tipsyleprachauns Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Why would an ex text you having seen you in the morning to say 'How are you? Why no hello eh?' When you reply entirely indifferently 12 hours later to say. 'I'm fine thanks, just really busy. You?' They proceed to continue ignoring your existence. All of this after slagging you off to mutual friends a month ago and saying it's been real nice not to have seen me in so long. I don't think I'll ever understand this. It all seems so... pointless?! It's not like I gave her anything from that.
mammasita Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Why did you even reply? I would have let it go.
River Rain Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Don't try to understand texting behaviour, it's a relatively new psychological phenomenon where people create unrealistic expectations of instantaneous connection. It's an illusion. It's also a tool to hurt or control when used by bitter ex's. Just my opinion. 1
Jamesblame Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 True Story: Ex calls and we talk on Saturday. We're on friendly terms now, both dating people and getting on with life. She says she'll call me Sunday. Doesn't. Come Wednesday she sends me a text saying that I never get in touch with her and that she misses me. Sometimes your ex does random things. And needless to be said, this ex just sends things like that when she wants something. Guaranteed every time she calls she needs something/had a bad day. So glad to not have to deal with it!
PYTpisces Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I agree with River Rain... its an instant ego fix for an ex who cant stand the though of your world not revolving around them anymore!
River Rain Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I agree with River Rain... its an instant ego fix for an ex who cant stand the though of your world not revolving around them anymore! Well said! I actually have banned texting from my rekindled relationship with the ex. That anxious feeling, wondering why he didn't reply, wondering what he meant...all that garbage is not even a consideration anymore since we speak in person now for every communication. 1
spaniard Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 Heheh. I know it isn't a contest, but I'm quite sure I (or my ex) wins this one. For the record: I play football. I had a serious knee injury in August, 2011. I couldn't play until April, 2012. We broke up in July, 2012. I never showed to her, but inside I collapsed like a pack of cards, so I decided to withdraw into NC and rebuild myself and my self-esteem. In September, after two months of no contact, out of the blue she wrote me on Facebook (I had deleted her just after the break-up). 'My mom and I are curious how your knee is.' I needed to re-read it a few times to actually believe what I saw. I replied something in a few words (mistake) and that's all. She never replied. So my friend, exes are a special part of our human race that are way harder to understand than us, dumpees. We do things because we are in love, overwhelmed with emotions -- they do things because of God knows what.
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