tigressA Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I don't like being approached in public, so I make an effort to look distracted. My default method for this is to have my Kindle out. I read on it while I'm out walking anywhere. If that isn't possible I'll call a friend or pretend to text or even fake a conversation on my phone. If I wanted to be approached, I would make myself appear accessible. I don't bother with just looking sloppy because that never works.
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I was thinking about approaching this woman at a grocery store. She seemed little upset. I admit I didn't approach her because I was nervous. I saw her leaving with a pregnancy test :lmao: She was worried about getting pregnant at the moment and another guy shows up offering his dick on a platter. I wonder what if I approached her?? The thing is you never know what relationship they are in, if they are in a good mood, what kind of guys they like etc. you have to find out. I see a lot of guys making f-ing excuses. 'you know girls come to buy groceries. they don't want to get hit on. so that's why I choose not to hit on them. Oh, don't get me wrong, I am a confident guy' Every guys are shy when it comes to cold approach. But why lie instead of being honest??? They should just admit that they are f-ing scared to approach. Yes because I will never expect a guy to know that I buy "Tampons"... are you surveying 15 year olds again? Only time when I wll find it creepy if a guy approaches me and I am buying condoms, that should be a sign enough to leave me alone.
Jamesblame Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I was hearing some women's opinions about being approached in public. One had stated that she does not like being approached, for instance at a grocery store. (The most common place to meet women out in public, usually.) Apparently, she doesn't like the idea of a guy seeing what she's buying (be it feminine products usually, toothbrush etc), she said there's just some kind of creepy factor about it, and apparently it's an invasion of privacy if a guy is trying to make small talk with her, while a box of "Tampons" sitting there in her cart. Plus, she's not looking "nice" at a grocery store appearance wise. That being said, I think with women, there is a lack of preparedness on their part. That when they are at a certain place, when making purchases.....that she's not 100% prepared for a man to approach her, and would rather be approached at a venue that a man SHOULD approach her. Ie a Nightclub, house party put on by friends, etc Ideas? Comments? Not every woman is single or looking for a relationship, nor do they necessarily want to flirt. See someone you like? Smile, if they're receptive talk. Otherwise leave her alone and stop judging her. I think its' pretty obvious when some people aren't looking to flirt. I know I sometimes go to the store dressed nicely, other times I look like a hobo. Can you guess when I'm more likely to be looking to flirt? Of course. I could just be coming home from work, or have a date later.
SmileFace Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 I was thinking about approaching this woman at a grocery store. She seemed little upset. I admit I didn't approach her because I was nervous. I saw her leaving with a pregnancy test :lmao: She was worried about getting pregnant at the moment and another guy shows up offering his dick on a platter. I wonder what if I approached her?? The thing is you never know what relationship they are in, if they are in a good mood, what kind of guys they like etc. you have to find out. I see a lot of guys making f-ing excuses. 'you know girls come to buy groceries. they don't want to get hit on. so that's why I choose not to hit on them. Oh, don't get me wrong, I am a confident guy' Every guys are shy when it comes to cold approach. But why lie instead of being honest??? They should just admit that they are f-ing scared to approach. Oh yeah a pregnancy test is a next one, or if she is in the ointment aisle and picking up something for yeast infections or something. Guy : "Oh hey I used that before" Girl : "Vagisal?" lol Something that is sensitve may be a good reason to shy away -- tampons, the only reason you should avoid that since she may be on the rag and may bite you head off or something. I am not going to B.s guys and say approaching is easy because I will not do it myself. ****, I will do everything besides that so it does take a lot of balls but if you keep trying you may find a winner. 1
verhrzn Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Yeah I've always looked at that look as 1.) She has a boyfriend so she feels no need to dress up or 2.) She doesn't want to be approached. Either way, I don't approach girls dressed like that. Or maybe that's just how she dresses. I mean, I don't go out in sweats (mainly because I don't feel comfortable in them), but I certainly don't dress up when going freaking grocery shopping.... I wear whatever it is I'm usually wearing, which are 99% of the time jeans, some boots, and some sort of blouse. I'm pretty sure that's "dumpy" to most of you posters, but that's my style. Maybe the girl just feels comfy in sweats. Jeez with the judging.
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 come on. it's just a common sense. I wouldn't mind approaching her when she is buying her clothes. 'would you buy this shirt? I am looking for something for my lil sister' But I would stay away from her if she is in lingerie section. Oh yeah a pregnancy test is a next one, or if she is in the ointment aisle and picking up something for yeast infections or something. Guy : "Oh hey I used that before" Girl : "Vagisal?" lol Something that is sensitve may be a good reason to shy away -- tampons, the only reason you should avoid that since she may be on the rag and may bite you head off or something. I am not going to B.s guys and say approaching is easy because I will not do it myself. ****, I will do everything besides that so it does take a lot of balls but if you keep trying you may find a winner.
SmileFace Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 come on. it's just a common sense. I wouldn't mind approaching her when she is buying her clothes. 'would you buy this shirt? I am looking for something for my lil sister' But I would stay away from her if she is in lingerie section. Yet, this thread was started. 2
yongyong Posted October 30, 2012 Posted October 30, 2012 Personally I don't agree with this. Of course, I would get disgusted if she is walking around with cammies, shorts and flip flops on friday night at a bar (I see a lot) but it's a grocery store. I would rather talk to a natural looking 7 girl (who would be 8 with makeup and nice dress) than a 7 looking girl who will go back to 5 once she removes makeup and her clothes. Yeah I've always looked at that look as 1.) She has a boyfriend so she feels no need to dress up or 2.) She doesn't want to be approached. Either way, I don't approach girls dressed like that.
Author irc333 Posted November 2, 2012 Author Posted November 2, 2012 I don't like being approached in public, so I make an effort to look distracted. My default method for this is to have my Kindle out. I read on it while I'm out walking anywhere. If that isn't possible I'll call a friend or pretend to text or even fake a conversation on my phone. If I wanted to be approached, I would make myself appear accessible. I don't bother with just looking sloppy because that never works. So, how is it you even get dates? Anyhow, it wouldn't work, I'd probably see you reading, and ask "Hey, so how is that new Kindle, I've been thinking of buying one....what kind of features does it have?" Or something to that affect....sorry, wouldn't work. I just base it on if I continue my conversation based on how "short" she is with me. I recall one time, last year during the holidays..... I was waiting in line for the barista to make me some coffee, and the woman next to me was ordering some flavor coffee I didn't try before, and i asked her, " Oh, what's that flavor like, I never had that choice before" SHe kind of looked at me with dead eyes, and said, "It's good." and then she looked back up at the menu on the wall (even though she already ordered)....and I said, "Oh okay, so you doing your CHristmas shopping?" And she says, "Yes" and continues to look forward and not engage me in any eye contact. That's when I knew to leave her be, I thought "Snob"...and just in the nick of time , the Barista gave me my coffee. I wound up having a better conversation with it. lol
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