rn0408 Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I am currently in an accelerated nursing program. I make study guides with a girl and as always act like a complete gentlemen to her. She is in our study group and with location its perfect for us to make study guides and prepare for exams. Before we all went out as a group, my study group (all girls) told me they were going to try to hook me up with a girl. I told them I am not looking for anyone and am more focused on my career change and school. Overtime, the girl I studied with I caught on a few things. I told her (her knowing I'm not looking for anything and we are friends/study partners) that we should go get sushi together and have a relaxing week. I noticed a few things and the way she acted and I told her I have gay friends and lesiban friends and it's ok and that I wont think of her different. She was really shocked and was happy I respected her and liked her as a friend despite her preferences. Later on, people in the class noticed she started getting real jealous when I talked to other female classmates. Everyone thinks she has a high interest rate in me. Throught the nursing program, I have been opening up to her as a friend and giving her a ton of positive reinforcement (commenting on how she looks fantastic, good style dressing, telling her shes smart and such a good person, giving her attention and calming her down when shes upset). I am bad at leading girls on granted, but with her being a lesbian, why not give positive reinforcement regardless...then this happened She called me last night and asked me about previous relationships and girls. I showed her pics of the past girls I dated and then she told me she has dated guys before. She told me she really liked this one guy and she would of married him. She also said she can't be without somebody after a breakup. I am worried she is falling for me..and I attract clingers and psychos, and I also have dated some very secure and normal girls..Id say 90% are normal and secure. (I don't date them, they come after me even when I tell them to back off). I think she is still thinking about her sexuality and my positive reinforcement is attracting her. I think she is insecure with herself and she has to have somebody to feel needed and wanted. My question to you guys is this... Is she falling for me?
sweetkiwi Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 its not love. Its her needing you. You already know she's insecure. You already know you're leading her on. Why are you posting this question?
whichwayisup Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 She is way too emotionally attached to you, that's for sure. Time to slowly distance yourself from her. When someone can't be alone between relationships and acts like she does, that neediness and intense jealously IS a huge red flag. Fact that you attract some pyscho's too - Double that big red flag.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I did a lezzer once and she came like a firecracker. But her nature was her nature and nothing else happened--even though I wanted her as a f-buddy. If she's a lesbian, you could lose sight of that and have some heart ache from it eventually. I know I can't be number two--especially behind a women (no offense ladies). It's just an ego thing I can't think away and if I love someone I can't be their booty call. (However, if neither fall in love, it can work for some recreation).
Author rn0408 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 My main question is that I should of stated...has a lesbian ever come after you and fall for you? People who are nutjobs it doesn't matter if you tell them you aren't looking or if you insult them to their face..they keep chasing. I'm still going to study with her, that's her problem if shes after me or not and I'm not looking. She is very hot, but I'm not dealing with a rose with many thorns.
Author rn0408 Posted October 30, 2012 Author Posted October 30, 2012 I did a lezzer once and she came like a firecracker. But her nature was her nature and nothing else happened--even though I wanted her as a f-buddy. If she's a lesbian, you could lose sight of that and have some heart ache from it eventually. I know I can't be number two--especially behind a women (no offense ladies). It's just an ego thing I can't think away and if I love someone I can't be their booty call. (However, if neither fall in love, it can work for some recreation). I don't believe in friends with benefits (psycho women), or one night stands.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 31, 2012 Posted October 31, 2012 I don't believe in friends with benefits (psycho women), or one night stands. Me niether but it was a brief period of aject recklessness on my part where alost anything went.
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