleep alot lol). My phone was dead and I plugged it in to charge. Once it was enough to turn on I turned it on and got some facebook notification texts. That was all. Then I was sitting here on my laptop and then bam. I get a text from a number I have never seen before, saying, "Hey David.". I responded right away (I'm always on my phone) with, "Uahhhh hey lol. Who is this?". She texted right back with, "Kate...". I didn't respond and she texted again after like 4 minutes and said, "I knew you weren't going to text back that's fine. I just wanted to see how your doing.." Guys I need help. I want to talk to her but I am scared she wants nothing more than to just see how I am doing but I want more. She has made it obvious that she has made a big mistake but I don't know if she wants me back or not. Maybe she is just feeling really guilty now and seeing how stupid she looks right now. I want her but I don't want her to tell me she doesn't want me . can u read minds?? if not, then why should u commit to anything other than "i made a mistake, and i want to try things again"...or "i'd like to talk about us" or something along those lines. she even TELLS you "i just wanted to see how you were doing". does this not answer ur question?? she feels sorry for u. and guilty. don't try to make something of nothing.
puzzled1 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Uhhh david, its me kate. I just feel guilty while I was with the other guy so wanted to make sure you are okay. Do you still love me? because I sure don't, I just don't want to be hated by you because I need you to do all the things you did for me while I go out with this other guy because he is much better looking and smarter than you, also much better at sex than you. But if you can pick me up something to eat, I'd appreciate it. Think about that and see if you want anything to do with her! 1
Author ReadMyThread Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 Uhhh david, its me kate. I just feel guilty while I was with the other guy so wanted to make sure you are okay. Do you still love me? because I sure don't, I just don't want to be hated by you because I need you to do all the things you did for me while I go out with this other guy because he is much better looking and smarter than you, also much better at sex than you. But if you can pick me up something to eat, I'd appreciate it. Think about that and see if you want anything to do with her! Well she did leave that other guy. And tried to message me yesterday too. She has made it obvious she has made a mistake she just won't say it to me.
Tree_Salmon Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Well she did leave that other guy. And tried to message me yesterday too. She has made it obvious she has made a mistake she just won't say it to me. So you'll allow yourself to be a backup? Sad. She needs her comfort zone. Don't give it to her. Be short with her if you are going to talk to her. Act as if you don't care, because you really shouldn't. Get your balls back.
Sameold Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Dude she has ****ed up big time and now she feels terrible that you hate her. The guilt is setting in! Just be short here, maybe even make reference to the odd nature of her text. She be pretty non-plussed about her contacting you like she doesn't matter. I'd probably reply to her first text but then just leave it. If she really wants you back then she needs to show you just how much she wants it. However, also be warned that now you do seem like a back-up option, what about next time someone comes along? I think this is dead mate, its hard but the damage is sometimes done. At the very least go NC and let her prove just how much she really wants you back.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Well she did leave that other guy. And tried to message me yesterday too. She has made it obvious she has made a mistake she just won't say it to me. Don't assume this. This is a rookie mistake. Unless she tells you this, you are just setting yourself up for a massive letdown if you work under this assumption. Until she's begging for you back, just assume she's using you as emotional support.
Author ReadMyThread Posted October 31, 2012 Author Posted October 31, 2012 Don't assume this. This is a rookie mistake. Unless she tells you this, you are just setting yourself up for a massive letdown if you work under this assumption. Until she's begging for you back, just assume she's using you as emotional support. Once again, just what I needed to hear! Thanks my ni**a Simon! Lol.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Once again, just what I needed to hear! Thanks my ni**a Simon! Lol. No prob. Just stay in control, let her come to you. If she really thinks she made a mistake and wants you back, she'll say it.
cmoney Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Not responding is good. Or u cld try the direct approach and say something like"Why are you contacting me? You wanted me gone, i'm gone."
KatZee Posted November 1, 2012 Posted November 1, 2012 Not responding is good. Or u cld try the direct approach and say something like"Why are you contacting me? You wanted me gone, i'm gone." This is the WORST thing to do. That whole response reeks of emotional manipulation and spite. OP please do not do something like this. IGNORE.
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